I have, as I am sure you all do as well, several students who are the children of people who work in my school. Several teachers, a few cafeteria workers and custodians. Do you guys ever notice that some of these students have a sense of entitlement or deserve special treatment because their mom or dad works at the school?
One 4th grader in particular comes to mind. He comes to see me kind of frequently and it's always for ridiculous stuff. Invisible injuries, wants an ice pack, vague symptoms. I've yet to see him actually sick or injured. I don't mind how much he comes to see me as much as I mind his attitude when he does. He acts like we are peers or, worse yet, like I am his subordinate. I'll never forget once he walked in, dropped his pass on my desk without making eye contact and said "medicine."
I said "Excuse me?" and he goes "I need medicine" and sits down.
I was so annoyed. I said "You do not walk into this office and just demand things. Take your pass, go out into the hallway, walk through the door and tell me what you need using decent manners." I was so irritated. He also walks through the office with his mom at the end of the day and takes things off the secretary's desk (candy, pencils, etc)
I think a lot of it is his mom. She's... not my favorite and seems to encourage the thought that her kid is the most specialest snowflake on Earth. Once, I was locking my office after dismissal. Sunglasses and coat on, ready to go and mom comes up and asks if I can reapply first aid cream to little darling's paper cut that was so urgently sent down to me earlier.
Seriously? All that is doing is sending a message to the kid that every little discomfort needs to be treated AND that his needs are more important that those of other people. Like my need to go home at the end of the day!
Does anyone else have this experience with kids whose family members work at the school?
My mom was the high school cafeteria manager. Sense of entitlement? LOL I feared doing anything at school. I had 100 spies to tattle on me. There is no way of hiding anything from her.
My kids are constantly complaining about this. They've often asked me to go work somewhere else.
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My mom was the high school cafeteria manager. Sense of entitlement? LOL I feared doing anything at school. I had 100 spies to tattle on me. There is no way of hiding anything from her.
I get that "How did you know about THAT?" look several times a day, LOL.
I almost feel like it's the opposite. There are a lot of staff kids (including my own) that attend the schools I work in and I probably give them slightly more TLC just because I know them, but they're all nice kids and none are frequent flyers. All are reasonable and know (as my kids know) that their parents will be informed if they misbehave. I like to tell my kids that I have spies everywhere--which I basically do!
I almost feel like it's the opposite. There are a lot of staff kids (including my own) that attend the schools I work in and I probably give them slightly more TLC just because I know them, but they're all nice kids and none are frequent flyers. All are reasonable and know (as my kids know) that their parents will be informed if they misbehave. I like to tell my kids that I have spies everywhere--which I basically do!
I tend to see more of this side of the coin. I give them a bit more TLC, and see them as a part of the family.
I have staff that go pick up their sick kids from the elementary school (we are Middle School) and ask if I can take care of them rest of day. I politely tell them NOOOOOOO!!! I have 1300 kids in my care already, do not need any more. Besides, the legalities of caring for a kid not even assigned to my campus.....
"You do not walk into this office and just demand things. Take your pass, go out into the hallway, walk through the door and tell me what you need using decent manners."
Yessss!
I have a number of students who have staff as parents. I do notify the parent once I have assessed them. At times it is nice to have them there, since they can come and give ibuprofen to their kid, etc.
One in particular was a HUGE frequent flyer but it has gotten better. Mom finally said "enough!"
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It really does boil down to parenting. I have another teacher (who is a saint, by the way) with 2 kids in the school. I've seen them once this year, both times they were genuinely sick. Sweetest kids you could ever ask for and polite as anything. What happens at home translates to school behavior, people!
One of my daily med students' mom USED to work here. She's not even employed here anymore but the student likes to act like this gives her some sort of pull in the nurse's office. This family also had an odd relationship with my predecessor so that might have something to do with it as well.
It really does boil down to parenting. I have another teacher (who is a saint, by the way) with 2 kids in the school. I've seen them once this year, both times they were genuinely sick. Sweetest kids you could ever ask for and polite as anything. What happens at home translates to school behavior, people!
That goes so far, my 2 kids are angels around others, my "not my child" child has 7 years with us and we can't let him out of our sight. He is still a reflection of us as we are raising him. Our challenge in life.
My mom was the high school cafeteria manager. Sense of entitlement? LOL I feared doing anything at school. I had 100 spies to tattle on me. There is no way of hiding anything from her.
Yes. My kid, too. He knows better, because my wrath is fast and swift.
That being said, people may say he's getting extras, like Student Council and sports leadership stuff, but it's not because of me. He earned all this before I was working there. Because he's mostly a great kid. :)
My mom was the high school cafeteria manager. Sense of entitlement? LOL I feared doing anything at school. I had 100 spies to tattle on me. There is no way of hiding anything from her.
This. My mom worked for my school district. She did several different jobs throughout the years I was in school, and as luck would have it, she was frequently working in the same building as me. It was a very small district so there was no getting away with ANYTHING. Ever. The only advantage was that if I had forgot lunch or lunch money, I usually had a resource. Otherwise, I knew I had better be on the straight and narrow.
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My kids are constantly complaining about this. They've often asked me to go work somewhere else.