Ever had an ex-boyfriend, or someone you didn't like as a patient?

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Hello Everyone!

I'm a pre-nursing student. Here's my question. Have any of you ever had an ex-boyfriend, or someone you didn't like, as a patient? If so, how did you handle this? Or what if that patient ( who knows you) didn't want you to be their nurse? What would be the proper way to handle this situation in the most professional manner? I'm just curious. I would really love to read what you have to say and get some advice. Thank you!

Specializes in Med-Surg.

I'm not a nurse just yet, still working as a tech, but I have still taken care of patients who I knew more personally. One was my close friends uncle. I didn't even know he was in the hospital, let alone on my floor. I walked out of the room next to his, saw his sister (my friends mom) in the hall outside his room with the rest of the family, allllll of whom I knew. Anyways, when he was readmitted to the hospital several months later for a reversal surgery, he not only requested to be on my floor, but specifically asked for me as his tech. I had no problem with this, and the nurses were very grateful. Apparently he gave the nurses a hard time and was a bit of a pain in the butt, but he would listen to whatever I told him!! I'm in a town where, although its not small, everyone still knows everyone. I have never felt uncomfortable taking care of someone I know, but if the situation came up I would not hesitate to ask someone else to take that patient.

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho.

I usually dont advertise the fact that i may know someone if i do. I have been away from where i grew up long enough most of them dont recognize me. Very occasionally i will tell them who i am. As far as taking care of someone i dont like i probly wouldnt, i would ask to be reassigned. We have occasionally flipped a room or two for that reason although we dont change whole teams because of one patient.

There are a couple people however i would love to just give 1 IM before i changed patients LOL, know what i mean????

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Specializes in ICU of all kinds, CVICU, Cath Lab, ER..

Here is my story: Two days after 9-ll, I had to care for a "rule out myocardial infarction" .... here are the details: he had shipped his family back to Saudi Arabia two days BEFORE 9-ll. I had to turn the bed towards MECCA five times a day (shifts shared this requirement) - I had to set him up to wash prior to the bed turning. He was taking flying lessons at the local aeronautical college (where some of the bad guys who pulled off 9-11 had trained). He ruled out for an MI and left the area. He had at least 8 male visitors of the Saudi persuasion at the evening meal - they all laughed and talked it up until some one from staff walked into the room.....

What do you think??

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Specializes in Government.

I realize this isn't the same but in my community health RN role I had to take my next door neighbor's driver's license away. She appealed and I'm the hearing officer (an RN role) for the whole state. There is no back up. I had to go on the record with our situation and continue with the appeals hearing. I did discuss it with her and her adult son. It was awkward but there wasn't an alternative.

Sometimes in small towns or rural states, you'll end up in a position where you know the patient and there just isn't anyone else. If there is an alternative, use it. If not, you do your best in a professional manner.

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I was prepping for clinical and flipping through the chart of a patient I was assigned to the next day (I'm a student, we have to do this heh). I had only looked at the room number to coordinate with the chart, not the patients name. After seeing her past history including some rather intimate details, I saw the name. It was the same name as my bfs ex gf, who I absolutely loathe and do not have a good history with.

I was mortified. I did not want to know intimate details about her life, I was afraid they would slip out or I would be tempted to tell my bf or someone else (This is something I am absolutely against, but I admit I would have been tempted). I was really, really upset. I went to put the chart back, call my instructor and ask to be reassigned when I saw that it was a totally different girl with the same name. I was very relieved!

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Specializes in Rehab, LTC, Peds, Hospice.
IMy favorite way of explaining to others how much I don't like a facility is to tell them, "I wouldn't send my ex husband there, and I don't like him."

:lol2: Very funny! Mind if I borrow that?

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When I was in high school, I refused to have sex with my boyfriend and he dumped me for the girl who did have sex with him.:madface: I was so heartbroken. Imagine my surprise many years later when "that girl" was admitted to the psych unit where I worked!!! I was so angry when I saw her again!!!! I "pretended" I didn't know who she was and I tried to act "professional" when I had to help her. ;)

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Specializes in ICU,ER.

One day in our ER, a male co-worker asked me to go straight cath the lady in Minor 2.

When I looked at her chart, I saw it was my boyfriend's Ex-wife!!

Ew.

Didn't EVEN want to go there!!:uhoh21:

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occasionally some of my less favorite clients from when I did home care as a student come back to haunt me. Fortunately they don't usually remember me (or I play dumb)

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Specializes in PeriOp, ICU, PICU, NICU.
Here is my story: Two days after 9-ll, I had to care for a "rule out myocardial infarction" .... here are the details: he had shipped his family back to Saudi Arabia two days BEFORE 9-ll. I had to turn the bed towards MECCA five times a day (shifts shared this requirement) - I had to set him up to wash prior to the bed turning. He was taking flying lessons at the local aeronautical college (where some of the bad guys who pulled off 9-11 had trained). He ruled out for an MI and left the area. He had at least 8 male visitors of the Saudi persuasion at the evening meal - they all laughed and talked it up until some one from staff walked into the room.....

What do you think??

speechless.....

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Several times over the years I have been assigned to care for family members and ex-inlaws. I attempted each and every time to request a switch but I was denied every time except for twice. Seems their medical problems were such that an experienced nurse was really required. I made the CN and HN come into the room and listen while a plan of action was set into place. Thank goodness no problems ever came up. I did chart this whole situation in the chart and was later told I was not clear in explaining the relationship between myself and these patients. What is so hard to understand about this is my aunt, my ex-SIL, my ex-FIL? I attempted to act in a professional, kind, and caring manner. Guess it worked, I still get some ex relatives assigned to me, and they refuse to take another nurse.

LOL. Stress is my middle name on those days.

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occasionally some of my less favorite clients from when I did home care as a student come back to haunt me. Fortunately they don't usually remember me (or I play dumb)

I once took a class at a hospitaal and saw the problem daughter of a former home care client. She was volunteering in the coffee shop where my friends and I were eating lunch. She kept trying to get my attention but I hated her so badly I pretended I didn't recognize her. Funny thing was, her mother was one of the sweetest people I knew.

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