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Can I stay at home to watch my boyfriend with out a nurse degree? He has medical issues. He has a patch in the back of his head from a stroke he had a year ago. The doctor told him to sit down and do nothing. Is it possible to watch him with out having a degree (just making sure he don't get up and do things he's not suppose to do)? If so who would I contact? I currently live with him (and no I'm not trying to get out of going out and not finding work) I just really love him and don't want something bad to happen to him.
I was thinking more along the lines of a bald spot, or some sort of skin issue (like cradle cap or a strange wound with a dressing) vs. a medication patch, so now I'm even more confused.
And I was thinking it was a craniectomy/missing bone flap. I have never heard of anyone describe anything as a "patch" on the back of one's head after a stroke or neurosurgery. And I worked in neurosurgery for 5 years and had neurosurgery myself.
A client's mother I had one time was a CNA and her live-in boyfriend was graduating from nursing school. They planned on him going to work for an agency to take care of her homebound daughter and thought that they could get by with the ruse because he had a different surname, they were not married and therefore not legally relatives, and they were going to keep their mouths shut about the true relationship. It would have been interesting to see if they could get away with it, but I don't think that one happened. Agree with the others. This is a bad idea.
In California, the boyfriend may qualify for In Home Supportive Services (contact a social worker since I don't know OP or the BFs situation). The state pays a caregiver (pretty much anyone that can pass a background check and DOES NOT need any medical training). You wouldn't be paid to watch him 24/7, but depending on his medical needs, you can get paid for #hours the state thinks he needs.
And I was thinking it was a craniectomy/missing bone flap. I have never heard of anyone describe anything as a "patch" on the back of one's head after a stroke or neurosurgery. And I worked in neurosurgery for 5 years and had neurosurgery myself.
That could be why he is maybe told to do nothing? Maybe he doesn't have a helmet? A year is just such a long time for a bone flap. And every bone flap I have ever seen has been on one side of the head or other. I've never seen one on the back. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
That could be why he is maybe told to do nothing? Maybe he doesn't have a helmet? A year is just such a long time for a bone flap. And every bone flap I have ever seen has been on one side of the head or other. I've never seen one on the back. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
Someone with a craniectomy and missing bone flap I assume would have a helmet. And I agree, a year is a long time. When I worked in neurosurgery, most patients had their bone flaps replaced before they left the hospital because if they had something serious enough to warrant a craniectomy, it was a long hospitalization. The only one I can recall who went home without her bone flap was because of an infection that needed to be treated before it could be replaced. She went home with a helmet and it was replaced a few months later.
Someone with a craniectomy and missing bone flap I assume would have a helmet. And I agree, a year is a long time. When I worked in neurosurgery, most patients had their bone flaps replaced before they left the hospital because if they had something serious enough to warrant a craniectomy, it was a long hospitalization. The only one I can recall who went home without her bone flap was because of an infection that needed to be treated before it could be replaced. She went home with a helmet and it was replaced a few months later.
Most of ours do too. I've seen a couple discharged to an LTACH but they were not allowed to leave without helmets.
This just seems like an odd story and somebody trying to scam the system. But then again, I don't know how things are done all around the country. I know how my hospital does things.
Penelope_Pitstop, BSN, RN
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I was thinking more along the lines of a bald spot, or some sort of skin issue (like cradle cap or a strange wound with a dressing) vs. a medication patch, so now I'm even more confused.