Do I let her know about my brother?? - page 4

Recently I was in the surgeon's office as a follow up for hernia surgery. The nurse who works in the office doesn't really know me--or that I am a nurse. As she was taking my BP/temp, her friend... Read More

  1. by   TrudyRN
    Yes, do speak up. Nicely, privately, and individually, in an educational way. Say whatever you think will help them each personally understand. If they are not responsive and repentant, time to involve their boss.

    They violated privacy, they showed ignorance and/or stupidity/insensitivity.

    They ignored YOU, the present patient.

    Address all of these issues.

    I once had a doc's assistant make fun of my loved one who, admittedly, is mentally ill. Nevertheless, I let her no that she was joking about my sick loved one. She was totally remorseful, probably scared for her job. It was all pretty hurtful and made me mad. I spoke up because I thought she should know not to do it in the future. Or to do it out of my hearing, at the very least.
  2. by   TazziRN
    Quote from Miss Mab
    And certainly, Miss Tazzi, I have a sneaking suspicion that you very easily recognized my Martyr mistake for what it was. Kinda like lookin' in the old mirror, eh?
    Huh??? I had no idea what a Marty Mary was and wanted to know. I've never even heard the term Martyr Mary but at least that one I can figure out.

    Why are you so acidic, Mab? Geez.......
  3. by   moongirl
    Quote from TazziRN
    Huh??? I had no idea what a Marty Mary was and wanted to know. I've never even heard the term Martyr Mary but at least that one I can figure out.

    Why are you so acidic, Mab? Geez.......
    and.. why would Tazzi look in the mirror and see a martyr???:uhoh21:
  4. by   Lisa CCU RN
    Those two women's comments were heartless as well as unprofessional.

    I'm sorry you had to hear that crap.

    Some people are either just idiots or don't know any better. I would have told them to can it right then and there, but that's just me.
  5. by   Multicollinearity
    Actually, the most common psychological response to a shocking incident is to freeze. The more shocking - the more likely you are to not say anything at the time. It's only later that we can think of a million things to say in hindsight.
  6. by   haras regnurps
    Quote from traumaRUs
    I too think that you should mention it. My life too has been profoundly affected by a child with mental illness. I am so sorry you were hurt by this.

    I will be very honest here and say that my son has truly humbled me. I used to think it was only "those" families (fill in the blank with broken, poor, careless,etc) that had mental illness involvement. However, it is not a cool dz with neat little ribbons, tons of money being donated, nothing. The mentally ill are those that we see alongside the road in our towns who are homeless, disheveled, talking to themselves, weaving all over the sidewalk. However, we must always be aware that these are someone's dear and very precious family member. Please don't be so quick to judge!

    (I'm sorry for the rant!)
    don't be sorry. if more nurses understood mental health/illness our jobs might be a little easier. mental illness has touched my family too.:uhoh21:

    to the nurse in the drs office....................................
    even tho the 2 nurses (?) in your surgeons office didn't have a HIPPA violation, they came darn close. too close and should be glad that the surgeon and office manager did not overhear the comment.:angryfire

    The next time you go back, assuming that there will be another visit.
    give them both a little thank-you note for giving you a patients eye view of this problem and let it be known how it made you feel at the time. used to have a co-worker tell me you kill more flys with sugar than you do with vinegar, it is true, besides it makes the flys crazy