I'll make this as short and sweet as possible. I had really bad anxiety in nursing school, was diagnosed with panic attacks etc etc. Over the years I have grown a lot. Started working as a PCA and I went from shy bird to not so shy.
In school I was quiet, yes, but I still had friends and talked to them. I just was not the student who raised their hand up in class or was loud in clinical. I am very reserved and professional in professional settings and always get my work done.
I graduated this March. Failed nclex twice with 265 I honestly believe it was my anxiety combined with not doing enough practice nclex type questions. I finally passed this October my third time.
I began applying for jobs and reached out to a unit I really wanted to work on....I am a float PCA. Immediately got two interviews within days...was told I was going to get hired for my dream job but one more reference was needed from my clinical instructors or instructor.
They told me I had 3 days for my professor to submit the recommendation form so in desperate need to attain my dream job I emailed EVERYONE of my teachers...everyone ignored me or told me they were busy
Low and behold next day I get an email saying they decided to go with another candidate for the job....I apply to about 30 more jobs at my hospital and I was rejected to all automatically....I finally spoke to HR and the lady told me they wont be considering me for a RN position at all for a year until I get experience elsewhere BECAUSE A BAD RECOMMENDATION WAS GIVEN ABOUT ME BY A TEACHER WHO SHE COULDNT SAY WHO IT WAS....
Apparently this person expressed how much they were concerned about me being a "safe and competent" nurse. They also apparently said I would not take the initiative to care for my patients and I wouldnt be a good fit to be a nurse at this time....
SO APPARENTLY 4 YEARS AND 60K+ in debt instructors say this about me?
I also want to know how apparently I have a 3.3 GPA and never once failed out of clinical. Never once got a bad evaluation from a clinical instructor. Yet someone wants to say something bad about me NOW as a new grad and ruin my career and reputation? WHY? I cant express how much I hate nursing now...something I dreamed of doing since I was 7 years old. I cant express how depressed I am. How dumb I feel. How sad I am. How ashamed I feel. How embarrassed I am. I literally am not having the best thoughts right now. I want to just move out of this state and get away FAR AWAY.
I feel like I shouldnt have emailed everyone. I also shouldnt have stated that I got a position in the NICU (mostly NAS and GI problem babies NICU...no vents). I shouldnt have emailed out the forms as well. I feel like this person took advantage of me because the form had to be sent directly to HR so they knew I wouldnt see what they said or who sent it. Im deeply depressed. An entire hospital I was a PCA at for 3 years wont hire me. They said they take comments like that SERIOUS. They spoke with my current manager, looked at my transcripts, looked at me work evaluations and everything was good EXCEPT me failing nclex twice. The HR women said me failing twice with the bad comment was why they came up with that decision.
I am not loving life. Maybe I am not meant to be a nurse. Maybe I am not smart enough. I need somewhere to vent because I literally am about to lose my mind. The NICU was why I went into nursing. I remember going there as a child and I knew thats what I wanted to do...finally my dream was coming true and SOMEONE RUINED IT FOR ME. Help ): Where do I go from here. What do I do.........I worked at one of the best Peds hospitals...I wanted to stay in peds and now I am forced to go work else where..I have no choice...what if no one ever hires me?
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
LOL I love how the above negative people don't know who I am yet are claiming I am an unsafe nurse and lives are being saved. At this point I don't care what you guys think. I don't care if you actually believe I am an unsafe nurse. I know who I am. And I am well known by managers at my hospital. Sadly I was not allowed to use anyone who wasn't my professor as a reference. I came prepared to my interview. None of you were there with me. I obviously made a very good impression if I was chosen for the position over everyone else who applied. At this point I don't care what any of you negative people think of me. Haters gonna hate right? No one will be getting in the way of my dream. Even though this door has closed for me another will be open soon. I know I have good intentions. I love helping people. I would risk my life to help and save someone else's. All the positive feedback on this forum has truly helped me in addition to the support of my close friends I have. I love all the support and advice I was given. And best believe I will use it. You guys give me hope that there are good compassionate people in this world. The rest leaving negative comments.....I hope I don't have to work with people like you. Heart less insensitive people who bring people down during hard times. Instead of taking the time to write me a negative comment save it. I have lurked these boards for years now and I constantly see people attack each other. Stop being so catty. Life is too short. And sadly I enjoyed reading all your negative comments out loud with my friends and we had a great time talking about how pathetic your negative comments are. I asked for advice. I didn't ask for you to tell me that I am an unsafe nurse....why do you think that's ok to tell me when you don't know me? Do you think it will make me feel any lower than I already did? I believe in karma. And honestly I will leave it at that. I'm sure God will take care of things for me. He knows who has good intentions and a good heart. How do you people sleep at night?
Am I mad because you guys told me the truth and I'm offended like some of you stated? No I'm mad that there are unkind insensitive people in this world. Nurses like to eat their young. And I believe a lot of people forget what it's like to be a new grad nurse. To be in school. To take the nclex. I think a lot of you are forgetting the mistakes you have made in life. How you felt when someone put you down etc etc. I asked for advice and I got amazing advice and I will run with it. Thanks again to everyone...I truly am thankful. To all the negative people God Bless and I will no longer be reading comments nor commenting back on here so don't waste your negativity on me. I don't care if you find this comment to be rude at this point. I don't care what you think of me. I just gave you what you dished me. I'm tired of bitter people coming at people's neck in life. I'm tired of getting walked all over and never speaking up for myself because I actually have a heart and I realize people have feelings. I will soon be making a difference in people's lives every day and be more successful than any of the negative people out there including the person who prevented me from getting a job at a hospital. And as I love to always say BYE FELICIA! ������������������������
OK -- so the people who wrote things you agree with are good, compassionate people and the ones you disagree with are rude, negative, bitter and heartless? Now I'm beginning to understand why someone took the time to write out and send in a negative reference. It's unfortunate that you aren't getting it.
I've reviewed the responses since a select few posters have commented that some of us are rude. The responses are honest, not rude. There is a difference.
The OP started this thread for advice. She has received helpful advice, although it isn't what she wanted to hear.
Don't listen to the negativity on here. People always act tough behind a keyboard!
Actually, that's poor advice. I know I would not have evolved into the person I am if I had always filtered out "the negativity" and only listened to people who validated my actions and thoughts. Some of the negative feedback the OP received was actually true and it would have been to the OP's advantage to consider it. It certainly made me wonder if she had rejected the constructive criticism she was given by her instructors.
Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
I'd rather relocate to an area where nursing jobs are more abundant than accept PCT work, but I realize that not everyone has the willingness or means to move.
That, and the fact that the BON would hold the employee to the highest level of licensure. This could put people in a hard place between following their duties as a licensed nurse and acting outside of their job duties. That is why I will never take a position below my level of licensure. I'd work outside healthcare if I absolutely had to first.
OP, there are several things you should take away from this situation:
Be prepared. My school recommended that we get references from our instructors prior to graduating. Those of us who were smart did that. Those who waited weren't quite so lucky.
Realize when you should fight a battle and when you should move on. HR has already told you that you should get experience elsewhere and then consider reapplying. Instead of fixating on this situation, move on, find a new place to work as an RN, and gain experience. You may find that where you end up is where you really want to be after all.
Choose your references wisely. Not everyone is meant to act as a reference. Not everyone will give you a glowing reference as it puts their reputation on the line.
Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
LOL I love how the above negative people don't know who I am yet are claiming I am an unsafe nurse and lives are being saved. At this point I don't care what you guys think. I don't care if you actually believe I am an unsafe nurse. I know who I am. And I am well known by managers at my hospital. Sadly I was not allowed to use anyone who wasn't my professor as a reference. I came prepared to my interview. None of you were there with me. I obviously made a very good impression if I was chosen for the position over everyone else who applied. At this point I don't care what any of you negative people think of me. Haters gonna hate right? No one will be getting in the way of my dream. Even though this door has closed for me another will be open soon. I know I have good intentions. I love helping people. I would risk my life to help and save someone else's. All the positive feedback on this forum has truly helped me in addition to the support of my close friends I have. I love all the support and advice I was given. And best believe I will use it. You guys give me hope that there are good compassionate people in this world. The rest leaving negative comments.....I hope I don't have to work with people like you. Heart less insensitive people who bring people down during hard times. Instead of taking the time to write me a negative comment save it. I have lurked these boards for years now and I constantly see people attack each other. Stop being so catty. Life is too short. And sadly I enjoyed reading all your negative comments out loud with my friends and we had a great time talking about how pathetic your negative comments are. I asked for advice. I didn't ask for you to tell me that I am an unsafe nurse....why do you think that's ok to tell me when you don't know me? Do you think it will make me feel any lower than I already did? I believe in karma. And honestly I will leave it at that. I'm sure God will take care of things for me. He knows who has good intentions and a good heart. How do you people sleep at night?
Am I mad because you guys told me the truth and I'm offended like some of you stated? No I'm mad that there are unkind insensitive people in this world. Nurses like to eat their young. And I believe a lot of people forget what it's like to be a new grad nurse. To be in school. To take the nclex. I think a lot of you are forgetting the mistakes you have made in life. How you felt when someone put you down etc etc. I asked for advice and I got amazing advice and I will run with it. Thanks again to everyone...I truly am thankful. To all the negative people God Bless and I will no longer be reading comments nor commenting back on here so don't waste your negativity on me. I don't care if you find this comment to be rude at this point. I don't care what you think of me. I just gave you what you dished me. I'm tired of bitter people coming at people's neck in life. I'm tired of getting walked all over and never speaking up for myself because I actually have a heart and I realize people have feelings. I will soon be making a difference in people's lives every day and be more successful than any of the negative people out there including the person who prevented me from getting a job at a hospital. And as I love to always say BYE FELICIA! ������������������������
Well, that escalated quickly. I would have to say that if I were interviewing anyone with this kind of attitude, they wouldn't even make it to the second interview. Not everyone will tell you what you want to hear; sometimes, those who get labeled as "haters" are being up front, honest, and realistic. Guess not everyone can handle that.
And she also threw in "I hope I never have to work with any of you" A small leap from "i hope none of you ever take care of my loved ones"
Always with the NETY. And you got a lot of advice. Some you wanted to hear and some that you didn't. Please don't ever come to a message board and expect to be in your side and tell you exactly what you want to hear. There are people who will tell it to you straight. That doesn't mean they have no compassion. Sometimes the truth hurts.
It's a incredibly juvenile phrase that is way over used by typically juvenile minded people.
That phrase has been part of the African American vernacular for 20 years now. Just because you don't understand it or don't understand the significance does not make it juvenile.
Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
That phrase has been part of the African American vernacular for 20 years now. Just because you don't understand it or don't understand the significance does not make it juvenile.
That really irks me.
So why is it now suddenly being used all the time? I had never heard it before about a month ago, and in the past month I've heard it about half a dozen times. All at this website.
So why is it now suddenly being used all the time? I had never heard it before about a month ago, and in the past month I've heard it about half a dozen times. All at this website.
Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
I'm not on Facebook. That's probably why I've only seen it here. I think I figured out why it's "trending" now in the general population - "Straight Outta Compton "
So why is it now suddenly being used all the time? I had never heard it before about a month ago, and in the past month I've heard it about half a dozen times. All at this website.
It became a "thing" in the general population this past year. That happens. That happened with "yasssss" as well.
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OK -- so the people who wrote things you agree with are good, compassionate people and the ones you disagree with are rude, negative, bitter and heartless? Now I'm beginning to understand why someone took the time to write out and send in a negative reference. It's unfortunate that you aren't getting it.