Being Naked Where I Work: A Nurse With Cancer

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to all of you who have emailed me and pm'd me with questions about my health and kind words of caring and encouragement, a heartfelt thank you. it really has made all of this much easier knowing i have such good friends on allnurses.com! i expect i will be picking the brains of some of you who have offered sometime in the future! i'm a complete ignoramus regarding matters of oncology . . . except of course from the patient perspective!

despite my long held and non-negotiable policy against being naked where i work, i now expect to bare it all to anesthesia (some of whose numbers i've worked beside for nearly a decade in the icu) and surgeons (some of whom have done rotations through my icu) in early june. my husband talked me into it.

my breast cancer has a great prognosis. we caught it early, it's a small tumor and it's not one of the nastier ones. i'll have surgery -- and yes, i *do* get a breast reduction out of the deal (whoo-hoo!) -- and radiation therapy. no chemo unless it looks worse than they expect when they get in there. i's going to be a lousy summer, but i'll have much to be grateful for when thanksgiving rolls around.

unfortunately, there may be a second malignancy, and i'll be going into the or next week to rule that out. (or in, as the case may be.)

i've beaten cancer (cervical) twice already, i fully expect to kick cancer's ass again and be back to munching on new grads (so to speak) online as soon as i can sit up straight to type. in the meantime, i'm holding all of the good will messages i've gotten close to my heart where hopefully they'll circulate systemically and give me all the positive vibes i need.

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

Ruby, I am sending my thoughts, prayers, and positive thinging your way. :hug: I have to admit that I am jealous that at least one TaTa's gets placed back you on your chest where it belongs....:lol2: See if they are having any 2 for 1 specials.! ;)

PM me anytime you need a friend, sounding board, shrink, advice, sympathetic ear!!

ok ruby...

you have a boatload of love and support behind you

far more than enough *ammunition* to fight the c-word.

time to kick ass.

we're here, you know that.

quickly - yesterday i was at a dr's office and was speaking to his wife...

who works with the doc, and she has her bsn.

she shared with me that yrs ago, she had stage 4 lymphoma and fought it...

then got stage 4 ovarian ca 5 yrs ago...and fought it once again.

she fully believes her "**** you" attitude was instrumental in fighting these demons.

i believe that as well....

that our mindsets are critical in being victorious...or not.

we got your back...you got the rest. ;)

leslie :kiss

Specializes in LTC Rehab Med/Surg.

I can't add a single thing bigger, better, or more heart felt than what has been posted already. I'll just post my, hoping for a quick and complete recovery, on top of everybody elses. There's no such thing as too much support.

Don't worry too much about the naked thing. You'll get through it.

Next year your colleagues will remember you beat CA, and they were part of that victory. Not that you were naked.

:hug: Sending good vibes your way, Ruby.

I know if it were me, I'd want all the prayers, kind words, best wishes anyone could muster up. Prayers and best wishes for a speedy and uneventful recovery.

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Hugs!:hug:Should I ever be in a similar situation, I hope I can face it with even a partial amount of your strength and humor. You truly are an inspiration.
Should you ever be in my position -- and I sincerely hope you aren't -- you'll face it in the best way YOU know how. One step at a time. But thank you for the compliment.
Specializes in Trauma, ER, ICU, CCU, PACU, GI, Cardiology, OR.

a dear friend that happens to be the ceo where i work send this e-mail to me & i felt like sharing it with you ruby vee and so it goes...

miracles~

a little girl went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet.

she poured the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. three times, even.. the total had to be exactly perfect... no chance here for mistakes.. carefully placing the coins back in the jar and twisting on the cap, she slipped out the back door and made her way 6 blocks to rexall's drug store with the big red indian chief sign above the door. she waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention, but he was too busy at this moment. tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. nothing. she cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster. no good. finally she took a quarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. that did it!

'and what do you want?' the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice. i'm talking to my brother from chicago whom i haven't seen in ages,' he said without waiting for a reply to his question.

'well, i want to talk to you about my brother,' tess answered back in the same annoyed tone.. 'he's

really, really sick....and i want to buy a miracle.'

'i beg your pardon?' said the pharmacist. 'his name is andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my daddy says only a miracle can save him now. so how much does a miracle cost?' 'we don't sell miracles here, little girl.

i'm sorry but i can't help you,' the pharmacist said, softening a little.

'listen, i have the money to pay for it. if it isn't enough, i will get the rest. just tell me how much it costs.' the pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. he stooped down and asked the little girl, 'what kind of a miracle does your brother need?' ' i don't know,' tess replied with her eyes welling up. i just know he's really sick and mommy says he needs an operation. but my daddy can't pay for it, so i want to use my money..' 'how much do you have?' asked the man from chicago .

'one dollar and eleven cents,' tess answered barely audible. 'and it's all the money i have, but i can get some more if i need to.' 'well, what a coincidence,' smiled the man. 'a dollar and eleven cents---the exact price of a miracle for little brothers.' he took her money in one hand and with the other hand he grasped her mitten and said 'take me to where you live. i want to see your brother and meet your parents. let's see if i have the miracle you need.'

that well-dressed man was dr. carlton armstrong, a surgeon, specializing in neuro-surgery. the operation was completed free of charge and it wasn't long until andrew was home again and doing well. mom and dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place.

'that surgery,' her mom whispered.. 'was a real miracle. i wonder how much it would have cost?'

tess smiled. she knew exactly how much a miracle cost...one dollar and eleven cents...plus the faith of a little child.

in our lives, we never know how many miracles we will need.

a miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law.

ball is a circle, no beginning, no end. it keeps us together like our circle of friends. but the treasure inside for you to see is the treasure of friendship you've granted to me.

today i pass the friendship ball to you.

my oath to you...

when you are sad.....i will dry your tears.

when you are scared.....i will comfort your fears.

when you are worried.......i will give you hope.

when you are confused......i will help you cope.

and when you are lost...and can't see the light, i shall be your beacon...shining ever so bright.

this is my oath.....i pledge till the end.

why you may ask?....because you're my friend.

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

​gitanorn, that one has me bawling! thank you.

Specializes in ortho, hospice volunteer, psych,.
​gitanorn, that one has me bawling! thank you.

me too! thank you, gitanorn

Specializes in LTC, Hospice, Case Management.
​gitanorn, that one has me bawling! thank you.

wiping tears too!

ruby vee - all the best to you.

i would absolutely hate having to be naked in front of coworkers but it wouldn't bother me in the least little bit if i had to care for a naked coworker. i suspect i would nearly trip over myself to help maintain their dignity. i suspect you will find the same. prayers to you.

I would look at it like this...you know how we comfort patients and put them at ease by telling them "...aw, don't worry, we see this kind of thing all day long..." Which is the truth.

If I were to go to my facility, I would be sure to have my own PJs, shorts, etc. and just think of the money I am saving.

I am pretty modest, too, and and the thought of a group of colleagues, medstudents "rounding" on me sounds horrific, but somebody is gonna see anyway.

Most importantly is are they talented and you trust them. Good luck! You could use a prayer, and you'll get a mention in mine tonight.

Dave

I too was nekkid in my facility for a lady partsl hysterectomy. With the our best MD, best anesthetist, and best nurses, I made it through the process, and it didn't even feel like an "ordeal"!

My prayers are with you, Ruby. I enjoy your posts, and expect to see many more after your treatment!

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