a family friend comitted suicide- noone knows why

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Recently, a friend of my parents & family friend, threw himself off an overpass into oncoming traffic. His wife and family, as well as family friends are devastated. Noone can find the appropriate words to comfort his widow. Noone knows why he did it. He was retired and in good physical health. He owned a couple of properties and enjoyed traveling. We can't make sense of it all. I can't imagine how hard his children & grandchildren are taking this. His wife is a nurse and a very strong person, but this is too much for anyone to grasp. :crying2:

What a devastating loss. I will keep your parent's and the family in my thoughts and prayers... for peace and strength as they will need this so much.

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I lost a cousin to suicide 2 1/2 years ago - I remember very vividly the feelings I had when I was told. It was devastating, my heart felt like it literally sunk into my stomach. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. There are no simple answers as to why. I have worked in mental health for several years now and I never got hung up on the why's when my cousin passed. To me, I understood it as he was desperate and unable to cope anymore. The rest of my family still ask why to this day. Although I could reason why he did it, for months I was bothered by the violence of his act. I kept replaying it in my head - at times it saddened me and later angered me. I can look back at it now and see that in my own unique way I was processing my grief.

My aunt, the mother of my cousin, told me the other day she has accepted his death but life will never be the same. It is important to her that we speak openly about him - not avoid subjects or pretend it never happened. My other cousin, his sister, though refuses to speak about him. I encourage you and your family to feel out the situation and follow the wishes of the family. My deepest sympathies again. God Bless.

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Obviously the guy was in a lot of internal pain, but jeez -- how selfish! His wife and children will NEVER get over this, no matter how much therapy or support they get. It's tragic all the way around.

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Obviously the guy was in a lot of internal pain, but jeez -- how selfish! His wife and children will NEVER get over this, no matter how much therapy or support they get. It's tragic all the way around.

Selfish also because he could have caused a lot more deaths by people swerving to avoid him!!!!!

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Thank you all for your kind words. I am trying to help my folks cope with the loss of their friend, and know in my heart, that time will make things more bearable.

One of my very best friends (friends since nursing school) attempted suicide a year ago...she almost succeeded. After much Much therapy (all kinds) she is doing better-but will never work as a bedside nurse in the NICU again.

I've also had trouble dealing with this, but realize that it wasn't really my friend who did this. Apparently that hadn't been her first try, and she never asked for help. There were suttle signals, and I did ask her one time about that situation too.

This leads me to tell you about a good source for help. There is a site called "Grief Net" and it is wonderful. You can look for help through articles, and even chat on line with others who have had simular situations. Please try it.

Time does bring peace & understanding, and I wish you this peace. Take Care.

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How horrible! My thoughts and prayers go out to this poor guy's family and friends. Have lived with a similar situation and life is never the same -- the grief can be dealt with, people go on, but the questions and the emptiness last -- a long time! If they are open to getting help (which many are not willing to do at first) a support group is a great idea or a pastor or counselor.... someone to help them deal with the grief, the guilt and readjusting.

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How horrible! My thoughts and prayers go out to this poor guy's family and friends. Have lived with a similar situation and life is never the same -- the grief can be dealt with, people go on, but the questions and the emptiness last -- a long time! If they are open to getting help (which many are not willing to do at first) a support group is a great idea or a pastor or counselor.... someone to help them deal with the grief, the guilt and readjusting.

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I am truly sorry for your loss.You know that we are not our own,Mom's, Dad's,

brother's, sister's belong to God. He lends them to us to care for as babies and for the rest of their lives.Don't look for answers,just pray for one another.

read Numbers 6:24/25/26 God bless.nrsdug :crying2:

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