ADON having sex with CNA

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If you knew the ADON at a LTC facility was having a sexual relationship with one of the CNA's, are you obligated to report it?

Based on the info you have given us, it is best to leave it alone. It seems their personal life does not affect their professional life.

We DONT know if the ADON and CNA were already in a relationship. Continue your daily routine and take note if the ADON and CNA are NOT upholding their job.

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Specializes in EMS, LTC, Sub-acute Rehab.

If the alleged relationship makes you feel uncomfortable, seek employment elsewhere. Especially if it's detracting from your ability to provide the highest quality of patient care possible. You'll be surprised how much more you can actually get done when don't have worry about coworkers' drama. Your patients will thank you.

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Specializes in OB-Gyn/Primary Care/Ambulatory Leadership.
Plus, it negates any authority the LPN's have when this particular CNA refuses to do tasks as asked. I am all about minding my own business, but this relationship is affecting resident care, and it is also bothering my conscience.

Re: the bolded - THAT is what you should address. Insubordination should be brought up the chain of command. And if the ADON won't do anything about it (for WHATEVER reason), go above his/her head to the DON.

OP, how do you know these two people are in a sexual relationship?

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Lots of relationships start in the workplace. The way you word and talk about this, it's like you have this giant secret that could destroy the world. Lol. I have this "knowledge" and could I get into trouble for not reporting it?

It's two people having sex. It's not like you found Hillary's classified emails. But I guess I'm a small town this gossip can be just as damaging.

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Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.
OP, how do you know these two people are in a sexual relationship?

I think that is a critical question...and, no, not just because we want salacious details. If it is just rumor/hearsay, you absolutely have to stay out it.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Home Health.
Lots of relationships start in the workplace. The way you word and talk about this, it's like you have this giant secret that could destroy the world. Lol. I have this "knowledge" and could I get into trouble for not reporting it?

It's two people having sex. It's not like you found Hillary's classified emails. But I guess I'm a small town this gossip can be just as damaging.

It's a boss having sex with a subordinate, also known as a sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen. The phrase "never get your honey where you get your money" exists for a reason.

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The update to this situation is that apparently it's been common knowledge and has been going on for a while now. Neither party seem to worry about keeping it secret, and the administration obviously doesn't mind. This sort of things is why I feel that I should seek employment elsewhere. I do not want to be a party to a facility that does not put resident care and wellbeing as their primary focus. Thank you all for your input.

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Specializes in retired LTC.

I didn't know that anyone really asked.

I don't understand - how is resident care and their well being affected? Was substandard care being provided? Had there been any episodes of injury or neglect?

And unless there was obvious, blatant favoritism that you found unacceptable, it's MYOB or look elsewhere for other employment.

But just to tell you, inter-staff relationships are much more common than you might think. Most are discreet, but NOT always. And where those are that AREN'T discreet, everybody usually knows!

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I didn't know that anyone really asked.

I don't understand - how is resident care and their well being affected? Was substandard care being provided? Had there been any episodes of injury or neglect?

And unless there was obvious, blatant favoritism that you found unacceptable, it's MYOB or look elsewhere for other employment.

But just to tell you, inter-staff relationships are much more common than you might think. Most are discreet, but NOT always. And where those are that AREN'T discreet, everybody usually knows!

I'm wondering too. Besides them being together, is there any issue with their work?

My fiancé was a CNA that worked under me when I was a supervisor. I've since moved on from that job. But both of us were professionals and did our job. I didn't do favors for him and he never asked for any. If both parties are adults and can do the job they were hired to, than who cares? Now that being said I've seen relationships that have gone sour and its been bad at the workplace. They were actually peers that dated each other/or sleep together and as a supervisor I had to find a way to maintain peace. Fun!!

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Specializes in retired LTC.

I have seen sooooo many types of on-going affairs at places that I worked you'd need a scorecard to keep track. Dept heads with CNAs, nurses with therapists, front office staff with housekeeping, nurses with nurses (incl some agency), dietary with nurses, nurses with dept heads, the whole gamut.

MYOB.

And some places are rife with relatives. You learn to MYOB lest you say something about someone who turns out to be someone's Mom, sister or brother.

You can't tell going by last names!

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It's a boss having sex with a subordinate, also known as a sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen. The phrase "never get your honey where you get your money" exists for a reason.

Well when it turns sour, yeah. But that's still between the boss and the subordinate, still none of the OP's business.

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If you knew the ADON at a LTC facility was having a sexual relationship with one of the CNA's, are you obligated to report it?

Why? Is this your crush or something and you feel like stirring the pot? No, you are not obligated to report it because it's none of your business.

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