I need some encouragement please

[TazziRN]

I'm having a negative moment. My recruiter (who also does the background checks for prospective employers) has gotten back three of the seven reference requests she sent out. So far they've been glowing. I know there's no reason to think I might not get this job but all of a sudden I'm really nervous. If I don't get it there is nothing else in this area I'm qualified for, because they all ask for advanced degrees or prior experience, and although there is an ER opening in the next county, I really don't want to go back to the ER if I can help it.

Somebody slap some sense into me, please!

[texas_lvn]

Agree with what.......the love taps or the karma?

Both. LOL Karma is going to be good to you. You have been a great nurse, an excellent mentor, and so much more. Where a door closes, a huge window opens. {{{{{{{{{TAZZI}}}}}}}}}

[crissrn27, RN]

It will be OK...........you are gonna get this one........I just know it!!!

[TazziRN, RN]

I want this job badly but I just hope it's everything I remember. I know that I will have mostly elderly clients instead of the peds I love, but there are some kids that are cared for by the agency.

[bethin]

Tazzi, I don't recall you ever doubting yourself so why are you doing it now??? Yeah, you had some problems but life is full of second chances (and sometimes third).

You were not fired from your previous position because of dependency so I don't think they are worried about that. Try this: put a rubber band around your wrist and everytime you have a self doubting or negative moment give it a snap. I tried it and it works.

Don't know about others, but when I apply for a new job I'm on pins and needles wondering about references. I always get glowing reports but it's kinda like going to pay for an item in a store with a CC you know has no balance, paid on time but yet you worry if it is going to be denied.

[TazziRN, RN]

I think I'm nervous because I don't know who will be believed, me or my last job. Each tells a story that, in its base, is the same, but otherwise are opposite each other. My husband and union rep and even my recruiter have told me that the positive references would actually cause doubt in the hospital's version, and that's the part I'm having trouble remembering.

[purple1953reading]

19 years of committment speaks for itself. Lots of nurses are set up by the sytem. Sometimes the better a nurse you are, the more chances somebody will try to sabotage you. IF it feels right, GO FOR IT, I am sure you gave the best people possible for references.Bet they come through for you. I would love to travel, but family committments keep me home too. GOOD LUCK

[MrChicagoRN, RN]

I think I'm nervous because I don't know who will be believed, me or my last job. Each tells a story that, in its base, is the same, but otherwise are opposite each other. My husband and union rep and even my recruiter have told me that the positive references would actually cause doubt in the hospital's version, and that's the part I'm having trouble remembering.

To avoid potential lawsuits, former employers will generally offer very little information on past employees.

Dates of employment, jobtitle, salary, reason for seperation (voluntary, terminated, corporate restructuring, etc) without details.

[gentle]

To avoid potential lawsuits, former employers will generally offer very little information on past employees.

Dates of employment, jobtitle, salary, reason for seperation (voluntary, terminated, corporate restructuring, etc) without details.

Hi Tazzi,

I think MrChicago is correct. I do recall my hubby saying something about this as well. The last I heard, our hospital requires that all questions regarding previous employees be filtered through human resources.

I hope this helps. Best of wishes, Tazzi. Please keep us posted on the outcome.

[TazziRN, RN]

My application packet for VNA (the second agency I applied with ) included consents for me to sign, giving past employers permission to discuss my work history. Some of the questions: did I terminate or resign? If I terminated, why? Eligible for rehire? Skill level? Work ethics? All stuff that you're not supposed to ask anymore but the signed consent says they can. I'm not thrilled about that, but if I didn't sign it, then my application would not have even been considered.

[grammyr]

You know that slap was with all the love and respect I could muster. Your former employer really did a number on your head and you can't let them win. There are a lot of us on here pulling for you and know you are an excellent nurse. When you do get the call to start this new career you can always call up the old place (in your thoughts) and say:

BITE ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Ms Kylee]

Tazzi, Now you're starting to sound like me. I got the can at my last job (not a nursing position) because (you'll love this) I didn't "call off" on Good Friday. Never mind that I was given permission in advance to take the day off. My unemployment was denied, and I'm fighting it.

Meanwhile, I start classes for a nursing assistant on June 6, and I'm scared to death that I can't do this and I'm going to screw this up too.

You will be fine, I know it. From the posts of yours I've read, you've got your act together. Please don't let the lack of references discourage you. They could just be busy. I'm still trying to get my act together after the holiday... and it's 2 days later. I'll say some prayers for you.

[TazziRN, RN]

Thanks, everyone.