Do women find male nurses attractive?

[Sykadia]

Hi

So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).

Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.

I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?

Regards - Sykadia

[Ivnator]

I'm as manly as you can get and I don't worry about opinions. Your peers will know which side of the track you're on and that's all that matters. Women outside the hospital will be thinking about your bank account.

[fezz]

Not me. I personally only know one gay male nurse (as far as I know ) and many many heterosexual . I don't associate male nurses with being feminine or a particular type of person

[littleboyboo]

Lol... I really can't speak for the heterosexuals. I'm a gay man, and I don't really find any male nurses my type. Idk why, they're just not my type of guy. I, myself being a nurse -- I know -- it's a little peculiar. Of course, I really haven't found any doctors my type either. It's not that they're all hideous or ugly or any of that. A guy in scrubs just doesn't turn me on, I guess. I personally am attracted to the rough type of men, so that makes sense. Most male nurses are preppy, at least the ones I know... lol.

No pun whatsoever intended in this post, but I give you my honest answer. I'm sure there's women that has a certain preference that can relate as well.

[Ellie G]

I'm not sure that I understand the reason for your question. Is it because you think that women believe that male nurses might be gay? Although I have worked with nurses who were gay or lesbian, many of the male nurses are straight and often married or dating female nurses. Attraction has nothing to do with your occupation and everything to do with how you present yourself.

[Farawyn]

If I were called a "murse," at best I'd walk away. Catch me with that on a bad day, and my diplomacy will go out the window. My license says "Nurse" on it

You mean the video that you made? Not found. And hopefully more lesbian and gay nurses can enter the field. I'm one.

The bickering about the concentration of gay men vs straight men in nursing is tasteless; however more appalling is the notion that the supposed feminine aspect of nursing is something to be ashamed of. Please read my whole comment before replying. This speaks to the need for society to embrace the true meaning of what feminism represents. Ideally, the ultimate goal is equality of sexes and a complete removal of the exact sterotypes and gender roles that prompted OP to question his attractiveness simply because he chose nursing as a career. Men face similar gender expectations as woman except its not talked about. The pressures put on young men to act "manly" and avoid "female" qualities such as emotion and nurturing are damaging and cause the insecurities felt by so many men. True feminism is not the eternal fight for pro choice and man hating that it's made out to be. The main goal, the primary message is to dissolve the societal standards and sterotypes that divide male vs female. To have choosing to be a nurse be just as acceptable for a man as choosing to be a doctor. There should be no reason why I or OP or anyone else should ever think that a career choice, even if it's female dominated, can somehow make you less of a "man" and un attractive. By the way, I'm a proud NP, worked as a RN for 6 years before that, and a man.[/quote']

I think you've been quite remiss with this comment. I have never had a patient that didn't want to be "nursed" by me. I've had several patients state that they like to have male nurses because we're nicer. I always tell them I'm not as attractive as the female nurses so I have to make up for it with my personality

Me too. Patients like me because I'm so damn sensitive and compassionate.

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[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

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[RNOTODAY, BSN, RN]

I'll be totally honest. And I work in the OR, where there are more men than in other specialties. While I find nothing that I do in the OR " feminine " in a any way whatsoever, my answer, for reasons I don't even know, is No, I don't find male nurses attractive... I don't think it's because I think they all are feminine, they aren't , I just don't consider them, like, at all, and yes I am embarrassed to admit it and I mean zero offense please don't take any!!

[Fiona59]

Define attractive.

I work with some men who would be described as handsome, etc. But one has the personality of a dead dog.

When I meet people, I don't demand to know their job.

I base it on a case by case basis. Polite? Friendly, Arrogant? Know it all?

And as for the gay/lesbian issue? I really don't care what you do when you aren't at work. I work with out and proud gays and lesbians. Doesn't bother me one bit.

I find they hypercritical, judgmental overly religious types harder to work with.

I don't bring my sexuality or religious beliefs to work. Everyone gets a Merry Cristsmas, Happy Hannukah, Happy Hogmanay from me.

[Pythinia]

Why does: 'Fiona59's 'overly religious types' always a counter reaction to 'proud gays and Lesbians' the latter so much better than the former. Tiresome.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

I find they hypercritical, judgmental overly religious types harder to work with.

I don't bring my sexuality or religious beliefs to work. Everyone gets a Merry Cristsmas, Happy Hannukah, Happy Hogmanay from me.

Amen to that, sister!

[amzyRN]

The fact that a person can be compassionate and caring is an attractive quality, for men and women. I think it is a myth that men don't have compassion and cannot be caregivers is wrong. Why would a male nurse not be "attractive". For me personally, I prefer a man who is caring and intelligent, so I'd date a doctor or a nurse. This assumes that most nurses and doctors do actually care about their patients, which I think is true.

[Guest849204]

In my experience, its hit or miss. With female nurses, it doesn't seem to be as much an issue for obvious reasons. That said, some women are attracted to the classic "manly man" and being a male nurse takes away from that persona, but its really about confidence and ultimately attraction and the success of relationships are going to depend on a myriad of factors. I've also found it can be an advantage in some cases. Showing your feminine side (or at least appearing to have one) puts some women at ease and makes it easier to have a conversation, during which you may choose to highlight your more masculine characteristics.

In the end it depends on each individual women. Some will care and others won't. I've never found it to be a problem.