Dating Patients

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Anyone here ever date/go out/marry a patient. I personally have never done it, but have seen it happen....i recall one time a male nurse dated a patients daughter...We got her on our floor one day after she attempted suicide, he had cheated on her.

Another employee dated a patient and married them........They both were married prior.......

Just curious if anyone else has seen this

awhhh...that's so cute!!!

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Specializes in Med-Surg.
He would be just another pt. who would receive treatment and care from me, just like any other pt. would.

True but the idea of dating him isn't gross is it? :rotfl:

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Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, Home Health, Oncology.

I never have, but I worked with a CNA years ago, who married one of her patients. They were both elderly at the time--It could have been better, I guess, but it wasn't too bad for her.

Mary Ann

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Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, Home Health, Oncology.

CurlySue.

That's so cute!!

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Since all of my patients are either pregnant women or newborns I guess I will never have this issue!!! LOL (Since I am now divorced maybe I should change my specialty to find myself a new guy??!! Just kidding)

:chuckle

icky and way unethical but, sadly, true- a nurse who works on my unit PRN ended up dating the boyfriend of one of her labor patients. I did not know her at the time but she's quite open about it. She has a history of crossing personal/professional boundaries and befriended the patient, which led to a friendship outside the hospital which opened the door to the relationship with the FOB. Ick, yuck, bad.

I also work with a nurse who married a former patient of hers many years ago, before she worked OB. She's a very proper, quiet, older woman; it's practically scandalous for her :p They're a very sweet couple :)

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Geriatric, Behavioral Health.

This whole topic deals with what is called "dual relationships". Many BON have in place strong language against it. For one thing, it is unethical. It has to deal with the real potential for and the actual abuse of power...in this case, the nurse taking advantage of a patient, regardless how the two come together. The patient is seen, in a nurse-patient relationship, as being in a weaker power role or in a weakened frame of mind. Some states sanction licenses for it. Usually when the BON is aware of it, it is because a dual relationship existed and went terribly wrong with the patient contacting the BON afterward. So, dating really is and should be a no-no. You may need to look up your BON's rules and guidelines in your own state.

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Dating a patient would be unprofessional behavior at its worst IMHO and one would risk their job and their license. I'm sure it happens (hopefully loooong AFTER the nurse patient relationship ends) but people wisely keep mum.

I worked with a nurse once who had an open fetish for black men...she hit on every one who came into our unit, doc, staff AND patients. I found it disgusting to be in that kind of unprofessional environment and didn't stay long. I complained to my manager numerous times, but only after a married patient complained was anything ever done about it.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

how would nurses dating patients be any better than psychologists/therapist dating their clients? I don't think it's right. I still say, ewwww.

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Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.
True but the idea of dating him isn't gross is it? :rotfl:

Actually it is. I don't flip for him. He doesn't do anything for me.

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Specializes in Community Health Nurse.

I've never dated a patient, but I've had patients that I've felt an attraction to...........just kept it alllllllllllllllll to myself. Patients are human beings and human beings are attracted to each other, so regardless of where you see a good looking person, the attraction is the same AS LONG AS your feelings are kept in check......remain mature and professional....don't pursue those feelings!!! :rolleyes:

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Interesting..........

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I've never dated a patient, but I've had patients that I've felt an attraction to...........just kept it alllllllllllllllll to myself. Patients are human beings and human beings are attracted to each other, so regardless of where you see a good looking person, the attraction is the same AS LONG AS your feelings are kept in check......remain mature and professional....don't pursue those feelings!!! :rolleyes:

This pt must have ben HOT! :chuckle

I can't imagine yet how I could be attracted to a pt attatched to i.v's, foleys, and looking...well....not their best.

Of course you may work in an outpatient facility..I don't know.

Y'a never know who you'll meet. :rotfl:

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