At a loss - Need your support and prayers

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A family member of mine has died. In a few hours I will be flying to New York to be with the remaining family.

This may not be the best place but I needed to vent.

First ever family death and its very difficult on me.....

Specializes in MDS RNAC, LTC, Psych, LTAC.

Sorry for your loss. Thinking of you . Take care.

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Specializes in long term care Alzheimers Patients.

I am so sorry for your loss

Hugs

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So very sory for your loss, praying for your and your family.

((HUGS))

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Loss is never easy, the time is seldom right to lose a loved one. Give yourself permision to feel many different ways. You can feel happy at the memories, sad that the time of making memories has come to an end, overwhelmed by all the planning and just exhausted from all the emotions. You have it in you to put one foot in front of the other and kepp going. In doing so others will follow and will be ok also! Wish I could give you a hug and a tissue.

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Specializes in LTC.

May God give you peace at this difficult time. :hug:

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i'm very sorry for your loss.

you'll get through this, and emerge a little bit wiser and even more sensitive to others losses.

while it doesn't seem so now, you are going to be ok.:redpinkhe

leslie

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Specializes in Trauma/Tele/Surgery/SICU.

Abbaking I am sorry for your loss. I have recently experienced the same. It hurts and it will for a long time. You get through it by propelling yourself forward through just sheer force of will. It is hard to watch the people you love in so much pain. I am still in kind of that shocked state. I see other people laughing, enjoying life and sometimes I just want to scream at them to stop, but I know that is unreasonable.

It helped for me to jump right back into things so that I did not have a lot of time to dwell on it. Right back to work and school. That may not be the right way for you and if you need time you should take it. You must be very kind to yourself, get sleep, eat well, don't worry about housekeeping, surround yourself with people who love and care for you and who will listen to you and allow you to process your feelings.

Time is really the only thing that helps to heal you. All you can do is mourn your loved one and be as much support as possible to your other family. Cherish the memories that you have of the person, know that they are at peace and no longer have to suffer through lifes toils. Eventually it will not hurt so acutely. It will always be a part of you but it becomes a manageable part. Honor their legacy by living in such a way that you know they would be proud of you. I am thinking of you and your family abbaking and wishing peace and comfort for you all.

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I am also sorry for your loss.

And this is agreat place to go with such things. I got so much support when my husband was ill, dying and finally passed away. The people here understood, as few can, the pain and the trauma.

We will be here for you as you need us.

May you find comfort and be allowed to grieve as you need.

Keep coming back and sharing. Grab our hugs and know we will hold you close to our hearts.:heartbeat

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Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.

Am praying for you from Down Under. Hope this has not been too hard for you, please know that we are all here to help you whenever you need it.

Let us know how you get on, please email me if you need to talk privately to someone, I don't mind at all.

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Specializes in PICU, ICU, Hospice, Mgmt, DON.

Oh abbaking,

So sorry to hear this. We are always here for you. My heart goes out to you tonight.:redbeathe

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Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.

Abbaking how are you? Am worried about you, please post on here soon.

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Specializes in Telemetry, Med-Surg, ED, Psych.

Thank you everyone for your support, condolences, and well wishes to me during this time of crisis.

The loved one in my family who died was one of us - a RN with years of experience under her belt (40 to be exact). Even though it was expected, it still cuts deeply.

During the wake, funeral mass and repast - COUNTLESS healthcare professionals came forward and expressed there sympathies and shared there memories.

I am in shock in many ways. I feel like its all a dream....like I will wake up and get on with my life. This experience has been very tiring on me.

I have a confluence of emotions - anger, grief, gratitude, joy, longing, fear.

I may be rambling but i need to vent -

The logical rational RN side of my brain is not functioning - I am still in disbelief.....normal?

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