I got good news finally. I might have a chance to work with the military…I wont be with the services but I can work as a nurse outside of the service itself. I was contacted by the HR there and they have potential openings for nurses with less than a year of experience so here's crossing my fingers!
I called the NSO…it took almost an hour to get with someone but I discussed my case with them and heard what they had to recommend. I explained the situation that occurred and they put a rush order on my order, and hopefully I will hear back from someone asap. I have heard that I will not be able to get coverage for the incident that occurred because I got insurance the day after I was terminated. I really hope this is not the case and that they do not drop me because I cannot afford an attorney.
I also got auto insurance today finally. I know it's a bit pricey considering my circumstance but I can't go without it. I applied to a few more place. No calls or emails yet…gah the wait is the worst part!
I went to my psychologist for the first meeting. It lasted about an hour and he basically took my info of my history. Something hit me though when I was talking to him: I think I become unsure of myself very quickly especially in unsupportive environments due to my history of being bullied at schools and home. I am meeting again with him Friday to further discuss how to work out frustration and stress during work. Each visit is only 20 bucks, thank God for good insurance!
I came home and took a nice relaxing bath while I watched the birds. I found we have a toad living in our front yard, and after a failed attempt at catching him I decided to name him Julio lol!
I am not talking about practicing nursing like it is 1850. And yes, I understand that nurses are highly educated professionals. The tradition and history that I am talking about, leads us all to have a professional desire to deliver the best care possible at all times, and no, that does not mean to suggest fresh air for a patient with tb. And as far as Florence Nightingale goes, i don't care if anyone knows the pledge, had a pinning ceramony, or even went to their graduation, that is your own business. But i do know that understanding the history of any profession your in, will help you not to repeat prior mistakes. Because she is the mother of modern nursing, knowing that history and tradition is important so you can have some understanding of what others before you went through. It only makes you respect your career more. My Lord, she was a feminist in the 1800's, I think she at least deserves your respect. The "calling" I refer to is not God nessasarily whispering to you to go into nursing. It's the realization that being a nurse is much bigger than yourself, and it is a huge responsibility. Do I think that what the nurse that yelled (first she said yelled, then she "raised" her voice) at the "pouting, crying, manipulative" man who was hungry should be fired? Yes I do. Do I think that she should be punished for the rest of her life? No, of course not. But I don't believe she is telling the truth. She saw an orthodontist, a dentist, a doctor, and her new psychologist, who diagnosed her the first time she saw him, cleaned her home, did the laundry, went for a walk, emotionally supported her fiance who was having a bad day at work, got a call for a job working as a civilian nurse that she didn't apply for, but apparently somehow knew she needed work, chased a toad, spent time with her family, applied for other jobs, spent time on this site, I think she said checking it every 15 minutes, cooked tacos with honey in them, watched a movie with her fiance, was very emotionally distraught, got malpractice insurance, who gave her advice, but they gave poor customer service because she wasn't insured at the time of the incident, tried to get anwsers from where she was terninated, I can't remember anything else, and all of this happened in a span of a few days. Just saying, I don't believe her. And I do hope she gets her life together, I just don't think it should be as someone who has to take care of people. She needs to focus on getting well. I believe that people change for awhile when they are told they made a mess of whatever, but eventually return to whatever screwed them up in the first place. Not just her, me, you, all of us.And the first year as a nurse is so stressful, no matter what venue she chooses. It will set her up for failure.
Does it really matter to you and upset you that much that she did all those things in a few days time? I have a resume posted on Indeed.com and yes, I have received calls from numerous employers for jobs that I never had applied for...I just don't understand why you are so worried about the OP. You said you are suspicious of her...ok, that's your problem. The OP came here looking for help, not to be chastised. SMH
I hope you are doing better. You came here for advice/comfort. Instead you got some nasty responses that probably added to your stress. Raising your voice to a patient is not ideal but it is not verbal abuse. I cannot forsee that you would be reported to the BON. I can understand that you were terminated for this as lots of places will set you up for failure and then recoil when someone shows signs of cracking under the pressure. That seems to be nursing in 2015: nurses are asked to do so much but now with a smile at all times.
I also find it hard to believe that there are soooooo many people who answered this post who have never ever raised their voice to a patient. It happens to even the most saintly of us. It is definitely a wake up call when it happens.
As far as the original poster feeling sorry for her actions that is probably hard to do at the moment. Getting fired is traumatic and right now the focus is on herself. She will need time and space to sort all this out. It will be an emotional roller coaster for her so it makes sense her posts are all over the place. I think it is quite possible to be compassionate to her. Difficult patients push buttons and often take satisfaction in doing it.
Thank you for your kind words and concern. I am currently now going on three weeks without employment. I am heavily considering going on unemployment temporarily until I get phone calls back from the places I've interviewed for.
I have been going to a psychiatrist/psychologist since I was terminated and they heavily suggest I start antidepressants. Turns out anxiety and depression can both be debilitating in the workplace and its good to tackle it now before I start a job again.
I sincerely hope that things start to work in my favor soon.
Specializes in Med-Surg, OB, ICU, Public Health Nursing.
I am struggling with this thread for a variety of reasons. "Worried Nurse 25" joined 9/14/15 and "nursewholovenursing" joined 9/16/15 and neither poster has any experience listed on their bio. My cynical self actually wonders if both posters are one and the same poster? Anyone else have antennas go up when there is no descipription of their nursing experience? "Nursewholovenursing" presented later as a 20 year nurse and "loven" just doesn't jive with 20 years of experience, in my opinion.
I am also struggling with too many absolutes. "never yelled at a patient." I would yell "NO" at a patient who was about to strike me in the face. I would yell "NO" and run to the bedside at a patient who was pulling out their art line or trache. We have all had bad days and maybe "nursewholovenuring" never yelled at a patient, (doubt it, unless really a newbie/student). Yes, I am very suspicious. I also have to wonder about eye rolls, stomping out, sighs, whispering under your breath, etc.
The other absolute, "you have to report yourself to BRN." I have never heard of that. Let's not forget this a national/international forum. I understand mandatory reporting of abuse in the US but not reporting a firing. For example, you are tardy 5 times and get fired, that's reportable???
I am sure I yelled at a patient. I am not perfect....maybe I didn't want to get hit, spat or cursed at or on a very rare occassion, maybe I wasn't at my best.
Those who fall from a high horse, have a long way to fall and strike hard ground upon impact.
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Does it really matter to you and upset you that much that she did all those things in a few days time? I have a resume posted on Indeed.com and yes, I have received calls from numerous employers for jobs that I never had applied for...I just don't understand why you are so worried about the OP. You said you are suspicious of her...ok, that's your problem. The OP came here looking for help, not to be chastised. SMH