My sister has cancer, she's 40 years old with two elementary school kids and a single mother. she is not likely to survive, though we might get ten years of ups and downs if we get lucky.
I can't talk to any friends because of her legal issues with the ex. I've mentioned my need for time off to the boss and filled her in, with the surgery date. Unfortunately my head is likely to blow off before we even start this roller coaster, I'm a bit stressed. I'm upset at home and cranky at work.
My sister and I have a rocky relationship at the very best of times. Dad called me about her illness. I emailed her with sympathy and offers of help, got a short thank you and then I asked her if she would like me to get her a freezer for Christmas, so we could fill it, and she wouldn't have to worry about meals. No answer.
I guess we all know this, but it's so different when it's your own family. HUGE difference.