Does mother know best?

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I finally was able to get a job after all and my mother helped me and another nurse get a nursing job at another facility to get away from the stress from my current job and most importantly my boss (who yells at everyone a lot) HOORAY! I should be happy right but now my mom is flip flopping on me leaving my current job and is trying to convince to stay at my current job part time. I know I shouldn't listen to her and that I'm an adult but this is really perplexing me. One min when my boss and her are fighting she wants me out of my current job because she knows how miserable it can to work with my boss than when she's friends with my boss again, she wants to stay there. I have this feeling she wants to stay so I can drive her there and back home after work but I can't stay there just to be her driver. Also she wants me to stay just in case I don't like the new job but I can't work at my new job and my current job because they're both morning shifts :banghead: if anyone can give me any advice on how to deal with mothers, it will be appreciated.

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Be an adult and make your own decisions.

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Specializes in Emergency Nursing, Pediatrics.

That hurt my eyes to read.

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Specializes in General Internal Medicine, ICU.

You know yourself better than anyone else, including your mother. Nip the helicopter parenting in the bud. Do not let her "help" you get jobs anymore. You are an adult and you will make decisions about your own life.

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So don't read it then...

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Specializes in Surgical, quality,management.

The last time my dad helped me find a job I was 14.

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Specializes in Complex pedi to LTC/SA & now a manager.

Presumably you are over 18, then get your own job and make your own decisions. Presumably you don't live with your mother

You've posted variations on this work drama with you, the manager and your mother. You need to make a choice to cut the cord.

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.

How old are you?

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If you're old enough and mature enough to get through nursing school and get licensed, you're old enough to be making your own career decisions. If you really want advice about dealing with mothers, my advice would be to stop working with yours, and stop letting her tell you what to do.

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If you really want advice about dealing with mothers, my advice would be to stop working with yours, and stop letting her tell you what to do.

I'm surprised she's allowed to work with her mother. Most places won't let family members work under the same manager.

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.

This scenario is playing out where I work.Most facilities have policies against family members working together ,this is why.You also can't have it both ways.Either you become an independent adult and go out job searching on your own or you stay there and under your mother's wing.Make a choice.It sounds like if you don't like the new job your mom can manufacture another position for you anyway,what have you got to loose?.I bet the two of you are detested by your co-workers,can you see how this is wrong?

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Actually we're not detested by our coworkers so I don't know where you get that idea from. A few other coworkers also have their own family members working at my job so it's not that strange of an idea.

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