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Hi Everyone, I just want to update that I am VERY LUCKY and got accepted into a nursing program close to home!! It all works out nicely! My husband and I are both thrilled and I can't wait to start! Again, thank you all for your comments!

Thank you all for your comments and opinions!! Everyone makes a valid point. My kids are still young so i don't know that they will remember me being in and out of their lives for two years but I know i will miss them terribly. My husband and I talked more into the pros and cons of me going back to school as well as the options of how to situate the kids if I do. My mom doesn't work so she is willing to move in with us so my husband would not have to be away from the kids and try to uphold as much normalcy in his lifestyle as possible. It would be my choice to go back to school so my husband shouldn't have to suffer being away from them. At the end of our conversation, he said he will miss me terribly but will support me if this is truly what I want to do. I guess, ultimately his support was what I wanted from the beginning regardless if I go into the program, and not his disapproval. I know my husbands prior disapproval of me going back to school was out of love for me and the family. I love my husband to death and his opinions and feelings matter the most. I'm lucky to have him.

My husband graduated with an MBA just last year. Throughout his entire 3 year MBA program he also worked full time which meant he had to take night classes and occasional weekend classes as well. I know he was exhausted everyday when he got home. At the time I was pregnant and then we had our first kid. It was mainly myself taking care of our kid and household chores 24/7. He concentrated on bringing home the money and studying his ass off. I supported him 100% and I am so proud of his accomplishments. Now he has a career that he loves and I couldn't be more happier for him. His main argument is that, he attended a local university plus he got a full scholarship. He only applied to the one local university because he personally did not want to be away from us. Very fortunately he got in the first time he applied. Had he applied and got accepted to schools further away without a full scholarship, I would still be 100% supportive of his decisions because I know that is his goal. I assumed he would support me in the same way.

Vintagemother you are a tough mama. I appreciate your perspective, thank you.

Vintage mother, you are a tough mama! I appreciate your perspective, thank you.

Thanks everyone for your support. It means a lot to hear encouraging words. Should I decide to pursue the program, the kids and I will most likely move to that city so i will see them everyday. My husband and I both have family there and my mom has already offered to babysit the kids full-time. My husband will be two hours away by himself at home when he gets off work and that's the hardest part for him, not being able to seeing us everyday. He himself travels lot for his work, at least 30% of the time throughout the year, so he won't have time to watch the kids. I don't want to feel regret if I decide not to go and i dont want to feel resentment towards him for not supporting this. I also don't want him to resent me if I do go through with the nursing program. My family and friends all support me except for my husband. And yes, nursing school will ways be there but at the same time, we all know how competitive it is to actually get into a program. Ahh, very torn.

Yes, nursing school will always be there. But he has also said at some point in time (I guess age wise) if I keep trying and don't get in, I need to give it up and move on. From his perspective, I'm into my 30's and time is not on my side. Thank you all for your honest opinions, I appreciate it.

I have been a stay at home mom for the past two years and I finally got accepted into a nursing program for this coming Fall 2013 after 3+ years of application cycles. The school is two hours away from home. I have two kids (2 yr and 4 months). I have a science degree in Biochemistry and Molecular Biology. Prior to being a stay at home mom, I was a pharmaceutical QA lab analyst for 6 years. But in my heart I always knew I wanted to become a nurse. My husband knows it is my goal/dream to become a nurse (and it's truly not because of the money)but he is very unhappy about me going through the program because it means we will be separated as a family unit. We would only be able to see each other on the weekends and even then I would probably be so busy with school that even weekends will be dedicated for school. He wants me to apply to other schools in our area, which I have been but I never got accepted. I finally get accepted into a school 2 hours away and I am so heartbroken that he is not supporting me in my goal. He says I would be selfish neglecting my family and thinking only about myself and my own goals. We are financially stable, if my goal to become a nurse is to make more money, then my income is not needed so I shouldn't make decisions that could potentially break up our family. I feel absolutely terrible. =(