Final grade disappointment... why can't I let it go???

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Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

Last i checked, 'empathetic' and 'honest' doesn't mean rude.

I understand the need to give different views, but it just seems like people were more harsh than they needed to be.

I thought so, myself.

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This is what is getting to me. If we are only empathetic to people we view as having it "bad" or "worse" than how far do we go with it?

Anyone with an A- will not get any understanding by the people with B's or lower.

If you are getting a B, it doesn't matter how disappointed you are that you lost that A, just be thankful it wasn't a C, because there are people who just barely scraped by with one even though they tried just as hard.

And you people with C's, quit your whining because at least you are still in the program!

Didn't make the cut? Hey, what a silly thing to worry about! My mother/child/ husband, etc. is in Iraq and I am worried sick as to whether I will ever see her/him again.

Iraq? At least you have some hope. We just buried my loved one...

There is always someone who can tell you that you don't have it so bad. That your feelings are silly when you put it into perspective. It all means the same to me... it minimizes a person's feelings, which is something a good nurse will not do.

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This is what is getting to me. If we are only empathetic to people we view as having it "bad" or "worse" than how far do we go with it?

Anyone with an A- will not get any understanding by the people with B's or lower.

If you are getting a B, it doesn't matter how disappointed you are that you lost that A, just be thankful it wasn't a C, because there are people who just barely scraped by with one even though they tried just as hard.

And you people with C's, quit your whining because at least you are still in the program!

Didn't make the cut? Hey, what a silly thing to worry about! My mother/child/ husband, etc. is in Iraq and I am worried sick as to whether I will ever see her/him again.

Iraq? At least you have some hope. We just buried my loved one...

There is always someone who can tell you that you don't have it so bad. That your feelings are silly when you put it into perspective. It all means the same to me... it minimizes a person's feelings, which is something a good nurse will not do.

good point. the way you put things up here helped me to understand what you're saying better and yet agree with the other side better too...

i remember one time we had just moved into a new house and with the down payment etc.. we were extremely strapped for cash. we had a pipe break under the house and it ran us $1000 in damage. at one point i remember just sitting down on the front steps and bawling my eyes out. it was a reaction to the stress i'd been under for months to close this deal, the stress i was under at work to deliver on a complex project i was in charge of, and the stress of this new plumbing problem with our new house that we just could not afford. the next thing i knew an older neighbor i'd barely had the chance to meet a few days before sat down with me and asked me what was wrong. i poured the whole sorry story out. she sympathized with me and helped me brain storm some solutions. right before she left she put her arm around me and squeezed and said, "you know the thing about problems... no matter what it is, there's always someone who would be thrilled to be able to trade theirs in for yours." as she said it she kind of nodded her head towards a house across the street from me. i instantly got it. i had met the mom the day we moved in and knew that she had been diagnosed with breast cancer several months before. my neighbor was smiling very kindly at me and i smiled back and said thank you and i really meant it.

funny, how you just reminded me of that. i guess my neighbor saw both sides. no matter what a person's problem is, it's a problem for that person and needs to be treated with respect and thoughtfulness and kindness. and then, as one person keeps pointing out here... the kind thing to do is also to help that person put their problem in perspective. i can't tell you how much better i was able to deal with my stressful job and my broken pipe and my new $1000 credit card balance after being reminded that if a person has to have problems (and who doesn't) i'd been gifted a good one in the grand scheme of things.

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I was kinda lost there but no I would never compalin to a family member of a US soldier about my C grade, or go into extremes asking empathy from them. lol. That was a funny thought though. You are going way out there, I was merely stating what I felt. If that was minimizing her feelings then I dont know how else to make you understand my point. When youre way out there in the skies, its very hard to pull you back down to what the real issue is.

If I have to say that I will agree with you, ok you are right. I cant take the outrageous (but funny!) comments anymore. I love it when you say "its not what nurses do". Im not trying to be a nurse in this forum. Heck if I did I would charge for my services! Wouldnt that be odd if everything you do is based on what a nurse would do?

If I wanted to be rude I would have said so much more. Like I said I was merely stating what I felt about the post.

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Up until last semester, I had all A's (except Pharm). This last semester, I got 2 C's. Now that really stinks. Not going into the long story, but I was extremly depressed and felt like $*@!.:o

I have always pushed to do the best I could do. Anything less than an A really bothered me.

I read a number of those "Things to know before nursing school" books before I started. Most of them talked about "lowering your standards." I didn't buy it then, and I still don't. But $*@! does happen.

My favorite instructor told me that an occasional "low grade" makes you look more human. It also gives you something to talk about during interviews. Its not how low you fall, but how high you bounce back !

Being the oldest in my class, I have to run twice as fast just to keep up, much less stay ahead. Next semester, "I'll be back !" to quote Arnold.

Good luck next semester and remember.... when you're up at 2 am, there is someone else up burning the midnight oil.

Happy Holidays

Bob

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mariedoreen, what a moving story! Sounds like you had a wonderful old neighbor. She was able to listen and comfort you and gently help you put things into perspective. We all need friends like that! :)

good point. the way you put things up here helped me to understand what you're saying better and yet agree with the other side better too...

i remember one time we had just moved into a new house and with the down payment etc.. we were extremely strapped for cash. we had a pipe break under the house and it ran us $1000 in damage. at one point i remember just sitting down on the front steps and bawling my eyes out. it was a reaction to the stress i'd been under for months to close this deal, the stress i was under at work to deliver on a complex project i was in charge of, and the stress of this new plumbing problem with our new house that we just could not afford. the next thing i knew an older neighbor i'd barely had the chance to meet a few days before sat down with me and asked me what was wrong. i poured the whole sorry story out. she sympathized with me and helped me brain storm some solutions. right before she left she put her arm around me and squeezed and said, "you know the thing about problems... no matter what it is, there's always someone who would be thrilled to be able to trade theirs in for yours." as she said it she kind of nodded her head towards a house across the street from me. i instantly got it. i had met the mom the day we moved in and knew that she had been diagnosed with breast cancer several months before. my neighbor was smiling very kindly at me and i smiled back and said thank you and i really meant it.

funny, how you just reminded me of that. i guess my neighbor saw both sides. no matter what a person's problem is, it's a problem for that person and needs to be treated with respect and thoughtfulness and kindness. and then, as one person keeps pointing out here... the kind thing to do is also to help that person put their problem in perspective. i can't tell you how much better i was able to deal with my stressful job and my broken pipe and my new $1000 credit card balance after being reminded that if a person has to have problems (and who doesn't) i'd been gifted a good one in the grand scheme of things.

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Up until last semester, I had all A's (except Pharm). This last semester, I got 2 C's. Now that really stinks. Not going into the long story, but I was extremly depressed and felt like $*@!.:o

I have always pushed to do the best I could do. Anything less than an A really bothered me.

I read a number of those "Things to know before nursing school" books before I started. Most of them talked about "lowering your standards." I didn't buy it then, and I still don't. But $*@! does happen.

My favorite instructor told me that an occasional "low grade" makes you look more human. It also gives you something to talk about during interviews. Its not how low you fall, but how high you bounce back !

Being the oldest in my class, I have to run twice as fast just to keep up, much less stay ahead. Next semester, "I'll be back !" to quote Arnold.

Good luck next semester and remember.... when you're up at 2 am, there is someone else up burning the midnight oil.

Happy Holidays

Bob

You hit the nail on the head! We too were told that we would not make A's in nursing school no matter how many A's we made in the pre reqs. I said well just watch and see. I hear so many saying well, I'll just be happy to pass, but I don't think that is the attitude to go in with, I say give it your best and then give it some more. After all we are there to LEARN no?

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C=RN

Do you really think an employer is going to ask you what your GPA was? Or, how many "C"s you got in college? If you pass the boards, YOU ARE AN RN-that's what REALLY matters.

This is hard work folks-lets keep it in perspective. Personal expectations aside, passing is passing.:specs:

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Although I am going to a small community college and the cost is very reasonable, I am trying to get every "Nickle's worth" out of the program. Its still Christmas and everybody's down but me. I'm sitting here reading ahead on Central Lines and such. Have gotten most of those dreaded "Critical Thinking" papers done for next semester. Pre-reading most of the material gives me a head-start so I can spend more time studying for the exams (and sometimes even family).

When I was chosen to be in this program, I felt a certain responsibility to those who gave me a chance. It may seem old fashion, but I really don't care. If grades didn't matter, then it would all be Pass/Fail.

Calling for SNOW in the morning,

:rolleyes:

Can't wait

Bob

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C=RN

Do you really think an employer is going to ask you what your GPA was? Or, how many "C"s you got in college? If you pass the boards, YOU ARE AN RN-that's what REALLY matters.

This is hard work folks-lets keep it in perspective. Personal expectations aside, passing is passing.:specs:

Merry Christmas to ya'

How are things on the mountain tonight ???

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C=RN

Do you really think an employer is going to ask you what your GPA was? Or, how many "C"s you got in college? If you pass the boards, YOU ARE AN RN-that's what REALLY matters.

This is hard work folks-lets keep it in perspective. Personal expectations aside, passing is passing.:specs:

And didn't you have a thread where you regretted that you didn't get all A's and regretted it? And later another thread where you found out you did get all A's and were so happy?

All I am saying is that we should do our best, I had people in my class who never opened a book and wondered why their grades were bad! Please!!

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It's cold up here! But we're doing well. Hope you have a happy holiday and all is well with you and your family!!

Merry Christmas to ya'

How are things on the mountain tonight ???

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