Asking nurse coworker out on a date on another floor

[Sailed3]

I work nights at a large hospital, but I'm not a Nurse. Occasionally I go to different floors of the hospital when my services are needed. I noticed a Nurse who I haven't see before on one of the floors and she caught my eyes. I immediately made small talk with her when we crossed paths and I will keep doing this when I get the opportunity to go to that floor. She knows my name and I know just a few things about her from that brief chat.

Ideally I would want to become friends slowly as time progresses and then ask her for a coffee at the hospital cafe. I'm not going to do that though because I don't want to lose my chance. I also don't even know if I'll see her because it all depends if we're working that night and if I go to that floor and cross paths when she's not busy.

The next time I see her I'm going to ask her how's she been, have a little convo, and then ask her if she wants to get a coffee with me at the hospital cafe. I may just ask her for her number or Facebook if we are suited for one another and see if she wants to hang out outside of work.

Nurses how would you feel/respond if a coworker from another floor that you barely knew asked:

1. If you wanted to go for a coffee at the hospital cafe around other nurses or nobody

2. For your number/Facebook to meet up sometimes after a decent convo

Would you all think that your trying to be pursed romantically or just platonically?

I was partially flirty with her and smiled a lot when I talked, but seriously I would just want to meet as friends and not as a date and then see where it goes.. The hospital policy is okay with dating as long as your in a different department.

Ladies, please give me some advice or recommendations..

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[sevensonnets]

The cooing and holding hands in the breakroom soon gets old and so you move to less public areas of the hospital thinking you'll have some privacy there to avoid being talked about and being scrutinized. But you will be and at least one of you will be counselled about your behavior and somebody loses their job because they're neglecting it. I have seen it happen more than once. It's never a good idea to date someone from work.

[Been there,done that, ASN, RN]

The cooing and holding hands in the breakroom soon gets old and so you move to less public areas of the hospital thinking you'll have some privacy there to avoid being talked about and being scrutinized. But you will be and at least one of you will be counselled about your behavior and somebody loses their job because they're neglecting it. I have seen it happen more than once. It's never a good idea to date someone from work.

Professionals do not coo and hold hands in the breakroom, or move the relationship to a private area. Professionals keep their private life and work life separate.

I met a DH at work ( during a code no less). We dated, and eventually married. No counseling or job loss was required!

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

I actually met my husband at work. But I had only planned to work there one year (was looking for a teaching job for the following school year), so I kept to my plan. I did not want to work with him for very long once we got involved. For many good reasons.

[TheCommuter, BSN, RN]

Ladies, please give me some advice or recommendations..

I don't enjoy coffee dates...the combination of the harried environment and caffeine jolt is just not relaxing or conducive to getting to know one another, especially in a hospital cafeteria. I wouldn't want coworkers knowing my business.

I would say, "I'd like to take you to lunch one day in the near future." See if she responds affirmatively, and if she does, suggest a casual dining place on one of her days off.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

Professionals do not coo and hold hands in the breakroom, or move the relationship to a private area. Professionals keep their private life and work life separate.

I met a DH at work ( during a code no less). We dated, and eventually married. No counseling or job loss was required!

Same here. There was no PDA, ever. Especially since I worked with teens. I was never counseled or fired from the job I met my DH at.

[NuGuyNurse2b]

in general, you don't crap where you eat, as the saying goes. sure there are the success stories, but the majority of the cases...not so successful.

[Guttercat, ASN, RN]

As an >ahem

I've made it a point to never date from within the workplace (docs included), but jeepers if there aren't a buttload of fine young men coming into the nursing profession over the last few years.

[PaulBaxter]

Why would you want to go on a date on another floor? Doesn't sound very romantic.

[BostonFNP, APRN]

The relationship might not work out. The job might not work out. Live in the moment, go for it.

[BSN-to-MSN, ADN, BSN, RN]

Find out if she is single first, mention something about her boyfriend , and she'll get a hint. Don't got to hospital café. it's the last place where a girl wants to go for a coffee - busy, loud, rushed. How are you going to coordinate your breaks? Just ask her out for dinner on her day off. Do lunch/ drinks if dinner is too much.

[kmsussman]

I also dated & met my husband @ work, He was an attending cardiologist w/a big practice in Hospital. The rumor mill BS that I had to put up with for 3 years was annoying, I was 25 @ time, What made me lol the most was: people double my age were the worst w/the gossip/stories,etc & like poster above, IF WE DID everything WE supposedly did WE WOULD HAVE NO TIME TO SLEEP,WORK,etc...My husband & I also did not talk about OUR dates,etc, no PDA's & it still was like above poster. If it works out great, but be prepared to have a "thick skin", hear ridiculous stories & gossip, people asking rude inappropriate ?'s @ most embarrassing times. If you do even go for coffee, DO IT OUTSIDE WORK!!

FYI-Because of my age & being young & he was a bachelor for a while, I really missed out on "all the people I apparently dated before him & vice versa",lol!! This kind of gossip happened to me if I innocently shared a meal w/a co-worker of the opposite sex,ex: staff dining room.

IMO-hospitals are such gossip mills, worse than junior high @ times. My fav was finding out how 2 coworkers were getting/got married & how others would freak out that they didn't know??!!

Good luck & take in great advice given in everyone's post!

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

I also dated & met my husband @ work, He was an attending cardiologist w/a big practice in Hospital. The rumor mill BS that I had to put up with for 3 years was annoying, I was 25 @ time, What made me lol the most was: people double my age were the worst w/the gossip/stories,etc & like poster above, IF WE DID everything WE supposedly did WE WOULD HAVE NO TIME TO SLEEP,WORK,etc...My husband & I also did not talk about OUR dates,etc, no PDA's & it still was like above poster. If it works out great, but be prepared to have a "thick skin", hear ridiculous stories & gossip, people asking rude inappropriate ?'s @ most embarrassing times. If you do even go for coffee, DO IT OUTSIDE WORK!!

FYI-Because of my age & being young & he was a bachelor for a while, I really missed out on "all the people I apparently dated before him & vice versa",lol!! This kind of gossip happened to me if I innocently shared a meal w/a co-worker of the opposite sex,ex: staff dining room.

IMO-hospitals are such gossip mills, worse than junior high @ times. My fav was finding out how 2 coworkers were getting/got married & how others would freak out that they didn't know??!!

Good luck & take in great advice given in everyone's post!

Rumor mills are ridiculous. One morning I was walking toward my unit, when a photographer doing PR work for the hospital asked me if I would pose for a photo with our CEO. I said okay, we took the photo, and I went happily about my day. Yeah, rumor had it that the CEO had specifically asked for me to be in that photo, and that we were having a passionate affair. Just completely absurd, and annoyed me on my DH's behalf.