Dealing with conflict?

allnurses Guide · Dec 14, 2011

Just ignore them.

allnurses Guide · Dec 15, 2011

It is easy to let this become an obsession, so redirect yourself any time you think about it. You are graduating soon and have a job. That is all you need to worry about. One of the catty types working at the same hospital as you? So what? The odds of you bumping into her are slim. The odds of her being that same person in that environment are even slimmer.

Focus on your future. There are billions of people in the world. Why are you going to let one or two or five of them change the course of your focus and your mood?

BeenThereDoneThat74, MSN, RN · Dec 30, 2011

I'm just wondering if anyone has experienced any kattiness in nursing school? There are a couple girls that make me feel like I'm in middle school all over again, I ignore them but it's starting to get to me. I'm graduating soon and have a job lined up and I've heard through the grapevine one of the girls might work at my hospital and it bothers me. Am I just being totally insecure and overly sensitive? I just don't have much experience with mean girls, and tips would be great!

The keyword in your post is "girls". Regardless of the age (girls, young ladies, women), it's primarily a female thing. Get used to it, and get used to ignoring it (or just finding a way to deal with it, and not feeding into their drama).

Iridescent Orchid, CNA, LPN · Dec 30, 2011

Ignore them to the best of your ability! I think we all have to deal with those types of girls throughout nursing school and of course, in every other aspect of life, either we learn to deal, ignore, or we let them get to us one way or another...and they're not worth it! You're not being overly sensitive, there are just some people out there that get under our skin and we can't help that.

jesskidding, LPN · Dec 30, 2011

We have quite a few younger girls just out of high school in my nursing class. They still act like they are in high school. I just chalk it up to their age and immaturity. I ignore them and go about my own business.

I am there to learn and become the best nurse I can be. I didn't go into nursing school looking to make friends with everyone. Although I have made some close friends in the process. :)

You will deal with people like this during school and once again when you are working as a RN. I have just learned to let certain things go in one ear and out the other. Unless, it's constructive criticism and someone is helping me learn something. I have also learned to develop a "thicker skin".

Pneumothorax, BSN, RN · Dec 31, 2011

High numbers of females, competitive environment--let the catty-ness unfold! Screw em'--focus on u & why ur there. Everything else is minimal after that. They won't get far with crappy attitudes like that, no worries :)

♑ Capricorn ♑ · Dec 31, 2011

Focus on yourself. Ignore all the negativity in school. It doesn't mean you'll have to be best friends with everyone, but at least be civil. You are there to get an education and to become a nurse, do that. Don't waste your worries on others who don't care about you, or vice versa. One day you'll graduate and they will be gone.

nishaj · Dec 31, 2011

JUST DO YOU

CBsMommy · Dec 31, 2011

Lots of cattiness in school. It is hard to ignore it at times. Just some tips for what I used to do, hopefully they will help you, too!

When you see this particular group of people, stay away from them.

Bring a lecture to listen to and pop in some ear phones and listen to it! This might actually bump up your grades.

Realize that once graduation is past, you won't have to see these people again, and if you do, they won't be nearly as bad one to one as they are in a group.

Tell yourself that this is THEIR ISSUE! Most people do this out of insecurity.

I agree with nishaj - JUST DO YOU. You are there to get your degree and be a nurse. Stay focused on your goal!

Good luck to you in your journey!

Ruby Vee, BSN · Dec 31, 2011

i'm just wondering if anyone has experienced any kattiness in nursing school? there are a couple girls that make me feel like i'm in middle school all over again, i ignore them but it's starting to get to me. i'm graduating soon and have a job lined up and i've heard through the grapevine one of the girls might work at my hospital and it bothers me. am i just being totally insecure and overly sensitive? i just don't have much experience with mean girls, and tips would be great!

you've got a new job lined up, you haven't even started and you're worried about encountering cattiness? concentrate on yourself, your new career and learning the most you can. why worry about cattiness unless you actually encounter it?

williams3929 · Dec 31, 2011

Only thing I can add is to get used to it...In the hospitals I have seen even the RN's are cliquey and catty so I feel u should let go, ignore them, and like do you like nishaj said...No matter where you go especially a field that is unfortunately dominated by women you will have to deal with this issue. There is no use in dwelling on it now... Also just because you are going to be working in the same place doesn't mean that you will be in the same department so u may not even see them and my last point is that you should be focused on your clients...if you are doing that then that person will continue to be a non issue being a nurse means client 1st not coworkers or colleagues:twocents:.