Final grade disappointment... why can't I let it go???

Truly_Blessed · Dec 24, 2004

Considering how hard nursing school is, I would say an A- is an outstanding grade! But when you miss your goal buy a few tenths of a point...man that's rough. Can't say I'm an A student, but I got booted out of nursing school for less than half a point. Not the same exact situation but I understand what the OP was saying. I know the OP has jumped ship on this one...but wanted to add my 2 cents.

aruray · Dec 24, 2004

Geez, did we have to go down the dictionary route? This is hilarious! But I would have to commend the effort of actually looking that up and typing, all for the glory of this forum!

By most student nursing population concern standards, her issues are quite small (IE, not a lot of ppl can relate to her, most of us would only aim to pass) I think that its great she has such high standards for herself. I believe that we all subject ourselves to the same standards even though most of us would be flipping all over the room with just a passing mark. But to make it such a big deal in the way she had stated it in her post, even calling it a "vent" later on, was I think a lil over the top. Im sorry that you think I was playing down her feelings, it wasnt my intention. I said the things that I did because I didnt think she realizes what she already has. I dont know why you had to lecture me on empathy and compassion. I do recognize when one is due of compassion and I would open my mouth and be honest when I think something needs to be straightened out. Unfortunately, this one needed some tough love.

And please stop bragging about your A's here. It doesnt make anybody feel good but yourself. No self glorifcation here pls. I know, its a whole other forum..

DDRN4me · Dec 24, 2004

Michelle, I certainly understand..i have to struggle to keep a good average and cum, and it IS IMPORTANT TO ME!!! my dh and dds dont always get it, but i work sooo hard, it is disappointing when i feel like i fail myself. however, i did learn after i graduated from the ADN program, no one else puts so much emphasis on it! enjoy your break, and move on to next semester! good luck!

No, Hypnotic Nurse, I do not need a counselor. I just found out my grade this morning and after busting my butt for 16 weeks with an A average, I was/ am very disappointed with myself for getting a 90 on my final and bring down my GPA with an A-.
I'm sorry I posted this message. I thought I could come here for support, I did not expect to get some of the replies I did...
Those of you who strive for the best in yourself, understand what I mean; whether your average is an A, B or C. I know I should have done better.
Yes, of course, there are more inportant things in life other than my final grade, but felt I could vent here to my fellow peers...

RainDreamer, BSN, RN · Dec 24, 2004

And why is it that ppl brag their grades here? Worse, complain about a good grade! Isnt it enough they announced it all over their school and they have to do it here as well?

Who said anyone here bragged around school and then came here bragging? Why assume that about anyone?

I dont see the purpose for it? How can they have the heart to announce their A's(or complain) when so many ppl in here are dying just to pass their classes? Dont mean to sound like a b!tch to you Michelle, but come on?!

And that's exactly what you do sound like.

RainDreamer, BSN, RN · Dec 24, 2004

What you might think of "this silly" might be a disappointing situation to someone else. No need to minimize how someone else is feeling.

Exactly!!

z's playa · Dec 24, 2004

Hello!!!! Once again.......the OP deleted her post...meaning she doesn't want our advice.....I feel before this gets ugly someone (moderator) should put this thread to bed.

mariedoreen · Dec 24, 2004

So you have to understand how a post like her's can come off as a lil silly, a lil childish and even be a lil arrogant.

Okay, I can see your point as well. This is a time when finals are finishing up and you have people posting in tears because they've been dropped from their programs... major, major disappointment. In a way, perhaps a post like this minimizes their feelings... It's kind of like walking into an oncologist's waiting room where you know there are people there with brain tumors and exclaiming loudly that you have a splitting tension headache and would like sympathy right away!

RainDreamer, BSN, RN · Dec 24, 2004

Why do ppl keep on insisting that I was minimizing her feelings. Thats how I felt about how she said she didnt like her grade. I stated my opinion straight to the point, plain and simple. How is that minimizing? I was just trying to be honest. There is a right time to be empathetic and a right time to be honest. How terrible is it to have an A-, in nursing school? ...seriously! I dont even know of anybody who had an A in RN school, do u? So you have to understand how a post like her's can come off as a lil silly, a lil childish and even be a lil arrogant.

Having an A isn't even the issue here. The issue is that she had 1 grade (an A) the entire semester and in the end she got a lower grade (an A-), no matter how much lower it is, it's still lower and she just feels disappointed right now.

I understand the need to give different views, but it just seems like people were more harsh than they needed to be. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all..... seems like some people here need to hear that again.

NewEnglandRN, RN · Dec 24, 2004

Actually, yes the OP (me!) did erase the original post, yet I continue to lurk to see your responses on my time verses the via emal notification. So I have appreciated and took into consideration many of the posts.

Please realize I did not come here for sympathy or to "brag." I was disappointed to work my hardest all semester and then have my grade drop by not being completely prepared for the final. Now that I have had a few days to reflect, I am with my grade because I know I did my best and tried my hardest. My class is highly competitive and that puts added pressure on us.

I feel terrible for the people who have had to drop out of their programs due to their grades and I have Pm'd them my support and encouragement.

Thank you all for your opinions, support and advice. The great thing about this board it that everyone is entitled to their own personal opinions :)

Many warm wishes for a happy holiday! :Snowman1:

lil' girl, LPN · Dec 24, 2004

Michelle I can certainly get where you are coming from. I was worried the whole semester that I wouldn't get an A, but I had the A grades and still worried my self crazy. Everyone in class thought I was crazy too because most of them were just happy to pass. And ya know for them that may be just fine, but I want that A even if I have to kill myself studying to get it.

I am sorry you didn't get much support here, just know that I understand how you feel and wish you good luck.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Dec 24, 2004

Why do ppl keep on insisting that I was minimizing her feelings. Thats how I felt about how she said she didnt like her grade. I stated my opinion straight to the point, plain and simple. How is that minimizing? I was just trying to be honest. There is a right time to be empathetic and a right time to be honest. How terrible is it to have an A-, in nursing school? ...seriously! I dont even know of anybody who had an A in RN school, do u? So you have to understand how a post like her's can come off as a lil silly, a lil childish and even be a lil arrogant.

I made A's in RN school. Several of us did. :)

You are allowed to any opinion you choose.

I was only addressing your desire to "....helping her put things into perspective" and that perhaps you weren't going about it in the best way.

Feel free to call her silly, childish, and arrogant, but don't think that is necessarily going to keep thing in perspective. It might, but then again, it might make her feel worse.

Sorry, if we're beginning to sound like a lynch mob, because I do understand what you're saying. Feeling like a failure for making an A- is indeed over the top, but I feel it's best to allow her those feelings, acknowledge them, and go from there. :rotfl:

Tweety, BSN, RN · Dec 24, 2004

And please stop bragging about your A's here. It doesnt make anybody feel good but yourself. No self glorifcation here pls. I know, its a whole other forum..

Your request is noted. You certainly are allowed to request we don't brag about our A's here.

But I can't comply. I guarantee if I work my butt off and make an A, I'm coming here and sharing my joy, and getting some pats on the back, with the express purpose of self-glorification and not making anyone else but myself feel good.

Just warning you! :rotfl:

But, I'm not going to kill myself for As and will be happy with what I get. :)