Cousin commited suicide..could use some prayers guys

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Just found out my cousin, jumped off a bridge overlooking the major expressway here. As you could imagine, this forced the closure of the entire expressway for hours. His name was Ken. Had a TBI, and struggled with depression, as do I, which was a shared hurt. His father, who's across the country, refuses to come claim the body. Some people still refuse to care, even after death, I guess.

RIP, dear Ken. I know the pain is gone now, my friend. :o

So sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you.

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Rehab nurse and realnursealso, my prayers are with you. I am so sorry. :-(

I am sorry to hear of both of your losses. Rehab nurse, please don't neglect your own needs now. You're in my prayers.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. You did right to come here and share with people who care.

About five years ago, one of my daughter's apartment mates did the same thing--jumped off a bridge to his death. She felt so bad for not stopping him, but the truth is that someone who is intent on ending his life (as opposed to crying out for help) rarely makes his intentions known.

She went back and forth in her emotions, feeling angry one moment and hurt the next. Mostly, she just missed him and felt a great sense of sadness that he had been in that much pain.

I'm sorry that your uncle has distanced himself from the situation. Who knows what is going on in his heart and mind. Fortunately, your cousin has you to remember him with love and mercy. Forgive each man for his shortcomings and resist the urge to judge motives, if you can.

Please, get counseling if you are able. With your history of depression (but even if you didn't have that) it's extremely important to surround yourself with nurturing people (as you have done by coming here) who can lend you their perspective while yours is strained and bathe you in kindness and consideration.

At some point, you may want to put together some kind of tribute to your cousin. A small memorial service for those who knew him. A letter from the heart containing those things you would say to him if you had the chance. A kindness done on his behalf for someone in need. The way he ended his life doesn't disqualify him from recognition of all that went before.

Don't be surprised if you find yourself angry at times. You'd be mad at anyone who took him out of your life, and that is no less true because he was the culprit. This doesn't negate your love for him. The two feelings often co-exist and find a balancing point.

Journaling might help you. So might talking to people you trust. Prayer is a good way to pour out your heart. And, of course, feel free to come here for comfort.

Thank you for sharing this with us. I'll put you in my prayers.

Specializes in acute care.

I'm sorry to hear this. (This week I had a classmate reveal to me that she just tried to take her life due to stress and depression.) My prayers go out to you and your family.

Specializes in LTC, office.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health.

sorrowsmiley2.gif I am so truly, truly sorry, rehabnurse.

I wish there was more I could say. Gentlest of hugs. :o

Count me in with the rest, I will remember you in my prayers. So sorry. Take care good care of yourself.

I am so, so sorry RehabNurse. There are no words.:o

Please know that my thoughts are with you and everyone else that loved Ken.

aww I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.

Specializes in pedi, pedi psych,dd, school ,home health.

((((((hugs and sympathy to both of you)))))))

Specializes in Onc/Hem, School/Community.

I am sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

Sincerely,

Kim

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