Do women find male nurses attractive?

[Sykadia]

Hi

So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).

Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.

I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?

Regards - Sykadia

[Ellie G]

You're not ashamed of being a nurse and yet you lie about it to seem more "manly" Attractive to me is a man who owns himself, and a man who knows who he is and is proud of it. Any woman who judges you based on your occupation is not worth your time anyway. Many of the male nurses that I work with are straight. Many are married (to women) with kids and there are a few that are serial daters (of women) Nursing does not seem to limit their options. Be yourself. Be authentic. Be confident. You'll be surprised how attractive you will then be.

[wolf9653]

If I were called a "murse," at best I'd walk away. Catch me with that on a bad day, and my diplomacy will go out the window. My license says "Nurse" on it

Stereotype or not, it shouldn't matter. If you show interest in a woman why would she think you're gay? Personally, if a man asks me on a date or flirts with me, I just assume that he is attracted to women... but it honestly it just doesn't cross my mind. Why would it? I used to play softball, a sport that is often stereotyped to be "gay" but this did not affect my dating life in any way. If someone assumes you're gay because of your profession or hobbies without even bothering to get to know you then they are certainly not worth your time.

As for whether or not male nurses are considered "attractive"... in my circle there are quite a few of us who find male nurses or "murses" to be quite charming. To be a good nurse it takes hard work, intelligence and empathy - qualities which are very attractive IMO. Just be confident with yourself and don't worry about stereotypes.

[wolf9653]

Amazing what an education can do to a guy.

Farawyn, I corrected my wife the other day, as she used 5. You are the ellipse evangelist!!!

[guest769224]

Check out this video I found on youtube talking about the ways guys have an advantage in nursing over females.

You mean the video that you made? Not found. And hopefully more lesbian and gay nurses can enter the field. I'm one.

[It's like a Vit C]

The bickering about the concentration of gay men vs straight men in nursing is tasteless; however, more appalling is the notion that the supposed feminine aspect of nursing is something to be ashamed of. Please read my whole comment before replying. This speaks to the need for society to embrace the true meaning of what feminism represents. Ideally, the ultimate goal is equality of sexes and a complete removal of the exact sterotypes and gender roles that prompted OP to question his attractiveness simply because he chose nursing as a career. Men face similar gender expectations as woman except its not talked about. The pressures put on young men to act "manly" and avoid "female" qualities such as emotion and nurturing are damaging and cause the insecurities felt by so many men. True feminism is not the eternal fight for pro choice and man hating that it's made out to be. The main goal, the primary message is to dissolve the societal standards and sterotypes that divide male vs female. To have choosing to be a nurse be just as acceptable for a man as choosing to be a doctor. There should be no reason why I or OP or anyone else should ever think that a career choice, even if it's female dominated, can somehow make you less of a "man" and un attractive. By the way, I'm a proud NP, worked as a RN for 6 years before that, and a man.

[sashaq]

Not really. I would prefer my future husband to be a firefighter. Lol. being honest :)

[Burks21]

Gay or not, all I care about is if my fellow male nurse will help me with turns and get their hands dirty.

What you do outside of work is your own thing.

I don't know how most women could find a male nurse attractive because of their job. "Oh so you touch other men's junk and get poop on your hands all day? TAKE ME NOW!" Yeah, not so much.

[wolf9653]

Personally, I think if he is handsome, well kept, with nice musculature, charming, funny, confident, empathetic, financially secure, He's going to be attractive even if he wore a potato sack.

[Butterfly9839]

I'm engaged to a male nurse. Been with him since high school. Yes, super attractive. Male nurses shouldn't be seen as just gay or effeminate if they're nurses. Especially ER nurses

[Butterfly9839]

I work with four male nurses and have two male family members that are nurses. ALL are heterosexual. This post has to be one of the most absurd posts on here. Stop projecting your insecurities and blaming your lack of female attention to you, on the fact they think you are gay for being a male nurse. You are also sexualizing the nursing profession. Why the hell would you want a female patient to "like" you anyways? That thought, is predatory in nature; I say this, because you shouldn't give a crap in what your patient thinks of you....as you shouldn't even be questioning dating them. Coworkers won't date you, as we won't mix business with pleasure. If you want to be a nurse, be one because you love the field and not a potential for scoring with the women! This post is really disheartening to see, and you are the classic example of why men find it difficult to break the stigma in nursing.

Thats absolutely false. They may just not TELL the world, but couples are everywhere at my job, and I'm engaged to a male nurse (dated since high school) who works the floor below me.

[kakamegamama]

I have told my wife that if she dies, I will look for her replacement at Hobby Lobby. I know this because the Hobby Lobby near our house seems to be constantly filled with intelligent, affluent and crafty women. And I know this because my wife makes me go there with her.

Ha! There and a fabric store.......

[malamud69, BSN, RN]

My girlfriend...who is an RN...sure does!