Do women find male nurses attractive?

[Sykadia]

Hi

So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).

Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.

I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?

Regards - Sykadia

[Persephone Paige, ADN]

I find male nurses very attractive when I need help lifting a patient. Those arms! That back! Those legs... And if they use proper lifting technique, I might just find myself in love.

[cyc0sys]

The questions OP asks are

1. "do you find male nurses attractive?"

2. "Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you?"

3. "Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?"

So that leads me to believe that he thinks women would want a man to "take care of her" because she thinks he is manly and attractive. Or that she wouldn't because he was unmanly/unattractive. That is, frankly, gross (IMO). I doubt any patient wants to think that the nurse caring for them (showering them, providing pericare, putting in a catheter) is thinking of them sexually. I want my nurse (of either sex) to be thinking of my medical needs and not whether or not I am sexy or he/she is sexy...

My take on OP's thought process doesn't involve romanticizing the patient. I think he's painting with a very broad and naive brush. "...the idea of a man taking care of you" questions the masculinity of nurturing, caring and showing compassion. Instead of bravado and stoicism which OP seems to struggle with being a Beta. These types of questions often arise from a cultural disconnect or the absence of a male role model in the parenting process.

[LiveFit99]

Regarding the public at large, nurses (including males) are viewed well. I've never dated a woman who thought less of me for being a male nurse. I've never had to defend my masculinity. I've found most male nurses are straight and the homosexuals are obvious. If a woman is looking for a husband/father then a male nurse is quite appealing. In the workspace, there's obviously good potential when women outnumber men 4:1.

[guest584920]

I don't know about female nurses finding us attractive or not. But my wife is a teacher, and I had a hot teacher fantasy and she had a hot nurse fantasy -so I was happy to oblige. ?

[usethehaldol]

You'll find a lotta firefighters and medics that just got tired of being on the truck. They ain't gay. They are smart enough to move on though.

[dogmaneod]

Cops and Combat Veterans too. Besides you're there to work not date. So who cares.

[whisperingsage]

I've worked with a lit if male nurses and usually they are wonderful. They are more compassionate than many men in more traditional macho men jobs. I've only met one who was gay. He was my DON, and was the worst manager I'd ever met. Not because he was gay, because I have had my share of gay friends and supervisors before. And they were usually pretty wonderful too.

But this particular DON had a preconcueved notion about what I was, because I wore scrub dresses. Instead if pants. And maybe he was too young to know nurses ysed to wear dresses more in the past. But this is the only thing I can think of that caused him to be opinionated about me. He made a decision that he didn't like me and picked at everything, even making us work harder, not smarter. In a nursing home situation, where they are always understaffed, you have to find smarter ways to get things done. Not him.

Anyway, he decided to terminate me before my probation was up. He handed my my check and I said " oh thank God" and gave him a big hug. That changed everything. He was then telling me to put him down as a reference and he'd give me a good one. So I think he was thinking I didn't like him ( for being gay and possibly black) and discovered he was wrong at the end.

Other male nurses, well I've seen good marriages come from work situations. Where else are you going to be able to get to know someone , how they act under stress, how they treat others, if they even like people, and be able to observe them over time to know they are a good guy. Better than the dating scene. Those are all important things to know before you get involved with someone. And in a nursing situation, 99.9% of staff are professional and platonic and good team members. It's good to have reliable people you can count on.

[Jedrnurse, BSN, RN]

"Do women find male nurses attractive?"

If they're attractive, they do...

[_firely]

On 8/17/2016 at 1:40 PM, SnowShoeRN said:

Actually anecdotally, over the course of my career, of every single male nurse I've ever worked with (probably about 2 dozen?) only one has ever been gay. I've found it much more likely to run into gay doctors or CNA's.

Be that as it may, your original post kinda sounds like "Do women find men who work in a particular profession attractive?" The "right" woman isn't going to say "eww" and recoil if you tell her you work as a nurse. Generally people are attracted to who the person is, not what they do for a living. It's up to them to make any assumptions, but the less comfortable you are the more likely you are to come across as someone who is insecure. And *that* tends to be universally unattractive.

One of the reasons I was attracted to nursing in the first place was because I was excited to break the paradigm and question stereotypes I (and others I knew) held in regards to nursing. I had a shaved head and a girlfriend when I started nursing school and was proud to be unique among my peers.

As is the case with every profession, nurses come in all shapes, sizes, and flavors. I've worked with nurses who: rode motorcycles, were ballerinas, had side businesses at a vineyard, had side businesses as tatoo artists, traveled to all 7 continents, had never left their hometowns, had 8 kids, had no kids, survived cancer, survived 5 miscarriages, had their wives leave them, raised foster animals, were LDS, were atheist, etc. As you get further along in your education and career you too will come to realize that there is no set mold that defines a nurse. And I imagine you will consequently become more confident with yourself as well.

Best of luck.

You will be hard pressed to find a career with more diversity of backgrounds than nursing. Remember two things. You are more than your job (anyone that starts a conversation about what you do is probably not worth talking to), and second nursing is awesome.

As a guy I’ve gotten nothing but respect from men or women when I mention it. It is hard, respectable, generally underpaid work. Plus risky and physically demanding. Be proud of your choices and yourself. I am and I don’t even know you. Women like a certain look, personality, common interests, height, weight, race, car, nationality, distance from them, dietary restriction level, common addiction level, income level, pet affinity, kid affinity, similar sense of humor, blah blah blah. Give up catering to every woman, be your best self, and worry less about what you can’t control. You’re fine.

[slinster]

I met my husband "on the job" when we were both working at an Urgent Care as nurses. He is the hottest and most compassionate RN that I know, not to mention very comfortable with his manhood and also his gentle, nurturing side. So yes, I found this male RN very attractive......and still do 11 years later. ❤️

[Oghenemine Omokoh]

Well I like the idea of two nurses dating..,. I don’t see anything wrong in that, I even fancy it.... The right woman will be very proud of whoever you are

[Orca, ADN, ASN, RN]

On ‎3‎/‎25‎/‎2019 at 12:13 PM, Jedrnurse said:

"Do women find male nurses attractive?"

If they're attractive, they do...

Funny, the same thing struck me. If you're ugly, your profession isn't going to make a huge difference.