First time posters

opalbee · Jan 18, 2018

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Oh my gosh, I snorted at "ask the pilot for a red baron pizza"! :roflmao:

caliotter3 · Jan 18, 2018

I think there should be a well-advertised week where all threads which have been deleted in the past are made available in a special section so we can 'binge' to our heart's content. There are a lot of notable doozies from notable characters, many who became 'former' members. The entertainment value: priceless. I am so tired of always coming upon a thread after all the juicy posts have just been eliminated.

AceOfHearts<3 · Jan 18, 2018

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Or how about give them directions to the closest IHOP? Haha, has anyone else seen that commercial?

SmilingBluEyes · Jan 18, 2018

Can you expand on what you mean by that?

Like in the political area; people already have their minds made up and are just looking to be heard, but never to listen. They think they are right and nothing anyone else can say will sway them ----(even though they come to US asking "advice")---- they are set on slamming anyone who gets in the way of them getting what they want when they come here. Some of them are so immature it amazes me they think they can just walk into an advanced practice role, just like that (funny to me actually)----- and don't want to hear anyone disagree. Then they "would never want me to be their nurse" (one of my FAVORITE LINES). OOOOOH my peewings are so hurt. Not.

I have seen way too many newbie posters show up here, stir up the poop, get mad, have tantrums, and then take their marbles and go home.

I guess that's what I mean. They have their mind made up and they don't give a rat's butt what we have to say UNLESS it supports their world/point of view. So I get annoyed with them even bothering to ask "advice". Their inability to see any other point of view makes what we say pointless unless they are happy with how we say it. PHOOEY.

Is that more clear?

Davey Do · Jan 18, 2018

Totally off topic so sorry about this. I'd love to see a "Best of AN" section to revisit some of those great threads. You are right saying that when the new poster has a good sense of humor all sorts of fun can be had.

I need to respectfully disagree, kbrn, I believe you're right on topic.

Likes are a method to indicate a favorite post and can go as far as to be a "Best Of" in a majority rules sort of way. However, and again with all due respect to AN.com and its administrators, the Best Of is chosen by a very few.

Case in Point: In a recent caption contest, an entry of NurseCard's had the most Likes. This would seemingly indicate that the members found NurseCard's entry the most humourous. Surprisingly, NurseCard's entry didn't even make it into the finals to be considered.

Now, the entries which made it into the finals are voted upon and a majority rules wins, but it all seems kind of lopsided.

But hey- who am I to say? This is a successful, popular, productive website and I'm pleased and proud to be a part of it. I just don't understand some actions, that's all.

Edit: Wow. I guess you were off topic, kbrn. I thought I was posting on klone's "Are you discerning with your likes?" thread, took a break, came back, finished posting and saw I was on "First time posters" thread.

Oh well.

Farawyn · Jan 18, 2018

I think there should be a well-advertised week where all threads which have been deleted in the past are made available in a special section so we can 'binge' to our heart's content. There are a lot of notable doozies from notable characters, many who became 'former' members. The entertainment value: priceless. I am so tired of always coming upon a thread after all the juicy posts have just been eliminated.

The best thread for all posters, seasoned or inexperienced, was ixchel's "What have you learned this week..?" Yes. We veered off topic...but often came back on. Newbs and COBs got along swimmingly.

It was a great place for first time posters.

AceOfHearts<3 · Jan 18, 2018

The best thread for all posters, seasoned or inexperienced, was ixchel's "What have you learned this week..?" Yes. We veered off topic...but often came back on. Newbs and COBs got along swimmingly.
It was a great place for first time posters.

LOVE this!! Totally spot on and I really miss that thread.

klone, MSN, RN · Jan 18, 2018

I think there should be a well-advertised week where all threads which have been deleted in the past are made available in a special section so we can 'binge' to our heart's content. There are a lot of notable doozies from notable characters, many who became 'former' members. The entertainment value: priceless. I am so tired of always coming upon a thread after all the juicy posts have just been eliminated.

I would actually pay real American dollars for such an event.

AutumnApple · Jan 18, 2018

I think that some first time posters may really really want a question answered, but truly only want a response that proves that they are right, or were unjustly treated, etc. Sometimes I think it is hard to an originally poster to hear another side to the story, and once they realize that they may have been incorrect, or people don't side with them, they need to defend their side even more. I think it is hard with on-line communities because all of us come from both similar and very different areas, countries, and backgrounds.

Reminds me of something the person orienting to my current unit (psych) told me: "You have to feel your way with some of them. Not everyone is here to get better or to solve *their* problems. Many are here to explain to us everything that is wrong with everyone else. Hence, they're frequent fliers. Don't push the "therapeutic" envelope with someone like this, it'll just end in defensiveness."

I feel that way about ALL posters, not just first timers. If I get the impression they're fishing for agreement, I can't be bothered.

Ruby Vee, BSN · Jan 18, 2018

I'm pretty sure this topic has been brought up before, but why does it seem like so many first time posters get nasty when they don't hear what they want?
If they don't hear what they want they start calling you names and saying you are being mean.
If you point out they are violating TOS by having "nurse" in their username (and they are not a nurse) they get defensive and make it seem like we are being unreasonable.
Is the solution to just not respond to first time posters who obviously have no idea what nursing actually entails? The posters that seem to want the stars AND the moon... but if we did that then we'd probably get lashback for not responding. Are we just darned if we do and darned if we don't?

If you don't respond, they're unlikely to call you out personally to tell you how mean you are, that you must be a bully and that you're a popular topic of conversation on the student forums for your general lack of empathy, sympathy, goodwill and intelligence. They aren't going to tell you that they would NEVER want their mother in your care because they can tell from your post that you're a horrible nurse. They won't stalk you on the forum for months, picking apart every post you make and telling you that it's added evidence that you're a horrible nurse and horrible person.

If you DO respond, you've put in some time, thought and effort to type out a response that you think will answer the question and/or be of help to the poster. And then you're likely to feel somewhat put out that after all of that effort, they call you out for being a mean, stupid bully and a horrible nurse.

I answer the posts because I figure even if the original poster doesn't get it, is unappreciative or is nasty, someone ELSE who had the same question may derive benefit from the answer. We will never know how many people we've helped by answering some of these clueless first posters, but I'm guessing there's at least one or two for every one of those threads.

Ruby Vee, BSN · Jan 18, 2018

Some of this may be selection bias: you click on posts with subjects that sound interesting and maybe those posts are more likely to be inflammatory in nature.
Or it's NETY.

I'll agree with selection bias. I try not to miss a NETY thread.

Ruby Vee, BSN · Jan 18, 2018

I agree with you. I think a lot of these are snowflakes who are just now encountering some harsh realities. They come to AN as the last bastion of fluffiness and they are not yet used to disappointment.

I am amazed at how many of these snowflakes are outraged that they got actual answers to their questions instead of virtual hugs and rainbows blown up their skirts. "But this is a SUPPORT GROUP," they whine.

No it isn't. It's a place where you can get your questions answered. But if you're way out of line, we'll tell you that, too. I could have profited greatly by having someone tell me when I was out of line back in my fledgling period.