Asking nurse coworker out on a date on another floor

[Sailed3]

I work nights at a large hospital, but I'm not a Nurse. Occasionally I go to different floors of the hospital when my services are needed. I noticed a Nurse who I haven't see before on one of the floors and she caught my eyes. I immediately made small talk with her when we crossed paths and I will keep doing this when I get the opportunity to go to that floor. She knows my name and I know just a few things about her from that brief chat.

Ideally I would want to become friends slowly as time progresses and then ask her for a coffee at the hospital cafe. I'm not going to do that though because I don't want to lose my chance. I also don't even know if I'll see her because it all depends if we're working that night and if I go to that floor and cross paths when she's not busy.

The next time I see her I'm going to ask her how's she been, have a little convo, and then ask her if she wants to get a coffee with me at the hospital cafe. I may just ask her for her number or Facebook if we are suited for one another and see if she wants to hang out outside of work.

Nurses how would you feel/respond if a coworker from another floor that you barely knew asked:

1. If you wanted to go for a coffee at the hospital cafe around other nurses or nobody

2. For your number/Facebook to meet up sometimes after a decent convo

Would you all think that your trying to be pursed romantically or just platonically?

I was partially flirty with her and smiled a lot when I talked, but seriously I would just want to meet as friends and not as a date and then see where it goes.. The hospital policy is okay with dating as long as your in a different department.

Ladies, please give me some advice or recommendations..

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[adpiRN]

Do you know if she's single?

[Cricket183, BSN, RN]

I don't see a problem with it as long as she is single and willing but I personally would not want to meet for coffee at the hospital cafe. Just my experience that keeping your work and your personal life separate is always the best policy. Chances are anyone sees the two of you even innocently having coffee and rumors will fly.

[That Guy, BSN, RN, EMT-B]

I've done this before. It was fun, until it wasn't.

[SmilingBluEyes]

Just think about how it would be if you DID date, and DID have a relationship and then it did not work out. Would it be uncomfortable? If so, then don't do it. Try dating outside the workplace.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

I'm trying to remember a time when I worked at the hospital when I would have had time to go have coffee with anyone during my shift. I barely had time to run to the break room and cram some food in my mouth for lunch, then run back into the unit.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

I met my DH at work & in theory it sounds good. But when actually played out it can turn into a mess, FAST! Any drama can be brought to work & if she is friends with any coworkers she will discuss the issues in her relationship with them. I don't recommend dating someone at work.

[Been there,done that, ASN, RN]

Go for it. She may turn you down for coffee in the cafe, because she doesn't have time for a break. Just ask her if she would like to get together sometime.

Who CARES if other hospital personnel see you and start "rumors" This is work, not junior high.

Good luck!

[Pangea Reunited, ASN, RN]

You're coming across as a little creepy to me. Is it just me?? The detailed plans involving someone you "barely know" are strange.

[Been there,done that, ASN, RN]

You're coming across as a little creepy to me. Is it just me?? The detailed plans involving someone you "barely know" are strange.

Comes across to me as a little shy, and afraid of rejection.

[SmilingBluEyes]

In the couple of cases where coworkers dated it was uncomfortable. The cooing and handholding in the breakroom was annoying. If you do date, keep it strictly professional at work.

[LaneyB]

I am a bit worried that it might make her feel uncomfortable if you regularly need to go to her floor. If you were on a totally different floor, and didn't need to go to hers that would be different. But if she isn't interested and says no then she might feel odd when she sees you.

If you decide to do it, then mention it in a very casual way. If you take the chance I think your plan is a decent one. Move very slowly and watch her reaction to make sure she doesn't seem uncomfortable.

As far as rumors go, I started dating somebody in the building where I work (ended up getting married), and the rumor mill was insane. I would have said I didn't care what people say, but the reality of it was way worse than what I imagined. It got old fast to be the center of attention. And the intensity of the interest was FAR more than anticipated. I really wished I didn't have to deal with it at work, but I am happy I met him so it equals out.