Even the Stoic Have a Breaking Point

Today was not a day I loved my job. In fact, in my years as a nurse, this is the first day where I cried openly, in front of my colleagues, and with those colleagues. Nurses General Nursing Article

The day started out normally enough: come into work, get my assignment, and start preparing my OR. I didn't need to move in right away; while we normally move patients into the OR around 0700, my patient wouldn't be moving in until 0800. And so, when the trauma code was called overhead at 0654, I was called upon to scope out the trauma bay.

I headed down to the ER, expecting the usual car accident, stabbing, or shooting. Well, it was a car accident all right, but certainly not the usual. A young woman, on her way to work, struck head on by a drunk driver. Yes, before 7a.m. But the heartbreaking part was that this woman arrived with the CPR device compressing away, her obviously pregnant belly bouncing in sync with the compressions. The baby was in obvious distress, and there was no time for transfer to the OR or to wait for an OB to arrive from maternity, four floors away. The trauma surgeon did an emergency C-section, right there in the trauma bay. Suddenly, we had not one but two trauma patients. And both were coding.

Baby boy was intubated and gradually his color improved, although respiratory function, heart rate, and pulse ox remained well below norm. He was sent to a nearby children's hospital NICU, with many crossing their fingers and saying a prayer that he would make it.

We never did get mom back. We tried drugs, we tried external pacing, we tried every trick in the book. All without success. We did what we could to get her incision closed and cleaned up for family to see.

We all heard the husband/father arrive. The wails as he was told his wife didn't make it, the sobs as he was walked into the trauma bay and sank to his knees. Every single person in that trauma bay was crying right along with him, even those known as the crusty old battle-axes who have never openly shed a tear.

I've cried over patient situations and deaths before, but always privately and usually in my shower at home after a hard day at work. But this was a situation where I couldn't hold it together, and I was certainly not alone. This was one of those traumas that will likely haunt many involved for the years to come.

Many healthcare employees are involved in events in the workplace that can lead to traumatic stress brought about by strong emotional responses (Vaithiligam, Jain, & Davies, 2008). In light of these events, hospitals should provide support to involved employees. Many offer an Employee Assistance Program (EAP), but is an EAP always enough? Employees may be reluctant to contact the EAP if they fear their employer will find out they have sought mental health help.

My facility goes beyond the EAP and provides critical incident debriefings when deemed warranted or if staff request a debriefing. The most recent was after a sudden onslaught of more than a dozen heroin overdoses that led to poor survival rates and several becoming organ donors. I am sure there will be one to follow today's events.

Debriefing allows those involved in a traumatic event to process it, vent emotions, and address potential physical or emotion harm that may result from the experience (Davis, 2013; Vaithiligam, Jain, & Davies, 2008). A timely debriefing that occurs within 72 hours of the precipitating event can reduce short- and long-term crisis reactions and psychological trauma (Davis, 2013). Healthcare employees can greatly benefit from the option to attend a critical incident debriefing. Does your facility provide this crucial support?


References

Davis, J. A. (2013). Critical Incident Stress Debriefing From a Traumatic Event. Psychology Today. Retrieved from Critical Incident Stress Debriefing From a Traumatic Event | Psychology Today

Vaithiligam, N., Jain, S., & Davies, D. (2008). Helping the helpers: Debriefing following and adverse incident. The Obstetrician & Gynaecologist, 10, 251-256. doi: 10.1576/toag.10.4.251.27442

Specializes in Psych, HIV/AIDS.

Rose_Queen, my heart goes out to you, your co-workers, the bereaved husband, her Mom and the baby boy. Not to forget the Mom who died. (((((((HUGS))))) all around to you beautiful, unselfish caregivers who are in the trenches of man's inhumanities to man.

Staff debriefing sessions are of utmost importance. I worked psych for many years and in one hospital the unit's inpatient staff were very close...we always had what we called 'post-mortem' sessions after a heartbreaking situation. These debriefing sessions should not be farmed out to EAP. IMHO!

My facility does not, also a trauma center. After I said I could not do another case after doing an organ procurement on and 5 month old child abuse victim (with healed burns and fractures), I was asked what was wrong with me.

:x3: We sometimes seems to forget that nurses are social and emotioanl beings and sometimes crying is an appropriate way to respond to traumatic events in the workplace. Openly crying in the presence of our peers can also be therapeutic and mutually benefit others.
Specializes in ORTHO, PCU, ED.
My facility does not, also a trauma center. After I said I could not do another case after doing an organ procurement on and 5 month old child abuse victim (with healed burns and fractures), I was asked what was wrong with me.

I think I'm going to have to unsubscribe from this thread. I seriously don't think I can take anymore. There's no words for some of this evil.

Seeing this and the "I should be in jail" thread can inspire homicidal thoughts against such thoughtless a**holes.

Specializes in Geriatrics, Dialysis.

So very sorry for that family and for you and your fellow staff that were there to do what you could for both Mom and baby. Senseless and preventable tragedy doesn't even begin to describe the consequences of that impaired drivers decision to get behind the wheel that morning.

Its not often that I will cry in front of people as well, but it has happened. I am sorry you were there to witness such a traumatic event. I actually transferred out of our ER, which was a leveled trauma center after a particularly rough few months. There was an ungodly number of child deaths at that time, and while one is horrible to witness, during this time, there were 5 in about 3 months that were literally called in the trauma bay. The most traumatic I have dealt with and the "straw that broke me", was a family that came in after hitting a deer. Dad, Mom, and 3 kids. Mom and one child didnt make it, and the rest, while stable would take alot of time to recover. what put this over the top was when the mothers parents arrived and started screaming at the dad who hit the deer, and accused him of killing his wife and child. Like he wasnt in enough pain. I understand they were upset, but come on... did they not take into account that he was suffering, not only from the loss, but I am sure WAS alot of guilt, as is normal in a situation such as this. I can handle alot of things, and have, but this many deaths of innocent children, and this situation was too much to bear. I do think I started suffering from PTSD, which is why I put in for a transfer to another department. The stress does wear on you. I am glad to hear that your hospital takes all this into consideration and does interventions. So sad.

Specializes in Telemetry.
Its not often that I will cry in front of people as well, but it has happened. I am sorry you were there to witness such a traumatic event. I actually transferred out of our ER, which was a leveled trauma center after a particularly rough few months. There was an ungodly number of child deaths at that time, and while one is horrible to witness, during this time, there were 5 in about 3 months that were literally called in the trauma bay. The most traumatic I have dealt with and the "straw that broke me", was a family that came in after hitting a deer. Dad, Mom, and 3 kids. Mom and one child didnt make it, and the rest, while stable would take alot of time to recover. what put this over the top was when the mothers parents arrived and started screaming at the dad who hit the deer, and accused him of killing his wife and child. Like he wasnt in enough pain. I understand they were upset, but come on... did they not take into account that he was suffering, not only from the loss, but I am sure WAS alot of guilt, as is normal in a situation such as this. I can handle alot of things, and have, but this many deaths of innocent children, and this situation was too much to bear. I do think I started suffering from PTSD, which is why I put in for a transfer to another department. The stress does wear on you. I am glad to hear that your hospital takes all this into consideration and does interventions. So sad.

How awful. This stuff makes me wish there were a governing body focused on requiring stuff like the post trauma debrief some posters mentioned - not just in the ED or OR but throughout the hospital - and for all staff who are affected by these terrible events.

Taking care of ourselves (and the help needed to do so) after such traumas should be the norm - and if it helps, bean counters, I'm sure helping staff would in turn increase staff satisfaction and efficiency and then increase patient satisfaction on the almighty Press Gainey

How ya doing, Rosie? :sorry:

Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
How ya doing, Rosie? :sorry:

Pretty good, actually. The debriefing was helpful, we still talked about it amongst ourselves after the debriefing, and we're back to a normal routine. Having the normalcy is definitely a big thing. About a year ago, we went through a bad spate of aortic dissections, only 1 of who made it out of the hospital and 2 who died on the OR table. That took a lot to recover from, because it felt like we'd get through one and then suddenly we'd have another. This is an isolated event, and since it's not a constant bombardment of bad stuff it's easier than last year.

Specializes in NICU, ER, OR.

I work in the OR , and I often say:

" the things I do and see, to make a paycheck "