Any student that you just don't like?

Farawyn · Jan 20, 2015

Yes. But I think it's really his mom I don't like. I kind of feel sorry for the kid.

He wants to call her for every little sniffle. If I try to trouble shoot he goes out in the hall and texts her, and she comes running. She refers to herself as "Dr. So and So" (*whispers* but I don't think she is!)and she is constantly up in my office. He has no serious medical issues. The kid needs to suck it up a bit, and she needs to cut the cord a bit.

Not crazy about the "hot" groups of girls, either, but 1 on 1 they are usually fine.

The trouble makers? I love them. Really.

NutmeggeRN, BSN · Jan 20, 2015

I think there is always one or two that can get under your skin......I agree, sometimes it is the parent (the psuedo "docs"). Or the those who are in the medical field and not RNs.....

Do I believe that you know you child better than I? Absolutely, but MY experience with your child has not been pleasant. He is rude, nasty, and a liar. But that's OK cause Mom only sees the angelic side of him.

And yes, some of the HARDEST kids to deal with, who are up are in our grills, are that way because they need to be, and because they need us more than anyone else in the building.

kidzcare · Jan 20, 2015

Yes. But I think it's really his mom I don't like. I kind of feel sorry for the kid.
He wants to call her for every little sniffle. If I try to trouble shoot he goes out in the hall and texts her, and she comes running. She refers to herself as "Dr. So and So" (*whispers* but I don't think she is!)and she is constantly up in my office. He has no serious medical issues. The kid needs to suck it up a bit, and she needs to cut the cord a bit.
Not crazy about the "hot" groups of girls, either, but 1 on 1 they are usually fine.
The trouble makers? I love them. Really.

I am totally the same! The trouble makers I know are acting that way in response to difficulties in other parts of their life.

Same feeling on the girls too- usually they're just trying to impress friends

kidzcare · Jan 20, 2015

I think there is always one or two that can get under your skin......I agree, sometimes it is the parent (the psuedo "docs"). Or the those who are in the medical field and not RNs.....
Do I believe that you know you child better than I? Absolutely, but MY experience with your child has not been pleasant. He is rude, nasty, and a liar. But that's OK cause Mom only sees the angelic side of him.
And yes, some of the HARDEST kids to deal with, who are up are in our grills, are that way because they need to be, and because they need us more than anyone else in the building.

It's really just like dealing with any population of patients or group of people. Some you just don't get along with.

I guess I just feel bad thinking that I don't like this student because she's a child and I want to like all the kids

Heck, I don't even like my own kids 100% of the time!

cynmrn · Jan 20, 2015

There are a select few students I also dislike, and I hate feeling that way, too, because they are just kids and it feels "wrong" somehow to dislike them. But, I think it's just human nature. I also have kids that I LOVE for irrational reasons, even if they are obnoxious.

One of the kids that I don't like never stops talking when she is in the health room even when she is "sick" and is constantly in my business ("who are you talking to? what is that kid in here for?") even after many reminders about being quiet, etc. However, one of the kids I love is extremely chatty and bouncing around the office when he doesn't have his medication and I still love him, so I am unsure whether the like/dislike always has to do with them per se. I sometimes wonder if it's some weird biological thing?

JenTheSchoolRN, BSN, RN · Jan 20, 2015

I love the trouble makers. Deep down I do. Even though I may not like their behavior on a particular day. And trust me, I come home some days exhausted due to some down right disrespectful kiddos. I try and remind myself that I was that young and, yep, I bet I was that annoying a time or two.

I do have a very short string for the just plain mean kids. I don't tolerate it if I see it, which I have.

And you don't have to feel terrible for not liking everyone, despite the age. It's like I tell my students: you don't have to like everyone, but you do have to learn to exist with everyone :).

abc123RN · Jan 21, 2015

I have 2 that I just cringe when I see them coming. I hate feeling that way about a child. Like someone already said I think it is mostly the parents that I really don't care much for.

SnowyJ, RN · Jan 21, 2015

I have a student who is most likely on the Autistic Spectrum and badly needs social skills help. Mom and dad are in denial, so he is classified as "other health impaired." Any time he comes to see me, he questions everything and refuses to accept the interventions I suggest. Like he seems to enjoy the exchange of "point counter point." As busy as I am, I don't have tome to argue or negotiate for a minor issue. I often will tell him "i'm sorry, but that is all I can do for you." 9 times out of 10 he leaves without any intervention. For example, he will have a stomach ache, but refuse to try the BR or to rest. Just wants me to fix it.

I know he can't help how he is, but it can be frustrating.

ohiobobcat · Jan 21, 2015

I had one student who gave me the heebie jeebies every time he came in my office last year. So much so that I asked our principal if there was some type of panic button I could have, in case a student became combative in my office (the answer was no). This kid was always polite to me, but boy he made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up.

There are some kids who I don't care for and I mentally roll my eyes when they come in, but I like most of my students. I haven't had too many run ins with parents so far this year either (knock on wood).

kidzcare · Jan 21, 2015

I had one student who gave me the heebie jeebies every time he came in my office last year. So much so that I asked our principal if there was some type of panic button I could have, in case a student became combative in my office (the answer was no). This kid was always polite to me, but boy he made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up.
There are some kids who I don't care for and I mentally roll my eyes when they come in, but I like most of my students. I haven't had too many run ins with parents so far this year either (knock on wood).

I have a student like this! The first time the student came in my office I was immediately uncomfortable. I really think this child is a sociopath, as in the textbook definition of:

a person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience.

I get very uneasy whenever this student comes in my office.

ohiobobcat · Jan 22, 2015

I have a student like this! The first time the student came in my office I was immediately uncomfortable. I really think this child is a sociopath, as in the textbook definition of:
a person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience.
I get very uneasy whenever this student comes in my office.

Yep- I thought the same thing with my student- that he might be a sociopath or psychopath. I saw him a bunch of times for hand injuries from punching walls, so I knew he had the potential to be violent. Luckily, he graduated.