Dumb Idea??

moonischasingme1 · Mar 22, 2006

Maybe it would be better to wait. You are only 23 too, so you still have plenty of time to have children--maybe wait until you are in school and understand the time/effort it takes--see if it is doable for you and then make a decision?

L&D4ME · Mar 22, 2006

I would wait...you have momentum in the right direction and having a baby may throw that off (sorry if that sounds harsh.) Having two children myself, I have had to put my schooling on hold ( I take 1 class a semester) I think if you both can wait, you have an awesome opportunity in front of you and I would hate to see you lose that. Good luck in you decision -]

jenn_rn_nj · Mar 22, 2006

are the two really related? imho, no.

so much can happen between now and then. i think the decisions should be contemplated independently. if you decide to have a child then have a plan in place to ensure you can continue school; if you opt not to have a child now, then plan appropriately for that decision.

might school be harder if you have a child? yes, it might.

only you know what you and your husband are capable of and willing to work towards together. i have a few friends that have completed school successfully while being moms and/or moms to be.

goodluck! :)

mimibear · Mar 22, 2006

I would hold off having a baby until you have your RN or BSN. I am in school and I am married with 5 year old twins and it has been difficult. I have maintained a 4.0 average, but I constantly feel like I am cheating my children, or my husband, or my health (lack of sleep!). Also, not to be a downer but what if your child had problems and needed extra care. You are young and you have time. Children are precious gifts, but they will occupy your mind every minute of every day once they are born!!! Once you have them there is no turning back. Something else to consider, what if you have twins (I did and it really rocked our boat financially)!! Good luck to you whatever you decide!

stpauligirl · Mar 22, 2006

Since I've ran my scenario by everyone that I know, I thought I'd run it by others that are probably in my situation... I am in my last semester of pre-req's. I am waitlisted but guaranteed admission in class that begins in August 2007. Here is where some people think I am 'dumb'. I am working full time right now to save money, and I intend to continue in school at least part time taking bachelors degree classes, I am planning on quitting my job next August to focus on school full time- my husband and I would also like to try for a baby- this is where people seem to be split 50/50... some think I am dumb to have a baby now, but others say go for it. Is anyone else in this situation??? I realize that having a baby will make it more difficult, but I have been putting having a family on hold for 2 years already... input???

You are only 23 years old, you are sooooooo young and have plenty of time to have babies. I would suggest you wait until you are done with nursing school....then have as many kids as you desire;) A baby can take EVERYTHING out of you.....some don't sleep through the night until they turn 2, they get sick, and have frequent temper tantrums until they go to Kindergarten. I am also a strong believer that small children need to be with their mothers during the formative years. I advocate breastfeeding which would make it even that much more difficult to be in nursing school.

If I could turn time back I would do it exactly like that and wait to have kids until I have a nursing degree. Good luck and think about things. Maybe you can visit people who have small children and spend some time with them to see what it can be like.

gr8rnpjt, RN · Mar 22, 2006

Honestly, you are 23 years old, there is so much time for children. Nursing school is such a committment and not easy even in the best of circumstances. But you don't know how you will feel about leaving a little baby at home while you are in school. Just the fact that school is so very difficult and you have so much to learn. I would wait. I had my first at 23. I then had another at 25. then I waited 10 years and had my third at 35 and waited 10 more years and had my last child at 45.

What I am trying to say is there is lots of time for babies. Get through school and then try. That will still give you pleanty of time.

L&D_2b · Mar 22, 2006

You have plenty of time to have children. I would wait. My children are 10, 6, 3 and new. I'm in a part time evening program because I wanted to be a mom first and foremost.

Kids take up so much of your time and energy. Believe me, they are the best things you never knew you always wanted. With that said, they are also well worth the wait:)

prmenrs, RN · Mar 22, 2006

You said you're wait-listed. By that I assume you mean you could be pulled in for 2006's class? Cuz if that's the case, the instant you got pregnant, no doubt they'd call you and say, "you're IN!".

And there you are, in clinicals, having morning sickness!!

stpauligirl · Mar 22, 2006

You said you're wait-listed. By that I assume you mean you could be pulled in for 2006's class? Cuz if that's the case, the instant you got pregnant, no doubt they'd call you and say, "you're IN!".
And there you are, in clinicals, having morning sickness!!

With my second child I had morning sickness for ELEVEN weeks!!!!!!!!! :uhoh3:

I cried all the time and was very miserable.

RN-oneday · Mar 22, 2006

I have to agree with most of the other post. You are young. Get your education so you can provide more for your kids. Not only do they take alot of time, they also take alot of money. You and your husband are still honeymooners, enjoy each other. When you start nursing school, the extra time will no longer be there.

IMHO, wait until you have your degree, enjoy your husband and your freedom. I had my third daughter at 24 years old. I am waiting for nursing classes to start Jan 2007, I only wish I had finished school before now.

Utimately it is your decision, not one to take lightly. Good luck and best wishes no matter what you decide.

Kim

smkiya, BSN, RN · Mar 22, 2006

There is never a perfect time to have a baby. I got married, bought a house (with white picket fence), I was with a great company in a great career with the likely prospect of promotion. We were happy and finacially secure, so we decided to start trying for a baby. It took three months, but I did it, I became pregnant. The day after I got the great news(January 2004), my company announced that it was closing. Headspin!!!! Company closed April 2004, applied and was waitlisted for nursing school to start January 2005 (I got it). Took prereqs summer and fall 2004. Gave birth duing fall semester. My daughter is now 17 months and I am happy to say that I graduate this December 2006 from my RN program with honors. It was hard financially, and I do miss some time spent with my daughter, but I would not change what happened.

I agree, you are young... I was 28 when I gave birth and I want a couple more so the clock is ticking... you have some time. I think the decision is between you and your husband, but you should know that even after you graduate, something may come up... something may come up that prolongs your schooling... you may decide to continue your education after... you may move... your husband could lose his job or decide to go back to school....

LIFE cannot be scripted.... Good luck with whatever you decide.