I've got a couple of burrs under my saddle blanket and am requesting feedback from the allnurses community regarding professional behaviors:
I believe:
Someone should be referred to with their title of Ms, Mrs, Mr, Dr, etc. and their surname until permission is granted otherwise.
Profanity in professional situations is rarely acceptable and if so used, should be in consensual agreement, e.g. "May I speak frankly?"
It gets my goat how some believe they have the freedom to address another or use language that is not becoming to a professional relationship.
My wife, medical nurse Belinda, told me that at Anomaly Memorial Hospital the staff are encouraged to refer to the patients by their first names because it comes across as being more friendly.
In reading some articles on the internet, profanity is condoned and supported in some professional situations because it "releases tension".
"Bullhockey!" say I.
In my experiences, respect is received, even with Salt-of-the-Earth Psychotics, by giving them respect. And that respect, reinforced, has prevented escalating patients from experiencing total meltdowns: The statement, "I expect you to give me the same respect I give you" has caused many an angry patient to take pause.
I think of the multitude of smiles I've received, asking a patient, "May I call you...?" Or: "What would you like to be called?"
Profanity is rarely necessary in a professional situation. The use of profanity can be a sign of loss of control, or apathy. I hear profanity from an acquaintance as their way of saying, "I can say whatever I want with no regard to you".
I truly enjoy using euphemisms to say the vilest thing in the sweetest, most respectful way. Forms of the word "imprudent" has become one of my favs as of late: "You can't fix imprudence" sounds so much more respectful than the mainstream saying. Or: "How imprudent of administration to do that!"
Euphemisms help to take the focus of how something is said and puts the focus on what is said.
Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
17 minutes ago, TriciaJ said:
Yes, work friends do have the habit of drifting away when one of you no longer works there. I've changed jobs enough times to know that.
Our place of work is a common ground for which we can relate and we are attracted to some of our coworkers due to processing similar standards, viewpoints, and perspectives.
Bad management can make for comradery and solidarity: "We are good, they are bad. We are right, they are wrong." The "Us and Them" mentality. Once that bond that holds us together no longer exists, the bond weakens.
It's a similar situation when coworkers become managers. Our coworkers become one of "Them" and we no longer possess that same bond which held us together.
However, like everything else, there are exceptions to the rule.
Still love the comic drawings. You have a true talent. I really am sorry things got really blown out of proportion. Seems like once you put up a little fight, others took it to thinking you wanted a WWF fight. (I think it is still caled WWF or I may be dating myself).
Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
1 hour ago, RNNPICU said:
Still love the comic drawings. You have a true talent. I really am sorry things got really blown out of proportion.
Thank you, RNNPICU, it's how I best deal with things.
We often ruminate over situations in our lives, attempting to understand and deal with them. I learned in art therapy years ago to make those ruminations tangible, for reasons of catharsis, and in order to gain a perspective and deal with them.
Unfortunately I have seen some truly sadistic people in the workplace like this (above drawing) .
20 hours ago, Davey Do said:
We often ruminate over situations in our lives, attempting to understand and deal with them. I learned in art therapy years ago to make those ruminations tangible, for reasons of catharsis, and in order to gain a perspective and deal with them.
I've been doing this for a long time.
I am glad that you are able to do this. Sometimes we go over things in our minds (over and over and over) and never seem to be able to make sense out of it or gain perspective. Your above drawing lets me see that sometimes people are just a-holes and there is no other explanation. Hard to grasp that concept though sometimes!
Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
38 minutes ago, Daisy4RN said:
Unfortunately I have seen some truly sadistic people in the workplace like this (above drawing) .
I am glad that you are able to do this. Sometimes we go over things in our minds (over and over and over) and never seem to be able to make sense out of it or gain perspective. Your above drawing lets me see that sometimes people are just a-holes and there is no other explanation. Hard to grasp that concept though sometimes!
So true. I taught myself years ago to not take other people's behaviour personally. Even if they meant it to be.
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Our place of work is a common ground for which we can relate and we are attracted to some of our coworkers due to processing similar standards, viewpoints, and perspectives.
Bad management can make for comradery and solidarity: "We are good, they are bad. We are right, they are wrong." The "Us and Them" mentality. Once that bond that holds us together no longer exists, the bond weakens.
It's a similar situation when coworkers become managers. Our coworkers become one of "Them" and we no longer possess that same bond which held us together.
However, like everything else, there are exceptions to the rule.