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    I would just explain that you wanted to get your advanced degree right away, but that you wanted to get a few years of bedside nursing experience before jumping into the advanced role.
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    I agree with the above poster. Just tell people that you had the rather rare chance to continue on in your studies before securing work and you decided to go for it all the way. Now that your studies are completed you are ready to start at the bedside and see where your education and skills can take you.

    I recommend med/surg, neuro or ortho to begin with. But you will probably have to take whatever is offered because jobs are scarce right now.
    You do have to jump in and get a job and start working. Everyone is scared at the beginning.

    I highly recommend you buy and read the book by Patricia Benner called "From Novice to Expert". Her studies have shown that it takes 5 years to become an expert nurse. And everytime you switch specialties you begin over again.
    I believe this as I did 1.5 years in med/surg. Then I transferred to ER. The first 2.5 years scared the crap out of me, but by the 5 year I was rocking and rolling.


    Last year I transferred to ICU and I am a "baby" nurse again. Scared much of the time, but I work with people that understand that and I am learning so much. I had thought about doing ICU for about 5 years (before I actually had no choice but to take the ICU job) but I never did because I thought I wasn't smart enough for the ICU.

    I always ask myself "What's the worse that can happen". In your case it would be to get a job, do a bad job and get fired. You will never know until you jump in and do it. And by the way, I did get fired from my first nursing job. Got another job right away and stayed there 5 years.

    You gotta do it because as a former patient you have so much to offer your future patients. You will do a better job for having been in their shoes.

    Good luck and get on with it girl.
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    Also wanted to add that I know many nurses that have their NP and do bedside nursing, and/or both.
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    Quote from klone
    I would just explain that you wanted to get your advanced degree right away, but that you wanted to get a few years of bedside nursing experience before jumping into the advanced role.
    That is perfect.

    OP, I know you say you just use a PRN but maybe you need to be reevaluated or sit down with a therapist to discuss your problem. I do apologize if my first response seemed flippant to you, but I am only trying to make you see that this crippling fear isn't normal.

    My sister has anxiety issues and once she dealt with them, she couldn't believe she had waited so long to figure it all out and seek help. And plus, a nurse who has experience in anxiety is a great advocate for patients to be properly treated. It will actually probably help you feel more connected to your patients, being able to empathize with what they are going through during the scary time of hospitalization.
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    I really think anyone getting an advanced practice degree should HAVE to have real experience as a nurse before getting the advanced degree.But since that isn't your reality.....do you know any docs who have NPs working with them? Maybe you could shadow for a while until you develope some confidence.Best of luck to you and a speedy recovery for your husband.
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    I'm glad to hear you've gotten some help.

    Klone said what I was going to, so no need to repeat
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    Being a nurse is scary, when you realize that they actually trust you to take care of people. I remember my first few months of working, I would go in to work in the am, to make sure my patients were still alive. I think that as previous posters have said, you have to deal with the anxiety correctly. Any time you take a new job o change into a new specialty, you will feel anxiety.
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    I agree with another poster who said getting a few years under your belt in a staff nurse position. Also, what about going into education. You have your advance degree, you could teach others the book knowledge part...
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    Find a clinical mentor and take a job with a great orientation program and a number of other NPs.

    The advice to get some experience as a staff nurse is a double edges sword; it may be good for you or it may cause more problems then it helps. I would advise you to shoot for a NP job, provided you are boarded.
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    Lots of facilities have RN Residency programs and Nurse Re-Entry programs in which the nurse in question shadows an experienced nurse to gain training and guidance. I would definitely suggest one of these. I remember working with a nurse back in 2005 who had returned to the workforce after not having worked since the early 70s. But her Delta Airline pilot husband was laid off as a result of economic changes and she had no choice but to return to a world that had changed so much that computers at the time of her last day of employment was not even a concept according to her. Even starting IVs was a learning experience because we now use plastic caths instead of the stainless steel, real-deal needles that were used back in her day. But she came back and bounced back in such a way that I couldn't tell she had been out of the field for 30 years. There is no shame in it. I think it is definitely worth a try for you. And yeah, you gotta get those nerves in check because your patients will definitely pick up on that. I am a very shy person off the clock and I love to sing and have been told by a person or two that I have a beautiful voice. But my nerves have kept me confined to nursing. LOL! I cannot get up in front of people and talk; let along sing. But I don't have any problem walking into a room filled with a patient's family and friends and telling them what I know about nursing as it pertains to my patient. Go figure. Singing would pay so much more! I could have been on stage tonight instead of Beyonce!!!! Good luck!


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