Adults who prefer wearing diapers

Nurses General Nursing

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What do you think of a young adult male patient who appears to be wearing diapers by preference? You have no idea about it until he uses his call light to let you know he had an "accident " in his diaper and needs help changing it. He has an erection during this process. Two hours later he does the same, only he has both urinated and and defecated. Another erection...

He has a passive, infantile personality, if you can believe that! :sour:

Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
SmilingBluEyes said:
It's a fetish. Don't participate beyond showing him where the bathroom is, giving him the supplies and asking him to clean himself up.

Show no emotion/reaction. It's his thing, not yours.

Report this to caregivers who will be involved in his care---e.g. if he's admitted ----so they are not shocked or unwittingly participating in his fetish.

I had a lady once when I was a GYN surgical nurse who deliberately would begin to masturbate when we entered. I told her she was welcome to do what worked for her, but to let staff know to place a "privacy requested" sign on her door.

I showed her no emotion/gave it no attention. Soon she was not doing that anymore. I can't tell people not to indulge their fetishes, but I refuse to be a willing participant in them also.

Excellent post, SBE! Every word of it.

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Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.
Guy in Babyland said:
Nurse Bruno: "How about I just insert this 22f catheter in you so you don't need to bother your nurse?"

I'm thinking this might also play into his fetish. :eek:

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
Emergent said:
In the ER we don't have time to come up with a plan of care for a weirdo.

Now, now, Emergent. There's no need to name call. We all have our own idiosyncrasies.

Remember that everyone thinks Little Bunny Foo Foo is so cute and look at the shameful acts he did.

It was not a pretty picture for the families of those who were bopped on the head.

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Guy in Babyland said:
Nurse Bruno: "Are you sure you can't go to the bathroom on your own?"

Patient: "No, I need to have one of the female nurses change my diaper each time."

Nurse Bruno: "How about I just insert this 22f catheter in you so you don't need to bother your nurse?"

Patient: "On second thought, I can walk to the bathroom myself."

Guy- you owe me one keyboard as I was drinking a full glass of water when I read that!

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Specializes in LTC, Rehab.
Davey Do said:
I an the King of the Typos, and in noticing yours, Emergent...

...I believe two p's would have been more appropriate.

I thought maybe it was the title of a new novel by Carl Hiaasen (and with his sense of humor, it could be).

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Ummm so yeh, get him to the floor asap.

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Sour Lemon I'm dying with "the big burly man".... Ha ha ha

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Back as a rebellious teenager, I was on an online chat site and ran across someone who had the same fetish. I learned there's a community of like-minded people out there called AB/DL's, or adult baby/diaper lover. The individual does not have to be both an adult baby and diaper lover, it could be one or the other, or even both. Some people like to dress as babies and regress back to the childhood they felt the most "safe" and "secure" as a means to escape their stressful adult life. It's very common for individuals to have baby clothes, baby toys, pacifiers, bottles (which they use along with the pacifiers). If people can afford it in the budget, they also may have an adult sized baby crib for them to sleep in as well. Others also are diaper lovers due to the feeling of security a diaper provides them. It's up to the individual whether they'd use the diaper or not. Surprisingly, there's been cases of people in the AB/DL spectrum who've tried to fully regress into childhood/infantilism by reversing their potty training through hypnosis, etc.

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).

Thanks for the information, Thought!

Thought said:
Some people like to dress as babies and regress back to the childhood they felt the most "safe" and "secure" as a means to escape their stressful adult life.

When stressed at work, I have been known to go curl up in a corner, get into a fetal position, stick my thumb in my mouth, cry loudly, and soil myself.

Is that the same kind of thing?

I'm only kidding.

I don't really soil myself!

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Specializes in Pediatric Critical Care.

So maybe its a fetish. Okay, fine. Here's the wipes, theres the bathroom. Chart that you promoted self-care. If necessary, set firm boundaries about the nurse-patient relationship.

Then treat the patient with the same regard that you would treat any of your other patients. You really think the only fetishists or "weirdos" are the ones that let strangers know what their fetish is?

By the way, the patient may or may not care that his nurse or caregiver is a male, so assigning only male caregivers may not matter at all.

Alternatively, maybe he has a development delay that the healthcare team just wasn't aware of yet. The erections....eh, I guess that doesn't 100% convince me that he was trying to trick you into participating in a fetish.

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Oh man if he could use the toilet appropriately and was wanting to wear a diaper JUST to get off from a nurse cleaning him I'd be irate!

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Emergent said:
This post is not an April Fool's joke. Working in the ER is a virtual freak show, but this was a new one for me.

This is a thing. DON'T GOOGLE IT. There are many web sites for this fetish. There was a diaper community (all men) at Burning Man a few years ago.

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