My brother just got hired at a hospital ER 3 weeks ago. HEs already experienced so he will be in orientation for weeks.
I applied to the same hospital ER. I Just graduated, no experience, basically not expecting to get hired. But I got called and going to be interviewed soon for their graduate nurse residency program ER.
So we're gonna be on the same floor.
Is It OK? Legal? Or Whatever?
Should I quit before I fall in too deep?
Stop now or my brother throws a tantrum? His tantrums are on a whole nother level. Or some kinda conflict of whatever, happens.
I kinda want to go on cause this is a great opportunity. But, this family member issue is really too crazy bothering me.
My interview is going to be an hour from now as I'm posting this actually. What should I say to the interviewer regarding the situation? It's not me who has the problem but he's making such a big fuss that I'm feeling discouraged.
I could really use the experience as an ER nurse. I'd really to love to become an ER nurse.
I was surprised that most posters didn't have a problem with family working together.
I do when it involves same shift, same job, same unit..
Where I work, if you have trouble with one family member, you have trouble with the rest too.
Of course everybody denies it, but it's there. Even if it's simply a matter of you can't talk about a problem in front of x and y, because it involves their brother z. Or x, y, and z trade days to optimize each of their schedules, including who has to leave on low census.
Two always has an advantage over one.
I work where there are few rules concerning family working together. We have almost every configuration imaginable.
I personally prefer not to work a shift with sisters, mother/daughter, man and wife. But that's just me.
I definitely wouldn't want to work with the two brothers in the OP, if the drama described is accurate. That's from the "outside" perspective.
I I think it should be, "Can two people with a dysfunctional relationship with likely work place acting out work on the same unit? And could it ruin my career?"
I agree. Stop thinking of this person as your brother.
Could you work with someone you hate, and who hates you back?
I'm fresh out of school. It's my first time looking for a job and an opportunity to work in a career field that I love, but then I'm faced with this kind of conundrum. I honestly don't know what I'd do.
What should I say to the interviewer regarding the situation?
NOTHING. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
None of this ridiculous drama belongs in the workplace. If you bring it up, then you're the one who brought it up. Let him be the unprofessional, whiny saboteur. If they ask you, say something like I am a professional and keep my private life out of work. Period.
It depends on the facility's policy--some will allow relatives to work the same unit; others will not. Almost always they will ensure that you're both not in the same chain of command (e.g., one of you is not the other's supervisor/manager), so if you haven't disclosed the relationship to them--and facilities usually ask about this on the application form--you should do so.
As far as your brother throwing hissy fits over your possibly working there...IMO, do what you think is best for YOU. If you do get the job and this is what you feel is best, he and the rest of your family are going to have to learn to deal with it.
If my brother and I worked together it would be the same issue. I would be able to remain professional, but he would act like a complete tool, and would make things very uncomfortable. I wouldn't let it stop my career though. I would say your brother's problem is just that. Maybe you can work a different shift? Good luck regardless. Sounds like it could be a great job for you.
Why on Earth would it be an illegal move? Do you REALLY think that the hospital would put themselves into a situation that smacks of an illegal act? Sounds as though your brother has some issues, don't make them yours!
I work in ED and my department does not allow relatives to work together. My preceptor married another nurse on the unit and now she has to get a new job. She is moving to another ED within the hospital system.
I honestly thought he was gonna be supportive cause employment means moving up but he just turned crazy cause I'll be going into the same unit he's in.
I know and I care about my own professionalism. I am definitely able to set aside personal family issues aside and focus on my professionalism during work.
It is he who has a big problem about it. I don't know why too. He's been more anxious.
I don't have any issues but if I go on, he might go crazy. But the opportunity is just too great to pass on.
He is 30 years old. Very able to care for himself. If he chooses to not work, that is his issue. That has not one thing to do with you and your choices.
His anxiety, again, is not your issue.
If your parents are involving themselves in this mess, then let them deal with their child. You need to do what you need to for your own success.
You are just starting your career. You need to lay a good foundation. Should your adult brother start throwing tantrums, it is reflective of him. Not you. Do not engage, and do what you need to. With many new grads not being able to find a job, this is an amazing opportunity.
Perhaps your brother needs to take all his "experience" and move on, as it is most troubling to him that the ER ain't big enough for the both of you.
I agree with the pp's, is your brother's problem, not yours. If asked, just say you plan to be professional at all times, and not think of him as family but a coworker you will be working with.
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My interview is going to be an hour from now as I'm posting this actually. What should I say to the interviewer regarding the situation? It's not me who has the problem but he's making such a big fuss that I'm feeling discouraged.
I could really use the experience as an ER nurse. I'd really to love to become an ER nurse.