Does mother know best?

[Fayevalentine]

I finally was able to get a job after all and my mother helped me and another nurse get a nursing job at another facility to get away from the stress from my current job and most importantly my boss (who yells at everyone a lot) HOORAY! I should be happy right but now my mom is flip flopping on me leaving my current job and is trying to convince to stay at my current job part time. I know I shouldn't listen to her and that I'm an adult but this is really perplexing me. One min when my boss and her are fighting she wants me out of my current job because she knows how miserable it can to work with my boss than when she's friends with my boss again, she wants to stay there. I have this feeling she wants to stay so I can drive her there and back home after work but I can't stay there just to be her driver. Also she wants me to stay just in case I don't like the new job but I can't work at my new job and my current job because they're both morning shifts if anyone can give me any advice on how to deal with mothers, it will be appreciated.

[Fayevalentine]

If you're old enough and mature enough to get through nursing school and get licensed, you're old enough to be making your own career decisions. If you really want advice about dealing with mothers, my advice would be to stop working with yours, and stop letting her tell you what to do.

I'm going to take the job, I'm just asking for some advice on mothers. Some people's comments are so ignorant on here like no one has ever heard of someone getting a job through a reference from a friend, coworker, family, etc. and these are the only jobs she has helped me get, I have had other jobs lol. But I get the general meaning.

[Fayevalentine]

This scenario is playing out where I work.Most facilities have policies against family members working together ,this is why.You also can't have it both ways.Either you become an independent adult and go out job searching on your own or you stay there and under your mother's wing.Make a choice.It sounds like if you don't like the new job your mom can manufacture another position for you anyway,what have you got to loose?.I bet the two of you are detested by your co-workers,can you see how this is wrong?

After reading your rant post on nepotism in LTC I can see where you think my mom and I are being detested. I think you have some issues to work through with your own coworkers.

[springchick1, ADN, RN]

I'm going to take the job, I'm just asking for some advice on mothers. Some people's comments are so ignorant on here like no one has ever heard of someone getting a job through a reference from a friend, coworker, family, etc. and these are the only jobs she has helped me get, I have had other jobs lol. But I get the general meaning.

There is a huge difference in getting a reference from a friend and working with your mother. And when you come to a public forum, you open yourself up to all sorts of responses. You can't pick and choose what you like. No one left an ignorant comment. You just don't like what they have to say.

[ktwlpn, LPN]

After reading your rant post on nepotism in LTC I can see where you think my mom and I are being detested. I think you have some issues to work through with your own coworkers.

Really? They are gone, the rest of us are still there,what does that tell you? And speaking as a mother I will remind you the parents job is to raise a child to grow up and go away,not pave the way for them.... You still live at home,I bet she does your laundry,too.Do you pay rent? Buy groceries? Help with the housework? Your mother will treat you like a child as long as you behave like one,it is time to cut the cord,personally and professionally.It's likely you were given a position you were woefully unprepared for (both clinically and emotionally) at your mother's insistence and the boss knows it.

[sirI, MSN, APRN, NP]

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