a family friend comitted suicide- noone knows why

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Recently, a friend of my parents & family friend, threw himself off an overpass into oncoming traffic. His wife and family, as well as family friends are devastated. Noone can find the appropriate words to comfort his widow. Noone knows why he did it. He was retired and in good physical health. He owned a couple of properties and enjoyed traveling. We can't make sense of it all. I can't imagine how hard his children & grandchildren are taking this. His wife is a nurse and a very strong person, but this is too much for anyone to grasp. :crying2:

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how sad :crying2: to think he felt so hopeless, and yet couldn't reach out for help. evidently, from your post, he didn't leave any note for his family. they'll probably always feel guilty, which is a shame as well. what a tragic situation :o

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:eek: :confused:

How awful!!!! What else do you say when you hear something like that?

I'm so sad for the family. The pain of the family must be tremendous. I'll pray for all involved. :crying2:

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angela, how does one respond???

how unthinkably tragic.

i am so very sorry for all involved.....

leslie

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

There really isn't a good response at all. Must be awful for everyone.

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How very sad. I think the only thing that anyone can say is "I'm so sorry". Sometimes there is no comfort available, but there can always be support.

I would imagine his family could use a big dose of that right now.

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I am so sorry, I would like to suggest a support group, SOLOS (Survivors of Loved Ones Lost), it is on the net. Most of the members have lost someone to suicide. Just be supportive, it's important to talk with friends and family and allow them to talk about the suicide without being judgemental. After the shock comes the anger. This family will hurt for a long time, and always wonder why. At first you will wonder, what did I do, what could I have done, why didn't I see, this is normal, hopefully these feelings of guilt will subside and they will realize that their loved one (not them) is responsible for his own choices and actions. I will keep this family and friends in my prayers.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

AngelaMac - so very sorry - words just elude me.

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Thank you all for your kind words. I am trying to help my folks cope with the loss of their friend, and know in my heart, that time will make things more bearable.

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Specializes in Neurology, Neurosurgerical & Trauma ICU.

:crying2: I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

I wish that words could take away all the pain, but they can't. So, in the mean time, just know that we're here to listen.

I'll keep you and your family and friends in my thoughts and prayers.

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I am so sorry to read this. What a tragic loss. My heart goes out to you and the family/friends of this tortured soul.

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I am terribly sorry and everyone involved will be in my prayers!

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