Day two after termination: Getting better

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I got good news finally. I might have a chance to work with the military…I wont be with the services but I can work as a nurse outside of the service itself. I was contacted by the HR there and they have potential openings for nurses with less than a year of experience so here's crossing my fingers!

I called the NSO…it took almost an hour to get with someone but I discussed my case with them and heard what they had to recommend. I explained the situation that occurred and they put a rush order on my order, and hopefully I will hear back from someone asap. I have heard that I will not be able to get coverage for the incident that occurred because I got insurance the day after I was terminated. I really hope this is not the case and that they do not drop me because I cannot afford an attorney.

I also got auto insurance today finally. I know it's a bit pricey considering my circumstance but I can't go without it. I applied to a few more place. No calls or emails yet…gah the wait is the worst part!

I went to my psychologist for the first meeting. It lasted about an hour and he basically took my info of my history. Something hit me though when I was talking to him: I think I become unsure of myself very quickly especially in unsupportive environments due to my history of being bullied at schools and home. I am meeting again with him Friday to further discuss how to work out frustration and stress during work. Each visit is only 20 bucks, thank God for good insurance!

I came home and took a nice relaxing bath while I watched the birds. I found we have a toad living in our front yard, and after a failed attempt at catching him I decided to name him Julio lol!

I watched Netflix until my fiancé got home and made my special tacos (they have honey in them!). We had a nice relaxing evening.

Hoping to get some calls tomorrow regarding work. Thinking about getting my MO license, hopefully it doesn't cost too much!

Thanks for everyone's support. More to come tomorrow.

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I'm sorry, but this sounds very suspicious to me. If you follow the timeline of WorriedNurse25's posts she seems to have had a remarkable recovery in 2 days. Going from almost suicidal to applying to work with the military.

I'm not saying you are lying, but if it is true it could not have happened within the time frame you have put forward.

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I'm sorry, but this sounds very suspicious to me. If you follow the timeline of WorriedNurse25's posts she seems to have had a remarkable recovery in 2 days. Going from almost suicidal to applying to work with the military.

I'm not saying you are lying, but if it is true it could not have happened within the time frame you have put forward.

I didn't apply...they called me when they saw my resume on indeed.com. I've been applying to at least five places daily for anything and getting a call for a potential employment opportunity was my shining moment. I never said I was suicidal in my other posts. I was scared and needed reassurance. I've not gotten one email or call from any other place.

Crises situations occur like this. I was panicking. I'm attemping very hard not to allow my anxiety and depression to overcome I am just trying to look on the brighter side of life and working on my recovery. I'm being positive about my life.

I could have mentioned in the post above that I drove home with a very heavy head from my doctor's appointment. That I've cried so much over just watching something on Netflix that related to my situation. How badly I was feeling for hours on end today. How I feel embarrassed to be asking my fiance for an allowance until I can get back on my feet. But that would be counterproductive...

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I did not say you were suicidal, I said you sounded suicidal. In your first post you were all over the place - not sleeping, crying, talking about getting antidepressants. You have given a timeline of 2 days and yet you have managed to apply to several places and even had a reply from one. You have seen a psychologist, a dentist and a doctor, you have managed to shop around for insurance and met with family. After only 2 days you are relying on your fiancée for an allowance. I remain cynical and sceptical.

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I did not say you were suicidal, I said you sounded suicidal. In your first post you were all over the place - not sleeping, crying, talking about getting antidepressants. You have given a timeline of 2 days and yet you have managed to apply to several places and even had a reply from one. You have seen a psychologist, a dentist and a doctor, you have managed to shop around for insurance and met with family. After only 2 days you are relying on your fiancée for an allowance. I remain cynical and sceptical.

Yeah. That's all little all over the place. OP did kinda go from zero to sixty & back to zero.

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Going to her first post, she was fired 3 days before posting here so that makes it 5 days. Having time to calm down, talk with people and work towards improving oneself as well as getting a reply to an application does wonders for a person's mood. Just because things are looking up does not mean she is not still depressed about things.

OP, keep it up. You are working hard to do what you need to do. Applying for a job is never fun. Be positive in any interviews you do. Keep on applying for work. You will find one. Being patient about it is the hard thing.

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All I do know, is that you can never yell at a resident. I've been an RN for over 20 years, and no matter what, don't care how bad your day is, it is not ever "ok" to yell at someone that you are supposed to be taking care of. I too have trouble believing your explanation. Also, I believe that you too have to call your board of nursing to tell them you were fired and why. The state will investigate the complaint made from your former employer, and it is never a good idea to post the details of your case on a public forum. Every nurse I have seen been charged with abuse of any kind, either made the choice to move onto something else, or were forced to. If you have anger issues, nursing is a bad choice for you. Why did you become a nurse in the first place? You need to be of sound mind to be a nurse. And because your abuse was witnessed, you defiantly need a lawyer. is not going to help you after the fact. Since your fiance makes so much money, he can pay for an attorney. If you can't handle LTC, working with such a special population, who have lived through many things in their lives, and were yelled at because he was hungry, you should be thinking of a different career choice. If you really are seeing a doctor for your issues, then that is a good thing. But I personally don't want you caring for patients/residents if you can't figure out how to handle a stressful night. Got a news flash for you, nursing is stressful no matter what you do, there is no stress free job for a nurse.

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All I do know, is that you can never yell at a resident. I've been an RN for over 20 years, and no matter what, don't care how bad your day is, it is not ever "ok" to yell at someone that you are supposed to be taking care of. I too have trouble believing your explanation. Also, I believe that you too have to call your board of nursing to tell them you were fired and why. The state will investigate the complaint made from your former employer, and it is never a good idea to post the details of your case on a public forum. Every nurse I have seen been charged with abuse of any kind, either made the choice to move onto something else, or were forced to. If you have anger issues, nursing is a bad choice for you. Why did you become a nurse in the first place? You need to be of sound mind to be a nurse. And because your abuse was witnessed, you defiantly need a lawyer. Malpractice insurance is not going to help you after the fact. Since your fiance makes so much money, he can pay for an attorney. If you can't handle LTC, working with such a special population, who have lived through many things in their lives, and were yelled at because he was hungry, you should be thinking of a different career choice. If you really are seeing a doctor for your issues, then that is a good thing. But I personally don't want you caring for patients/residents if you can't figure out how to handle a stressful night. Got a news flash for you, nursing is stressful no matter what you do, there is no stress free job for a nurse.

I've been fired from jobs before & never reported it to the BON.

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You are supposed to. Do you want her taking care of someone you love? I dont. And the mere fact she can listen to the birds, and "lol" plus, she atempted a little toad catching a few days after being fired from her 1st nursing job is amazing to me. She is making excuses for abuse, and not in any of her post did she even mention any remorse of the abuse, and the man she abused, only trying to figure out who dimed her in, that she got caught. I guarantee if the yelling had not been witnessed, she would have not even thought about it the next day. And you so casually mention that you too have been fired from nursing jobs, seems like you feel just awful about your being termed, more than once.

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You are supposed to. Do you want her taking care of someone you love? I dont. And the mere fact she can listen to the birds, and "lol" plus, she atempted a little toad catching a few days after being fired from her 1st nursing job is amazing to me. She is making excuses for abuse, and not in any of her post did she even mention any remorse of the abuse, and the man she abused, only trying to figure out who dimed her in, that she got caught. I guarantee if the yelling had not been witnessed, she would have not even thought about it the next day. And you so casually mention that you too have been fired from nursing jobs, seems like you feel just awful about your being termed, more than once.

Well when you get off your high horse, I'll be down here.

Because yes, I've been fired. No, I didn't report it myself & yes I still have my license with no issues. I've held multiple jobs since I've been fired. Never had an issue getting job.

The fact that you are basing her whole nursing career on this one incident says a lot about you as a person. I'm not gonna say no I wouldn't let her take care of my family member because we've all had those tough patients & tough days. Then when combined it really can wear us down, I've been there. Granted I've never yelled at a patient, I wouldn't say she's a terrible nurse. That is going too far. It's not like she yelled in his face or physically abused him. C'mon now.

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You are supposed to. Do you want her taking care of someone you love? I dont. And the mere fact she can listen to the birds, and "lol" plus, she atempted a little toad catching a few days after being fired from her 1st nursing job is amazing to me. She is making excuses for abuse, and not in any of her post did she even mention any remorse of the abuse, and the man she abused, only trying to figure out who dimed her in, that she got caught. I guarantee if the yelling had not been witnessed, she would have not even thought about it the next day. And you so casually mention that you too have been fired from nursing jobs, seems like you feel just awful about your being termed, more than once.

My psychologist diagnosed me with panic disorder. The anxiety was what triggered the event in case. I was immediately remorseful of the event, even before they terminated me.

I am a caring person. I went to nursing because I thought I was going to have a supportive environment. But no facility has supported me to this point and it is making me loose faith slowly in this career...plus being in a crises situation...that's not a good mix.

My mistake has been made. I will learn from it in every way I can and move on. I can't let this continue to haunt me but if I do ever get a job again, I'm going to have a very, very different attitude and perspective regarding my career. I will be more positive, and not let what other people say or do get to me. I'm building my self esteem slowly.

I am sorry you feel that I should not be a nurse. I'm going to have to be until I figure something else out if I decide it's not right for me. so I'm going to be the best nurse I can be while I am.

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Worried nurse.....yes we all have had tough days, unbearable patients, but u can't yell at a patient, not ever. I am not on a "high horse", nurses take an oath at their pinning ceramony, look it up, its good for all of us to read it once in awhile. For 17 of the 23 years, I worked as an oncology nurse, and as awful and as stressful and as impossible as some of those paticular days/weeks were, I never yelled at anyone. Did I want to, of course, but you cant. It is a part of the responsibility of being trusted by the people that you are caring for, that no matter how bad your shift is, their day is always worse than yours. So waiting for a nurturing environment that HR and the nurse manager that interviewed you promises you, also will not happen. They also have impossible jobs, it is not fun being told everything about everyone, day after day, and expected to get people to do the right thing and make ever person that works on the unit happy, because everyone wants something different. Some places are better than others, but you cant blame everyone else, because you keep a job because of a pay check,. Nuring is a calling, its much bigger than a pay check.And as a charge nurse, you have to set the tone for the rest of the staff. It's your environment, you control it. You can go into the BR and yell into a towel, take a break for 5 minutes, do what you have to to get over that hump. Nursing is not for everone, and if you start screaming at old people who are hungry, it's a problem.

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