Is it right to pursue nursing if the school is 2 hrs away from husband & kids?
- 0Apr 12, '13 by fbanhI have been a stay at home mom for the past two years and I finally got accepted into a nursing program for this coming Fall 2013 after 3+ years of application cycles. The school is two hours away from home. I have two kids (2 yr and 4 months). I have a science degree in Biochemistry and Molecular Biology. Prior to being a stay at home mom, I was a pharmaceutical QA lab analyst for 6 years. But in my heart I always knew I wanted to become a nurse.
My husband knows it is my goal/dream to become a nurse (and it's truly not because of the money)but he is very unhappy about me going through the program because it means we will be separated as a family unit. We would only be able to see each other on the weekends and even then I would probably be so busy with school that even weekends will be dedicated for school. He wants me to apply to other schools in our area, which I have been but I never got accepted. I finally get accepted into a school 2 hours away and I am so heartbroken that he is not supporting me in my goal. He says I would be selfish neglecting my family and thinking only about myself and my own goals. We are financially stable, if my goal to become a nurse is to make more money, then my income is not needed so I shouldn't make decisions that could potentially break up our family. I feel absolutely terrible. =(
- 2Apr 12, '13 by TWierschThis is something I would not personally do. If it were me, I think I would do everything in my power to find a way to be accepted into a school more locally unless my family was willing to move with me. Have you looked into online schools with clinicals nearby, even if you had to be gone on the weekends for clinicals, that is different than being gone 5 days out of the week. This is 2 years of barely seeing your children grow up and someone else raising them. I personally would/could not be away from my children that much!!! I think this is a decision that would lead to much regret later on and could potentially end a marriage esp. if you are financially stable! I do not think your husbands opinion is unfair at all!
- 1Apr 12, '13 by marycarneyI guess if your children had some say in your decision - but they didn't. Nursing school will still be there when they are a little older.
And I think you calling your husband 'unsupportive' is unfair - you are talking about basically moving away from him and two VERY young children. You are making a HUGE mistake in my opinion. One that you will regret.
- 1Apr 12, '13 by lauralineI'm assuming its not as option for the family to move with you?
Otherwise I would definitely wait. Maybe next year you can get in somewhere closer? If you have the luxury of waiting then don't hurry it and spend the time with the kids while they are young.
When I was really young I grew up with a nanny because my mother was constantly away working and traveling. Although my father was around and I had everything I technically needed, I regret I did not spend the same amount of time with Mom. As a result, I honestly feel it has affected my adult life in a challenging way. It wasn't easy.
- 1Apr 12, '13 by wordsofmymouthI'm not a mom, so what I say is probably not going to matter at all. My only experience comes from my own mom making the decision to stay at home. I know she had plenty of other dreams and goals for her life other than raising children, but I'm thankful she chose me. Why do you need to do this now? Your kids are so young, and the burden nursing school would put on your family is huge. I would at least wait until your kids are in school. If you feel "terrible" about this than you've probably already made your decision.
Wish you the best!
- 0Apr 12, '13 by MommaTyI have 5 kids, ages 9, 7, 6, 3, and 16 months. I personally wouldn't be going to a program that is 2 hours away. If you are not moving near that school that is 4 hours a day of traveling time that you will be missing out on in studying. But it is ultimately up to you and your husband to talk it out. Good luck.
- 1Apr 12, '13 by zoe92No, I would not do it.
Right now I go to a community college 1 hour away & in the fall I start at a BSN program also 1 hour away. I will be moving close to school because the 2 hour travel time is just too much. It is 2 hours less sleep & less study. I can not even imagine 4 hours.
Nursing will be there in the future. You never know, your family could even be in the position to move closer to school.
- 3Apr 12, '13 by StephalumpSometimes being a parent isn't all about you.
Actually, most of the time it isn't about you
In my opinion, you've gotten your "chance" to pursue your dreams, evidenced by the fact that you have previous degrees. While it's sad that maybe it wasn't your super super ultimate dream, it's not really a sad tale of whoa of an uneducated woman who just wants to educated herself. It's a tale of someone who wants to be a nurse.
Which is cool. That's why we're all here. But you have a FOUR MONTH OLD. Be a patent and a wife. It's what you signed up to do. Work on getting into programs closer to you. I know you have been, but nursing school hasn't disappeared and it'll probably still be here even if it takes you another 3 years.
And really, I don't know why anyone would be "in it for the money." There isn't much money there, compared to other things you could do with degrees.Last edit by Stephalump on Apr 12, '13
- 1Apr 12, '13 by fbanhYes, nursing school will always be there. But he has also said at some point in time (I guess age wise) if I keep trying and don't get in, I need to give it up and move on. From his perspective, I'm into my 30's and time is not on my side. Thank you all for your honest opinions, I appreciate it.Last edit by fbanh on Apr 12, '13 : Reason: additional comments
- 2Apr 12, '13 by Lolita34I personally know how it feels to put what I would love to do on hold since being a wife and mother to my 3 children come first. You have very young children so I would not advise you moving away from your family in order to pursue this career. If you are determined to attend nursing school, I am sure you will have an even better opportunity to do it. You do not want to jeopardize your family for a career. I pray that you get accepted to a school much closer to home. Take care.