I got good news finally. I might have a chance to work with the military…I wont be with the services but I can work as a nurse outside of the service itself. I was contacted by the HR there and they have potential openings for nurses with less than a year of experience so here's crossing my fingers!
I called the NSO…it took almost an hour to get with someone but I discussed my case with them and heard what they had to recommend. I explained the situation that occurred and they put a rush order on my order, and hopefully I will hear back from someone asap. I have heard that I will not be able to get coverage for the incident that occurred because I got insurance the day after I was terminated. I really hope this is not the case and that they do not drop me because I cannot afford an attorney.
I also got auto insurance today finally. I know it's a bit pricey considering my circumstance but I can't go without it. I applied to a few more place. No calls or emails yet…gah the wait is the worst part!
I went to my psychologist for the first meeting. It lasted about an hour and he basically took my info of my history. Something hit me though when I was talking to him: I think I become unsure of myself very quickly especially in unsupportive environments due to my history of being bullied at schools and home. I am meeting again with him Friday to further discuss how to work out frustration and stress during work. Each visit is only 20 bucks, thank God for good insurance!
I came home and took a nice relaxing bath while I watched the birds. I found we have a toad living in our front yard, and after a failed attempt at catching him I decided to name him Julio lol!
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Worried nurse.....yes we all have had tough days, unbearable patients, but u can't yell at a patient, not ever. I am not on a "high horse", nurses take an oath at their pinning ceramony, look it up, its good for all of us to read it once in awhile. For 17 of the 23 years, I worked as an oncology nurse, and as awful and as stressful and as impossible as some of those paticular days/weeks were, I never yelled at anyone. Did I want to, of course, but you cant. It is a part of the responsibility of being trusted by the people that you are caring for, that no matter how bad your shift is, their day is always worse than yours. So waiting for a nurturing environment that HR and the nurse manager that interviewed you promises you, also will not happen. They also have impossible jobs, it is not fun being told everything about everyone, day after day, and expected to get people to do the right thing and make ever person that works on the unit happy, because everyone wants something different. Some places are better than others, but you cant blame everyone else, because you keep a job because of a pay check,. Nuring is a calling, its much bigger than a pay check.And as a charge nurse, you have to set the tone for the rest of the staff. It's your environment, you control it. You can go into the BR and yell into a towel, take a break for 5 minutes, do what you have to to get over that hump. Nursing is not for everone, and if you start screaming at old people who are hungry, it's a problem.
Not everyone goes to the pinning ceremony or has one, so not everyone takes that oath. Sorry, that oath is outdated. When you made that PP you were on quite on a high horse. I worked corrections for 5 years, that's high stress too. Nursing is stressful in general.
If the OP has an unmanaged mental health condition that could be why she snapped. Where is your compassion?
My compassion is for the man she yelled at, not her "crisis " He is the person u should have compassion for. Have u ever worked with a nurse, that u knew was not healthy mentally? And Florance Nightingale would not agree that that pledge is outdated, and what type of nursing school does not have a pinning ceramony? Everything we do as nurses is based on history, tradition, where did you go to nursing school? It takes a special kind of nurse to work corrections, God bless you.
I am not on a "high horse", nurses take an oath at their pinning ceramony, look it up, its good for all of us to read it once in awhile.
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Nuring is a calling, its much bigger than a pay check.
*sigh*
I attended my pinning ceremony but there was no recitation of an oath.
And while there may exist a state where one is required to notify the BON of a firing, I certainly don't believe there are many where that is the case.
Some people handle stress better than others. Did the OP deal with the situation in the best way? No, and I think she now realizes that. But I think it is better to help someone learn from their mistake and become a better nurse (as long as actual and intentional negligence took place - and I don't feel raising one's voice necessarily fits this).
And finally, no. Just no. For many of us, nursing is not a calling. It is a job for which we are highly educated and can and do excel at even if we *gasp* are doing it for the paycheck.
I meant to respond to your original post but had a couple of long shifts that kept me busy.
I was immediately struck by your panic and despair. Been there. Being fired. Feeling like you're a terrible nurse. At a loss of what to do now because you've never been in a situation like this or planned any course of action. We never do. Who has an action plan for that kind of a thing, a sudden loss of all that is familiar to you? We panic. Think up crazy scenarios of living in a cardboard box under a bridge. A sudden shift from membership in one of the most trusted professions in this country to an unemployed criminal. What now. Call a lawyer? Quit nursing and go underground at some telemarketing company? Just kill myself.
Then you catch your breath. Slow down, think a minute. Don't do anything rash or stupid. Seek advice. Make an action plan. Life must go on. You have responsibilities. Yeah, responsibilities. 1)To the old man. Own up to what you did. Make apologies/amends in your heart of hearts you are sorry. No excuses. You are sorry and what you did was wrong. No, you don't have to actually physically face him and apologize. Talk to a trusted friend or counselor and really own up to your part in the altercation, not his or the facility or the stress of nursing or too much caffeine. You did it and you are sorry. 2) To yourself. You're not a terrible nurse or even a terrible person. You made a mistake. You can never take your frustrations out on a patient. NEVER.
OK, lesson learned. Now move forward. Finish any business with your former employer. Return property, cards, keys whatever. Get malpractice insurance and have it from this day forward. Check out/apply for a new job(s). You are a better person. You have a lot to offer. Keep what's good and work on the upgraded new you. You may have some time off between jobs. Nurture yourself. Find some pleasure in the everyday world. Make a gratitude list of the things you have neglected and are truly grateful for.
You will come out of this dark hole one day at a time, one step at a time. Accept the help that is offered and remember that you are a valued and precious human being.
The memory of this incident will become less painful but it will always be with you. Use it to inspire you to be that better nurse that you always wanted to be. You have a life full of adventure awaiting you.
Well when you get off your high horse, I'll be down here.
Because yes, I've been fired. No, I didn't report it myself & yes I still have my license with no issues. I've held multiple jobs since I've been fired. Never had an issue getting job.
The fact that you are basing her whole nursing career on this one incident says a lot about you as a person. I'm not gonna say no I wouldn't let her take care of my family member because we've all had those tough patients & tough days. Then when combined it really can wear us down, I've been there. Granted I've never yelled at a patient, I wouldn't say she's a terrible nurse. That is going too far. It's not like she yelled in his face or physically abused him. C'mon now.
I'm just going to respond to "High Horse" with a SNORT and like your post a few more times.
I've been fired from jobs before & never reported it to the BON.
I haven't either. Never heard of someone having to notify BON unless it was an arrest, or if they were turning themselves in for narcotic/meds diversion.
Specializes in Complex pedi to LTC/SA & now a manager.
Some state BoN mandate reporting any time a nurse is terminated. Most do not. The exception would be a nurse terminated for substantiated (or suspicion of) elder/child abuse, neglect, gross failure to follow the standard of care, working while impaired, diversion of narcotics.....essentially terminated for reasons that the board would investigate
...and what type of nursing school does not have a pinning ceramony? Everything we do as nurses is based on history, tradition...
My nursing program did not have a pinning *ceremony. No oath taken. Paid tuition, passed exams, period. I went to a large state university. My program was also based on hard science and evidence-based practice rather than "history and tradition."
Rather than quoting your other post, I will also just mention here that nursing may have been a "calling" for you, but it's not for everyone. For me, it was a viable career option that met many of my career objectives and long-term goals.
...The memory of this incident will become less painful but it will always be with you. Use it to inspire you to be that better nurse that you always wanted to be. You have a life full of adventure awaiting you.
Thank you very much for your kind words and support. That's all I wanted coming here. I was really hoping someone could understand where I was coming from. I know this is a public forum, and there will be some bad apples, but knowing that there are caring people out there really does help.
I'm working my hardest not to let this one bad thing ruin the rest of my life. I'm learning how to apologize and forgive, and getting my self esteem back. Thank you.
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
My compassion is for the man she yelled at, not her "crisis " He is the person u should have compassion for. Have u ever worked with a nurse, that u knew was not healthy mentally? And Florance Nightingale would not agree that that pledge is outdated, and what type of nursing school does not have a pinning ceramony? Everything we do as nurses is based on history, tradition, where did you go to nursing school? It takes a special kind of nurse to work corrections, God bless you.
Yes, *me*. I have worked without being properly diagnosed or medicated for a looong time. So I know how the OP feels. It is tough working when you don't feel right mentally, it's hard to describe to people. If you can't have compassion for your fellow nurses then there is something wrong. Because you should have compassion for everyone.
This is an isolated incident, as a new grad & people we all make mistakes. I'm sure you have made mistakes, does that make you any less of a nurse? Should I judge you by that one mistake & say "I don't want her taking care of my family member because she did X mistake".
You might have went into nursing because of a "calling" but not all of us did. On top of that Florence Nightingale would want the pledge to be updated with the times, not to stay stagnant.
Please, please, please review the TOS and not use "txt spk" whne you post here. Go ahead and spell out the word "you", we prefer that over the junenile "U"!
My compassion is for the man she yelled at, not her "crisis " He is the person u should have compassion for. Have u ever worked with a nurse, that u knew was not healthy mentally? And Florance Nightingale would not agree that that pledge is outdated, and what type of nursing school does not have a pinning ceramony? Everything we do as nurses is based on history, tradition, where did you go to nursing school? It takes a special kind of nurse to work corrections, God bless you.
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Not everyone goes to the pinning ceremony or has one, so not everyone takes that oath. Sorry, that oath is outdated. When you made that PP you were on quite on a high horse. I worked corrections for 5 years, that's high stress too. Nursing is stressful in general.
If the OP has an unmanaged mental health condition that could be why she snapped. Where is your compassion?