...or friends for that matter
I'm almost 40 and in my last year of my BSRN program. I took a job as a patient care aide as few months ago. I'm working nights, mostly on the weekends. I've been picking up more hours during the summer months.
My ex dh is very supportive and very flexible in caring for our 10 year old daughter so I'm very fortunate.
It is my parents and other close family members that just don't quite "get it" sometimes. I live very close to the hospital so I get home and ready for bed by 8-8:30am. I keep up with my mom and other family and friends about my weekly work schedule so they know when I'm working and when I'm trying to sleep. Why is it that they always call my cell just as I'm dozing off and when I don't answer it, they call the house? Or they'll call at noon or something? I've turned ringers off and all that but I can still hear it ring in my little ol house. I usually keep my cell nearby too if I know my dd may need to reach me so I know that's partly my fault for having the cell phone nearby.
Another example, this 4th of July will be my first big holiday to work and I'm working Saturday and Sunday. I'm totally fine with it really. It is hotter than H E double hockey sticks here and I could really use the money. I would rather work these little holidays in hopes that I might not have to work on Christmas Eve.
My extended family is planning on a reunion of sorts that weekend and my mom keeps pushing me to "just go for a few hours." I keep telling her that it just isn't doable for me because I have to sleep at some point. She pushes with "Aunt X and so-and-so would really like to see you and dd." After a few exchanges like this I had to get really firm with my mom and tell that going out to the lake (45 mins away), sitting in the heat all day is just not possible when I have to be at work all night.
Do they not realize we like to work holidays to avoid stuff like this?
I truly love my family, especially my mom, and it is great to feel loved and wanted. I just really wish they would just "get it" a little bit and understand that I have to do this. I don't think they understand that it is a tough job market out there in health care and I have to make myself stand out and take advantage of this great job I have. Ok, vent over.
meredith