NURSES! NURSES! Stop eating your young!!!

Hairstylingnurse · Oct 13, 2005

We are one of the biggest voices in healthcare but yet we cannot all be together on one accord and this is a very sad situation. I have witness and been a victim in this sad charade throughout my 5yrs as an LPN. I have seen nurses leave this field simply because of the treatment they receive from their fellow nurses despite the drama of everyday life from physicians, family, patients, etc...I am once again in nursing school RN/BSN and I am praying that a change will be reached in our profession. Please feel free to share your experience....

Hi Ms. Lisa Well I for one hear you loud & clear. I feel like the phrase eat their young is pretty appropriate. Never the less, no matter how you word it, it is sooo elementary. I have seen it and experienced it as well. I'm not a mousy little lady. I'm very opinionated and have no problem defending myself (probably a little more than I should). The point remains nurses eating their young (or bullying one of their own) is ridiculous. We aren't competeing for one anothers jobs. We are working together doing the same job. How can people that go into a feild that require you to have a nurturing, caring, & compassionate personality (not saying that all nurses possess these qualities:rotfl: ) readily attack someone that they have so much in common with? I've also been a hairdresser and at times found it to be less cut throat (and trust me that is a cut throat business.

) But don't get me wrong I've worked with and met many more good nurses than I have bitter. ones.

Hairstylingnurse · Oct 13, 2005

trying to be good, so......
just how many calories are in a new nurse? alot of carbs? or is it mainly protein?
need to lose a few pounds!

:rotfl: :roll :roll :rotfl: :chuckle :chuckle :rotfl:

GrnHonu99, RN · Oct 13, 2005

trying to be good, so......
just how many calories are in a new nurse? alot of carbs? or is it mainly protein?
need to lose a few pounds!

mmm...id prob be very high calorie...lots of fat...lol....seriously, i haven't felt the threat of being eaten...most of the nurses I have met have been great:) I think it's partially the attitude you approach the situation with too....be like a duck and just let things roll off your back.

TypicalFish · Oct 14, 2005

I have had a much different experience; I have just finished my orientation in ICU; I have had great preceptors and great support. Some nurses have been friendlier than others, but not everyone is outgoing and friendly. Some nurses welcome you immediately, others, well you have to earn their trust and respect; that's okay, that's a challenge that I want to meet and match. My experience has been very hard and challenging, but my peers have supported me. I think that most people who ETY (I won't use the phrase) are maybe just cranky people in their everyday life. And finally, I try to remember what I tell my kids; It's not about how someone else acts, and what kind of person they are; it's how YOU act and what kind of person YOU are. If they want to be a jerk, let them, ignore them and just do your best.

button2cute · Oct 14, 2005

Hello, All

I have to say if we all work together as nurses, we could accomplish a lot of things within our profession and stand together as a strong organization.

I believe this profession is very competative. I am not sure why it is and it is. There are nurses who believe to have a role of writing everyone up; there are nurses who believe they have to report every little thing from blowing your nose to stepping on a patient's toothbrush. It is outragous and I laugh my butt off. It is so silly that I use to write down the topics of the write ups in my note book. I would love to publish it.

If those nurses would take their energy and work with the team ....it would be a great time and a wonderful learning experiences for all.

I realize at every job there are people who are naturally (emm trying to put it in nice words) "big bothers/sisers" for the adminstrators. I believe they all should be place on the same unit and let them devour each other.

I believe in team work and that was never stressed in nursing school. It has always been stressed individuals and individuals. I believe that every nurse in the united states should take an outward bound course or a course that stress team work for two weeks every year. Those who fail at it shall repeat the course in six months. Then a refresher course can be given at the hospital during recertification for cpr & acls, ceus and mandatory in services.

Then we can begin the teamwork together and be able to get alone.

We need to understand that our jobs are to help the patients and our coworkers. It is not about "I", "I" and "I", it is about us because we all feel from the situation together no matter what. It is time to change and to practice the concept team work.

We all do not have to be buddies or friends....just coworkers. We do not have to kiss anyone's butt. Just be an effective and stronger team player. Everyone will notice that the team is strong and will not take crap from anyone. The team will have problems, they will resolve them, they will work together, they will enjoy their team and able to work together and the atomsphere will be positive as well as learning together.

What do you think?

Oh, I do not think anyone want to eat me because I bite back. :)

Buttons

Tweety, BSN, RN · Oct 14, 2005

I can't say I've seen people leave nursing becuase of nurses eating their young. I'm also fortunate to work in a fun environment. But I do hear a lot of gossip, but franklly where I work it's the CNA's that eat each other up, that voice the loudest job complaints, complain about the nurses, and are sometimes difficult to work with. I'm not slamming CNA's but I've been having trouble with them lately.

But I know there are bullies and eating of young because people come to this website talking about it, and it makes me sad.

sbic56, BSN, RN · Oct 14, 2005

I don't know as nurse bullies pick on the young nurses any more then they irritate the old nurses. New nurses are most vulnerable and sensitive and understandably so. I agree these nurse types should be shown the door as they are poison to the work environment and aren't worth the trouble, even if the are "good" nurses. Good for what?

prmenrs, RN · Oct 14, 2005

Hmmm. Where's the OP???

jodyangel, RN · Oct 15, 2005

Closing your eyes to something doesnt make it disapear tho does it?

jodyangel, RN · Oct 15, 2005

I don't get it. Why is this a taboo subject?

Like I said before..to fix a problem you have to discuss it. AND this is a huge problem in nursing.

Hmmm. Where's the OP???

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Oct 15, 2005

It's not a taboo subject, it's just very tiresome, because it runs rampant on here. Like i said before, i have yet to go a day, for a LONG time and NOT see that phrase on here. What does "oh nurses eat their young" REALLY help with???? NOTHING!

It is used as an excuse for bad bahavior. The bad behavior needs fixed, the first step would be to nix the phrase.

allnurses Guide · Oct 15, 2005

It's not a taboo subject, it's just very tiresome, because it runs rampant on here. Like i said before, i have yet to go a day, for a LONG time and NOT see that phrase on here. What does "oh nurses eat their young" REALLY help with???? NOTHING!
It is used as an excuse for bad bahavior. The bad behavior needs fixed, the first step would be to nix the phrase.

Exactly! This is just bad behavior and it happens in every profession.

That is why we need to get rid of NURSES eating their young.

It is individual people who are doing this and as I said it happens everywhere. So, drop the nurses part and talk about your individual experience and stop generalizing about NURSES.

NURSES do not eat their young. Some individual people who happen to be nurses (and secretaries, firefighters, computer techs, engineers, sales clerks, etc.) are mean or tired or don't like to teach newbies or stressed or just rude.

steph