Leave you family for nursing?? - page 4

by litebrightgirl | 5,594 Views | 46 Comments

Hypothetical question....If you've tried for 3+ to get into nursing school (grades are great but it's so competitive in your area) would you apply for a program out of state? You are married with 3 kids. Hubby's not interested in... Read More


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    1 there was a comment made on here how this is a job and not a identity. True for some.. probably for most. It depends on how much it means and how important it is.

    If the family is strong and good go for it. Just because it doesn't work for some doesn't mean it wouldn't work for her. Having some time apart might actually give her chance for studies and when hes there he can take the kids off her hands for bit. When she does have time the can do things together.
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    Can't say I'd do it, even under my own circumstances (no kids, but no family around to help). School has been
    hugely stressful, even with a supportive partner, classmates and friends. I'm sure if we weren't as mentally strong
    (and I feel like I carry a lot of the emotional burden as well in the relationship), this all would have folded a long time ago.

    I would go back and look at the package you present as a nursing school applicant- is there any way you can
    strengthen that? Re-taking pre-requisites for a better grade, improving your essay, better test scores,
    improving interview skills, working as a CNA/tech- whatever it is that the schools want.
    Perhaps a meeting with an admissions counselor is in order.
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    dont leave your husband
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    I don't think nursing is really worth it to be honest.
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    Seriously? Not in a million years.

    To be frank, I can't imagine anyone thinking working as a nurse trumps having one's family to go home to every day.

    Then again, I suppose there are those who don't mind ruining their marriages, getting a divorce, hurting their children. Seems intensely selfish to me....and I'm just not one of them.
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    Quote from litebrightgirl
    Hypothetical question....If you've tried for 3+ to get into nursing school (grades are great but it's so competitive in your area) would you apply for a program out of state? You are married with 3 kids. Hubby's not interested in moving because of his job (no you're not having marital issue). The kids would go with you. You'd be able to move in with family and live rent free. Would you do it???


    Ask yourself are you getting into nursing because you think that it can be a secure job, and is all the "rage"? Are there other positions that you could think about doing other than nursing. Nursing can be very difficult and is going to change in the coming years (not for the better). How long will relatives be able to support you and your family? Times are still very difficult and this can be a burden on your relatives, even though they say it is ok now. I personally would not leave my family to persue this. Trust me it is not worth. It can be very stressful, trying to take care of your family and yourself with all of the problems that go along with staying up late and studying, clinicals etc. What happens when no one can be there for your children but you and not the relatives? Nursing can be very rewarding, but it can also be "hell". If I had a husband and he is supportive and caring I would just try and find another field of study where you can be with your family, and not move. It seems just about everyone I meet is trying to get into nursing because "they heard" of the demand and think "well there will always be sick people so I will have a job always". The only thing that is certain is death and taxes. Have a heart to heart talk with your husband and pray! Best wishes
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    Ask how many men or women were still married to the same person after they finished med school?
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    Quote from RNsRWe
    Seriously? Not in a million years.

    To be frank, I can't imagine anyone thinking working as a nurse trumps having one's family to go home to every day.

    Then again, I suppose there are those who don't mind ruining their marriages, getting a divorce, hurting their children. Seems intensely selfish to me....and I'm just not one of them.
    What a bizarre jump to conclusions and ridiculously harsh way to look at this. There is just as much chance the marriage will be fine and the children will thrive. Good grief. Do you think all military families are ruining their marriages and hurting their children?
    anotherone and FecesOccurs like this.
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    If nursing school was that competitive in my area I would simply choose another program. There are good jobs in other fields as well.
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    Quote from not.done.yet
    What a bizarre jump to conclusions and ridiculously harsh way to look at this. There is just as much chance the marriage will be fine and the children will thrive. Good grief. Do you think all military families are ruining their marriages and hurting their children?
    No "bizarre jump to conclusions" in the least. Or haven't you heard that long-term separation of a husband and wife causes marital rifts more often than not? "Just as much chance the marriage will be fine"? No, THAT would be a jump to a conclusion. Purposefully separating children from their father is supposed to do them GOOD, then, in your opinion? I think the jump to conclusions would be that they'd "thrive" with this separation.

    I wasn't speaking of military families, who are aware of the expectations of family separations in advance of even getting married. Who plan for such separations and do so because of reasons of duty to one's country, etc etc. I was speaking about a singular situation (hypothetical, I believe?) in which a wife and mother might decide to leave her husband behind for three years while taking their children to another State because she really really wants to go to nursing school. Not even in the same ballpark as military duty, IMHO.


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