Do you find yourself crying a lot while in nursing school?
I never cried so much in a year as I have in this PAST year. I'm always scared about failing (I have one shot while others have two) or get so incredibly frustrated and stressed out. I'm in Med Surg 2 and these teachers are throwing SO MANY useless assignments and projects that take up so much of our time that we don't have time to study for the actual lecture tests. And we HAVE to pass the lecture tests before we can even go ON through nursing school!!
Sometimes I get confidence. And then I go back into freaking out and breaking down that I'll just cry. I hear that people cry as well. Do you?
I'm a cryer and yes, I've cried during school. I cry out of frustration and sometimes anger, which means that I started tearing up in a couple of evals. I can't think of a situation where I've busted out into tears on the floor. But, I get a little choked up when I get frustrated during clinical. I also remember one time when I was getting very frustrated with a doctor in a situation where I was in charge, I went to the back, vented to a friend, cried for a second and was like "now I feel better" and went back to the clinic and everything was fine.
For me it's not really a good indicator of being upset, it's just like a physiological reaction or something. I have a hard time putting my finger on what sets me off, because I have handled plenty of high pressure situations gracefully and without crying, but then I'll be trying to get heparin out of vial and it just won't come and here come the tears! It gets worse when people are like "don't cry" or if I try to hold it in. Sometimes if I can tell I'm upset and about to cry I will just go to the bathroom and let it out and then go back to the floor. I really hate it, I wish I wasn't a cryer.Today I was a little frustrated with my preceptor and I could feel myself choking up a bit, argh, I hate it. It's worse when I'm tired and stressed out, which means it's worse during school.
Oddly enough, I rarely cry at home because of nursing school.
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I have cried. Well more like got watery eyes and teared up a lot, while listening to stories at our death seminar and when going over our child abuse lecture. Other than that I haven't cried at school.
Most people seem to think you mean "at school." Even if you do cry at school, it's nothing to be ashamed of. I've seen at least 3 people in my program cry. It's tough and upsetting and I don't think any less of them for crying, because it could have easily been me. In all 3 cases, it was a mean instructor who caused it.
Anyway, I've cried at home a couple times. No biggie. It needs to happen! Nursing school can be super frustrating and sometimes holding it in is just impossible, not to mention unhealthy! We would never discourage a patient from having a good crying session, would we? Why should we be any different?
I sure did. I (like some of the others mentioned) cry out of frustration. There were some times when it felt like even my best wasn't good enough. I would feel frustrated and then the tears would come. It only happened once while in clinical but that was enough for me. I cryed occasionally at home but don't see a problem with that. Luckily my instructor didn't have a problem with crying. She seemed to think it meant you were sincere.
Do you find yourself crying a lot while in nursing school?
I never cried so much in a year as I have in this PAST year. I'm always scared about failing (I have one shot while others have two) or get so incredibly frustrated and stressed out. I'm in Med Surg 2 and these teachers are throwing SO MANY useless assignments and projects that take up so much of our time that we don't have time to study for the actual lecture tests. And we HAVE to pass the lecture tests before we can even go ON through nursing school!!
Sometimes I get confidence. And then I go back into freaking out and breaking down that I'll just cry. I hear that people cry as well. Do you?
You are experiencing this most likely because you care a ton about doing things the right way and you feel overwhelmed, trying to balance home life and school.The best advice I can give is for you to stabilize yourself. Cut things out of your life temporarily that are pushing you to a point of breaking. Control what you can to make your life more balanced. When you are at work, you are at work. You need to temporarily forget about home life stuff and also the other way around, when at home you are at home. Don't think so much about doing everything perfectly. You probably feel like you will make a mistake in this process of your life that will jepardize your future. Stop thinking that. No matter how much you know, stress and anxiety can cloud your thinking. Gain control and if there is something you have a question about ask the teacher, yea I know they are intimidating or scary but you must let them know if you are unsure about something. They get paid to help you remember that. They were once students so there is some part of them that knows what it feels like, so don't let them see that you are afraid of all that you are going through, to the point that you can't function. For heavens sake do one thing at a time, you don't have a double body. Work on what you can as efficiently as possible, and then move on to the next thing. Don't let nursing school swallow you up alive and spit you out. Keep the momentum but one day at a time. Yes it is ok to cry but not to the point that it is all you do, all day and you can't focus or get things done. Take care and best luck to you, believe in yourself.
I think I cried once at clinical because my instructor pretty much called me stupid ( this was at postconference). And once in the car after my instructor said something, I don't even remember what it was that she said, but I sobbed all the way to my clinical site, pulled myself together in the car, went in washed my face, then pretended I had allergies when the nurse commented on my red eyes. And once more at school, but just a few tears, but it was in her office. Now that I think of it, it was the same instructor for all 3 incidents. We're human, not RoboNursing Student, it's ok to cry.
I can cry watching a cotton commercial. So, I knew it would be a huge challenge for me coming into this field and that I would have to control as much as I could. I can't control the amount of homework, the instructor's teaching method, etc. But I can put myself in the best possible position to succeed. For me, that was running while listening to lectures (study AND relieve stress), no skipping meals (puts me in a bad mood, more likely to react to something by crying), and getting at least 5 hours of sleep a night. These are things I can control.
I'm not sure if this is an issue for you as well, but I also realized my birth control was affecting my mood. I switched to a new form and have felt much more normal.
Basically, what I'm trying to say is that you can't forget to give yourself a little TLC. I know it's never as easy and straightforward as I laid it out- believe me, it took 2 stressful years of pre-reqs to figure this out! At the very least, I hope you can find solace in the fact that we are sniffling along with you. :)
As they told us in EMS, if you have just said smth to a patient, family member, or your supervisor (or hospital doc or RN), and it felt good to say it, it was probably the wrong thing to say.
I've gotten teary-eyed in sad situations when I am really tired. When I've had enough sleep, I rarely get emotional. It's weird...once, our Fundamentals instructor read a really touching poem to us when I was in first semester...I got all emotional but when I looked around, there were at least a dozen others sniffling and wiping their eyes so I didn't feel so bad.
I've found my body internalizes stress rather than me crying...first semester I broke out in a mysterious rash that lasted most of the semester and ended a week after classes were finished, and I also had the pleasure of my upper lip occasionally blowing up like a balloon from time to time. I think it was some sort of weird hives that only affected my lip...? Second semester I don't really recall much except for wild moodiness. This semester I think I am getting some sort of issue in my esophagus...I always feel pressure in my chest that gets worse at night. My husband once had a sore form in his esophagus due to stress, and I suspect I have the same thing. I plan to go to the doctor, but in all seriousness I just haven't had time.
So I think compared to that, I may welcome a little crying instead of physical outbreaks of whatever my crazy body can invent. :/
I haven't yet.. but I know I will! (I'm only in my 3rd week of school) Whatever helps you get through NS, by all means, do it. I'm sure your program is challenging, and your body and mind are adjusting to that. Crying is a great anxiety reducer.
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I'm a cryer and yes, I've cried during school. I cry out of frustration and sometimes anger, which means that I started tearing up in a couple of evals. I can't think of a situation where I've busted out into tears on the floor. But, I get a little choked up when I get frustrated during clinical. I also remember one time when I was getting very frustrated with a doctor in a situation where I was in charge, I went to the back, vented to a friend, cried for a second and was like "now I feel better" and went back to the clinic and everything was fine.
For me it's not really a good indicator of being upset, it's just like a physiological reaction or something. I have a hard time putting my finger on what sets me off, because I have handled plenty of high pressure situations gracefully and without crying, but then I'll be trying to get heparin out of vial and it just won't come and here come the tears! It gets worse when people are like "don't cry" or if I try to hold it in. Sometimes if I can tell I'm upset and about to cry I will just go to the bathroom and let it out and then go back to the floor. I really hate it, I wish I wasn't a cryer.Today I was a little frustrated with my preceptor and I could feel myself choking up a bit, argh, I hate it. It's worse when I'm tired and stressed out, which means it's worse during school.
Oddly enough, I rarely cry at home because of nursing school.