Even the Stoic Have a Breaking Point

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by Rose_Queen Rose_Queen, BSN, MSN, RN (Admin)

Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development. Has 17 years experience.

Today was not a day I loved my job. In fact, in my years as a nurse, this is the first day where I cried openly, in front of my colleagues, and with those colleagues.

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vampiregirl, BSN, RN

Specializes in Hospice. Has 12 years experience. 1 Article; 790 Posts

Thinking of you and your co-workers Rose Queen.

Take care of yourself as you process through this event.

HoneyBadger85

HoneyBadger85

5 Posts

I am so sorry, Rose_Queen. Trying real hard to hold back the tears. Can't even begin to imagine what you are going through right now. Please take care of yourself!

((HUGS))

CBlover, BSN, RN

Specializes in ORTHO, PCU, ED. Has 8 years experience. 419 Posts

I am so so sorry. I don't think it could get more tragic. Hugs and prayers sent your way and to her family and baby.

...And for you drunk driver...I have a few choice words. God forbid you EVER forget what you did and it better hang over you FOREVER...I hope you're MISERY never ends.

Dusty Trail

Dusty Trail

26 Posts

Rose Queen: (,,,)BearHug(,,,)

My Heart is aching after reading your article. Thank You for writing it.

Try to find solace in that you all did your very best at the time.

My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you and the family.

xoemmylouox, ASN, RN

Has 13 years experience. 3,150 Posts

(Rose Queen) I am so sorry.. Those are the events that stick with us forever. I remember my first code was related to a combination of MD negligence, a non-compliant patient, and dangerous staffing. My code was no where nearly as heartbreaking (cold of me I know), but regardless I will never forget being the one holding that woman's hand as she died. God I had terrible nightmares from that. My employer offered little in terms of support, and I left shortly after that event - I just couldn't stay.

I'm glad at least your employer makes an attempt to assist with the trauma that is left. Take care of yourself.

Rose_Queen, BSN, MSN, RN

Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development. Has 17 years experience. 5 Articles; 11,128 Posts

My facility is really doing right by the staff involved. They are having not one but two debriefings, so that those who are off on one day don't have to come in on their day off. They also have one of the chaplains available for anyone who needs it- no matter what time it is. Baby boy is still fighting; management updated us this morning.

Nurse Leigh

Nurse Leigh

Specializes in Telemetry. 1,149 Posts

My facility is really doing right by the staff involved. They are having not one but two debriefings, so that those who are off on one day don't have to come in on their day off. They also have one of the chaplains available for anyone who needs it- no matter what time it is. Baby boy is still fighting; management updated us this morning.

Good to hear. And I'm glad to see that mgmt realizes the need to let you know the child's progress regardless of HIPAA issues - sometimes knowing you gave a child a fighting chance is more important (I understand the spirit of HIPAA but there sure are a lot of things to be desired)

Continue to take care of yourselves.

FurBabyMom, MSN, RN

Has 8 years experience. 1 Article; 814 Posts

Oh my goodness! I can't imagine. Well, I can. Your story is a there but for the grace of God go I moment. I was sent to scope out a trauma on arrival to the ED recently...luckily for me it was downgraded on arrival from level 1 to level 2 and the patient was seriously injured but stable considering.

I haven't forgotten my first OR death. Or for that matter, the second. They occurred the SAME week. I have about ten emergencies/traumas from last year that am I not sure that I have not fully moved past. Of those, I know the outcomes of about six: two died in the OR, two died hours or days later, and two are alive. Sometimes all I see when I try to go to sleep are flashbacks from those cases.

I've concluded that there is evil in the world, and things happen for no apparent reason sometimes. One of the surgeons I work with comments regularly about how this job is good for perspective, and he's absolutely right. *Most* things are not that serious after some of what we see. We all have problems, and while they MIGHT seem big, turns out they're not life and death big.

Hopefully your employer continues to treat you all well. Hopefully there is good news to be shared with you all when all is said and done for baby boy! Hopefully you've found what works for you to cope with this. It's just so hard some days. :(

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abbnurse

abbnurse

Has 30 years experience. 338 Posts

So sorry, Rose_Queen. I hope you're doing o.k., and hope the baby is improving. ((((hugs))))

There was an infamous road-rage/car crash case in my city. The victim, a young pregnant woman, was seriously injured, lost her baby, and subsequently underwent a hysterectomy. I will never forget her heartbroken husband......it was their first child. So senseless, so horrible. After all these years, I still think about the woman and her husband, and wonder how they are.

Take care of yourself!

Fancypants09

Fancypants09

117 Posts

I'm sorry this happened. Sending virtual ((HUGS)). I cried. Thank you for the updates, I hope that little tyke keeps getting better and better. My heart aches for that poor husband. We have EAP at my hospital, I've never used it (yet - new grad).

CBlover, BSN, RN

Specializes in ORTHO, PCU, ED. Has 8 years experience. 419 Posts

So sorry, Rose_Queen. I hope you're doing o.k., and hope the baby is improving. ((((hugs))))

There was an infamous road-rage/car crash case in my city. The victim, a young pregnant woman, was seriously injured, lost her baby, and subsequently underwent a hysterectomy. I will never forget her heartbroken husband......it was their first child. So senseless, so horrible. After all these years, I still think about the woman and her husband, and wonder how they are.

Take care of yourself!

I literally felt my heart sink when I read that. Wow. Counting my blessings again.

KThurmond

KThurmond

636 Posts

I'm sorry. I read this saying this is a horrible story. I feel bad for the family but mostly the little boy. If you need to don't be ashamed to take a therapy session.