Adult Modeling ANd Nursing

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i dont kno if this goes in here but here it goes. am an M.A, and im trying to go to school so bad to be an RN. i have a job but money is so tight that i have turned into the adult filming for money. i havent done n thing yet, but really considering on doing it for a lil while just to pay old loans off and new ones as well. ( alot if happening with FASA). I'm scared that it might mess my chances in the long run in my nursing career. can someone help me.:confused::sniff::o:confused:

Specializes in LPN.

There was a teacher outed as a former adult actress a couple of years ago. She had been teaching at a school for years and one of the dads at a PTA meeting recognized her. He told another person and the whole school knew within days.

The irony of this is that I bet no one thought any less of the dad for "outing" her, yet how did he know except that he watches these videos? This brings up the double standard - many people accept that men watch Media and this doesn't affect their reputation. But it's considered demeaning, self-depreciating, or immoral for a woman to participate in the industry.

That said, I've always been very modest and conservative in my personal life and I would never consider working in that type of industry. However, it is a legal job and doesn't appear to negatively affects background checks. I have worked with nurses who were former strippers and still seem to do well with their nursing careers, so I don't feel I'm in a position to judge what they did when they were younger or how they got through school. :twocents:

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The irony of this is that I bet no one thought any less of the dad for "outing" her, yet how did he know except that he watches these videos? This brings up the double standard - many people accept that men watch Media and this doesn't affect their reputation. But it's considered demeaning, self-depreciating, or immoral for a woman to participate in the industry.

That said, I've always been very modest and conservative in my personal life and I would never consider working in that type of industry. However, it is a legal job and doesn't appear to negatively affects background checks. I have worked with nurses who were former strippers and still seem to do well with their nursing careers, so I don't feel I'm in a position to judge what they did when they were younger or how they got through school. :twocents:

That it's the woman who gets labelled is just one of the harsh results of the experience. Not that it's right, but unfortunately, the vulnerable women tend to be the ones who are negatively affected. The paying men go on living their lives. Very sad.

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Specializes in ICU, Telemetry.

I had a friend (a million years ago, Reagan was president) who got caught between her dad's new wife and her dad's money (wifey wanted all the money, all the attention, and had an "heir and a spare" as soon as she physically could). New wifey told the daughter that "she'd had her time at home" and kicked her out while the dad was overseas. My friend was suddenly in the middle of prelaw, with no income, not eligible for grants (dad was loaded) and dad wouldn't sign for the loans (he'd been told that the daughter was being hateful and "mean" to the new wife).

So, she started dancing at strip clubs. Made enough money to get an apartment near campus, didn't have to work 50 hours a week to survive, etc. She did this for the last couple of years of prelaw, and happily started her law school, got some loans and quit dancing, and everything was fine.....

Until she walked into class and her professor was one of her best tippers. Of course, word got out. She ended up leaving school, and I don't know what finally became of her, if she moved across the country and tried again or what. What she did was legal, and in terms of education or employement in the law field...suicide.

Unless you want your as yet unborn kids to show up one day with one of your videos on their phone, asking you what you're doing....don't do it..

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I had epiphany when working strip clubs and I never went back. I was at my post at the end of the bar and two girls who had just finished up their sets stopped to talk to me on their way back to the dressing room. Both of them were topless and gorgeous and talked to me for about five minutes.

When they left, one of the patrons at the end of the bar commented on how well endowed these girls were. It dawned on me right then that I had not even bother to look. It was all passe now. I was struck with horror that two topless young women had just stood there talking to me and not only had I not noticed. I had not really cared to even try to look. The horror of such a thing. I gave notice that very night.

Since then I have wondered if for the guys in Media it becomes just work after a while. Or does it happen just to us married guys. :D

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Specializes in EMS, ER, GI, PCU/Telemetry.

you are better than that, seriously. that would be not only be stripping you of your self-worth and dignity, but like someone else said that movie will be forever. you will never be able to take back all the copies of it or clear the internet of it.

i know it seems like a quick and easy option for money, but don't demean yourself like that.... not only is there a risk for HIV, hepatitis, syphilis, herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc etc..... but there is the stigma you will carry as a "Media star" and the stain you will put on your self esteem.

there are alot of financial aid options. also loans. and it never hurts to get a part-time job. i worked full-time in nursing school as a paramedic because i had no choice.

good luck and i hope you make a good choice for your future.

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Specializes in Geriatrics.

I would just try to get a student loan. Could you really have sex with some stranger, get paid for it, and know that anyone in the whole world could watch- including your dad or brother or neighbor???? Huge difference between "modeling" and the "adult entertainment" industry....

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Specializes in Making the Pt laugh..

Everyone gets their 15 minutes of fame, if you think you can handle the consequences of that, in my mind I say go for it. I understand that as long as nothing illegal is done the boards should have no problem.

I keep thinking that I should have done something like that before my chest slipped down to belly level, I can think of some really cool "Media names" and the Media star bumper-stickers for sale, I could get one.

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Specializes in CMSRN.

If you can enter this without the issues, walk away without regret and it does not cause harm to your future career I do not see a problem with it.

Even so it is a risk YOU make and others with need to accept that.

You do what you need to do, i just hope you do not have to sacrifice yourself for it. What is being sacrificed by you is defined by you.

It does seem there is some hesitation from you to enter the adult entertainment world or you would not have asked. Until the uncertainty passes I would not proceed yet. Do some more research you may find the one thing you need to sway you either way.

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Have you thought of a coctail watress/waiter, or a bartender?

Life is tough, but that would be dipping to a new low the way I see it. My husband had some Mediao videos in his posession when we first got together, and those people looked depressed, numb, doped up...it was disgusting, actually, and a real turn off.

Also, as you mature and grow older, it will no doubt be something you look back on with regret for sure.

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Specializes in RN, BSN, CHDN.

You are obviously not comfortable with it yourself or else why come on here and ask a bunch of strangers?

So dont do it

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Specializes in school nursing, ortho, trauma.

The bottom line is that since you are posting this question to us on here, you obviously have a part of you that has doubts and hesitations. I'll be honest with you - there hasn't been one time that i have regretted listening to my instincts. If something feels wrong, it probably is.

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Specializes in ER,ICU,L+D,OR.

Well put firefighting RN

Not all are comfortable in the more exotic industries. I danced when I was young, good money, good fun, flexible hours. I never did adult films. Or escort work either. I enjoyed dancing actually. I never drank at work. Never got into drugs. Which were rampant back even in regular life. I will say that adult films though have changed in their level of acceptance. They even have a union now. Who would ever have guessed way back then.

For myself, I enjoyed dancing. I made good money. I have no regrets. I never had any conflicts professionally due to it. And it was good exercise when I was in school and didnt have much time to stay in shape. But I will say you have to be comfortable with yourself.

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