Date MD's??

HididiScribbler · Jul 1, 2006

(do you want the CEO or the nerd from your high school chemistry class? A Phd does not take the dork out of these guys)

I'm weird...I'd go for the nerd If I wasn't already the nerd in my college chemistry classes *grins*

vamedic4, EMT-P · Jul 1, 2006

Having worked in this teaching hospital for quite a lonnnng time with many, many residents, I've seen it all. Docs who date young nurses, nurses looking for doctors to date...just name your scenario.

For many women it seems that it's about finding someone whom they believe has similar interests, or someone who's "fun". No problems there, right? For the guys?? Um, if you need me to spell it out for you...

It's like this...nurses - you've graduated. You're working. You're getting paid. You have a great career and you're on solid ground, can make your own decisions and do what you want.

MDs?? They're chained to their hospital. Residents have little time for sleep, to say nothing of other necessities. So they prioritize. They've always got a goal in mind. And I can tell you from my experience with some of the MDs I've worked with - sex is a high priority, relationships...not so much. You're taking a risk there.

Please know that this doesn't mean that there aren't good doctors out there who are also good people...of course there are - you just have to be careful in finding the right one.

Who wants a relationship with a guy who works 80 hour weeks anyway? Me? I work my 3 12 hour night shifts a week, come home and play with my kids all day long.

ava'smomRN · Jul 1, 2006

i think its best to not date anyone you work with, doctor, nurse, tech, secretay, houskeeper, food service.....

teeituptom, BSN, RN · Jul 1, 2006

Never at work anyway

Besides why date a Doc, to me thats stepping down a notch

lucyallsamlpn · Jul 7, 2006

I have to say yeah and nay! I date al doc and have been for going on a year now. it works for us b/c i understand about call and latenights/earliier mornings.No one treats me any different except believe it or not i am more respected by the other docs. and when they have a need or conflict they come to me most of the time for help. but dont think its a dream relationship, growing a practice and not getting very many vacations is hard. so if u r not 2 needy then go for it, but if u need someone 24/7 dont.

SueBee RN-BSN · Jul 7, 2006

I just have a question to everyone out there. How many of you have dated a doctor? How was the relationship with regards to the work environment, home, etc? Did your co-workers treat you differently?

Dated one when I was in the navy. I grew to not like him very much. He was too controling, and always had to have the last word. I liked his friends. Navy pilots were fun to party with!! The jag types (lawyers) were better that the docs, more fun with conversation. I'm married now, and glad the dating game is over!!!!

Have fun, but don't forget about yourself.

**canoehead, BSN, RN** · Jul 7, 2006

Pawpaw, I am sure you would make a great ornamental display. At Christmastime does the star still go on top of the tree at your house?

RedcarRN · Jul 8, 2006

Ha!

I work with some wonderful doc's but really... just because they're a doctor doesn't mean they are wonderful.

I would say that if you find someone that you think you could really love, then you need to go for it. No matter what.

If it's a doc you work with... well.. Anyone who is in a position above you can be sticky. I've seen nurses do this and some have handles it well and others, not so well.

I think it's a very individual thing.

Ultimately, love is everything and nothing should hold anyone back.

Aunt Bytes · Jul 8, 2006

Besides why date a Doc, to me thats stepping down a notch

Can I get a big AMEN to that!!

june-pearl · Jul 8, 2006

I would understand if this were a thread about dating doctors you work with--but just doctors in general? As though they're all cast from a single mold by some machine. Get your factory-produced medical professionals here! Free ginsu knife with purchase.

Joker41479 · Jul 8, 2006

i think its best to not date anyone you work with, doctor, nurse, tech, secretay, houskeeper, food service.....

I totally agree with this. I've seen this attempted and it seems like it doesn't work out. A male nurse and a secretary on a floor I once worked on began to date. And when it was all over the secretary ended up going to another unit and the male nurse would begin to purposely walk on that unit to annoy and mock the secretary. Overall, the male nurse was being very childish and not being professional. Yet, this is another example. I dated a fellow nurse and then we broke up. It wasn't a pretty site when it was all over and the situation ended up the opposite of my previous story. She tried to hurt my career with some false things. Besides there are so many people out there. But, my career was almost ruined when i tried it. I can understand when you work long hours or don't have much of an opportunity to meet people that you might think it is a good idea. I thought the same thing. In addtion, it may work out 5 times out of 10. Yet, I feel it's not a plan people in any field should try out. Whether it be in hospital, the office, etc. Nevertheless, maybe someday I might break down and try to date someone on my unit again but I hope I'm in the good half.

mariposanocturna · Jul 8, 2006

Mindy, I dated a doc for 5 years. I am only 28 so I started with him at 23 a year older than you. we started when he was doing a residency and everthing was fine..... but... as soon as he became private practice and GI and Oncology fellow... forget it... he flipped completely... I think the fact that MD's write "ORDERS" for us RN's really gives them that power, I'm better than you trip... my advice don't get into it, it might be good at first, but BELIEVE me... been there... done that... he WILL change. not only that, he cheated on me with a fellow RN. how about that!