Apologizing to coworkers for diversion..

ixchel · Jul 18, 2015

I have no valid advice, just hugs.

Jules A, MSN · Jul 18, 2015

I love the idea of a very brief note saying how much you valued the team sent to the unit?? We still ask about a couple of our peers who have left under similar circumstances and other than the fleeting rumors of where they are working now no one has ever extended an olive branch. I would appreciate just knowing they are in a better place and thought enough of us to check in.

Hopefully others will write in with suggestions. Best wishes with your career as you move forward.

BloomNurseRN, ASN, BSN, RN · Jul 18, 2015

I honestly am not at all sure of the best way to go about this but I love the idea. I'm sure if you were like family they would appreciate hearing how you're doing and how things are working out. Have you kept in contact with any of your previous co-workers? If so, could you text and find out if anyone is interested in getting coffee or something similar to catch up? If not, maybe you could reach out to your previous supervisor and ask her how she feels about a get together and apology opportunity?

Big Blondie, ASN, BSN, MSN, APRN · Jul 18, 2015

Talk to your sponsor. This is part of your ammends that is in the stepwork. A group ammends is likely not a good idea. Some person may be hostile and damage your ability to make your ammends to the people who are important. I dont recommend a note or text. This is personal and I dont want my ammends out there with no closure. Good or bad. I have not made all of my ammends, but the ones that I have went well. But really I was never that close to co workers. I made ammends to the people I worked withas I am ready. Have on major ammends to go and am scared to do it because. Of humility! Workin on it!

Whispera, MSN, RN · Jul 18, 2015

I was a professor who had an LPN-ASN student who disappeared for awhile. After about a year, She made an appointment to come see me. During the appointment, she told me she had been charged with diversion, was in treatment, and wanted to apologise to me for abusing my trust in, and care for, her.

It was very touching...

She said it helped her too...

Omaapecm, ASN, RN · Jul 19, 2015

You can never go wrong with a sincere and honest apology. Whether it be by text, email or even in person. It'll be good for and help with recovery. always make amends!

sallyrnrrt, ADN, RN · Jul 19, 2015

Work the 12 steps of recovery, after the fourth, which is your fearless inventory, the fifth step guides you in making amends.....I would wait till then as it will be more meaningful to you, help solidify your recovery....

best wishes......work the steps, live the steps, and experience the blessings of the promises.....

FHL18 · Jul 27, 2015

Hi ODAAT,

I am still trying to work through this one myself. I was diverting but I resigned before I got caught or anyone knew what was up. I self-referred to TPAPN, Texas' monitoring program, and the hospital and my colleagues are all on my amends list. I don't know how to go about this since no one there knows the truth. I have been told this could be a living amends situation where I work a solid program of recovery and never return to anything like this, and return to safe, healthy nursing practice, but I feel every one of our situation's is individual. Talk with your sponsor, pray about it and your Higher Power will give you guidance on how to move forward in handling these amends when the timing is right. = )

OCNRN63, RN · Jul 27, 2015

I like the idea of writing a heartfelt note. Kudos to you for thinking about your co-workers.

allnurses Guide · Jul 27, 2015

This topic is actually covered in action steps. 5.6.7.8

They tell us that we must make a list of all our defects of character and share them with another person.

Humbly ask our Higher power to remove these defects of character

They also tell us to make a list of all people we have harmed through our addiction and whenever except where to do so would cause them harm.

Make direct amends whenever possible except when to do so would cause them harm.

I don't know if I got the wording just right but that's the gist of it.

The important part is not the apology it is in the making of amends. I did contact the nurses I worked with when I got out of rehab and some of us got together for breakfast away from the hospital. I apologized for my behavior and they were very accepting.

After this was done I set about making amends which I do by reaching out to other Nurses and medical professional struggling with addiction.

Hppy