My brother just got hired at a hospital ER 3 weeks ago. HEs already experienced so he will be in orientation for weeks.
I applied to the same hospital ER. I Just graduated, no experience, basically not expecting to get hired. But I got called and going to be interviewed soon for their graduate nurse residency program ER.
So we're gonna be on the same floor.
Is It OK? Legal? Or Whatever?
Should I quit before I fall in too deep?
Stop now or my brother throws a tantrum? His tantrums are on a whole nother level. Or some kinda conflict of whatever, happens.
I kinda want to go on cause this is a great opportunity. But, this family member issue is really too crazy bothering me.
Being able and willing to work with your brother is between you, yourself, and possibly your brother. As far as the hospital is concerned, they should have no issue as there is no conflict of interest unless one takes authority over the other.
Sounds like big brother has some growing up to do. If you get the position...and that is a big if since an interview isn't by any means a guarantee of a job offer, don't let his negative attitude affect your choices. If he wants to quit if you get the job, let him.
I did well in the interview and the only opening is the night shift. The same shift as my brother. I asked for some time to think about it. But I probably don't have enough.
I haven't accepted the job yet. So, I don't know ...
If offered, take the job. But only if you KNOW you can be mature and ignore whatever your brother dishes up. No matter how big a hissy fit he throws, you have to utterly ignore it. Remain professional, do not engage with any shenanigans. If he quits, great. Problem solved. But if he doesn't quit, and starts acting like an idiot at work, let him get in trouble.
However, if you can't keep cool and let his crap roll off your back, the risk to your career isn't worth it.
And under no circumstances should you allow him to be your preceptor. I can't imagine that would be allowed, but most places wouldn't let you work the same shift and unit as your brother, either, so.... But if they try to assign him to you, you have to tell the charge that it's a conflict of interest and not appropriate. It would be impossible for him to evaluate you objectively.
If you take the position do not, under any circumstances, speak badly about your brother. If he truly is a big drama queen, the staff will figure that out soon enough and you do not want to get caught up in that.
But who knows, maybe he will take on a whole different persona at work and treat you very well in public.
If you have self scheduling, try to get on opposite weekends and work on his days off to minimize any friction between the two of you.
I just called the supervisor and accepted the job. This ER experience is too good to pass up. I'm planning to move away after I've got enough experience maybe 6months or so.
You guys are right. I'm gonna keep it professional and I'm gonna stay away from him. And I won't take him as a preceptor ever.
It's really bothering me also that I've talked to his coworkers and they told me that he's sweet and nice. They have nothing bad to say.
But he has displaced anger and he's rude to me and other members of the family. So it's true that he has a different persona when he's in public.
Im just gonna ride it out until I can move to another city with the ER experience.
I would be sure that you have at least a year of ER experience. And I would also get as many certifications as you can (ACLS, PALS, NALS, CCRN--whatever they are offering, take them up on it).
And STOP talking to coworkers about your brother. That is not professional behavior. His displaced anger is not their business, nor would I make it yours. If he wants to take his 3 year career and throw it down the drain due to his inability/unwillingness to act like a 30 year old experienced ER RN, then that is on him.
There seems to be a LOT of family dynamics going on here. The most professional thing you could do is not make these issues into the gossip of the day/week/month...
So, what really happened, the call i made went straight to voicemail, the HR and the supervisor just ignore me. they never answer. they pick up, i dont hear any sound, just buttons pressed. they wont talk to me at all.
basically, i hate them. its their loss.
I lost the er oportunity but ill take it as a blessing in disguise at least im not gonna be working with my brother.
Im now going back to the struggle of a new graduate looking for a job. T_T
Wait.....you said you accepted the job. If they made an offer and you accepted, I don't understand why they won't talk to you.
I thought they were gonna take it, but they're not communicating with me. I don't understand either. But I'm not gonna stress myself with them. I'll just apply to other places.
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Being able and willing to work with your brother is between you, yourself, and possibly your brother. As far as the hospital is concerned, they should have no issue as there is no conflict of interest unless one takes authority over the other.