I used to feel this way when my hubby was in the military. I worked full-time and went to school full-time while juggling everything else without any help from anybody else. I used to joke that I was a single Mom who got consistent child support because that was the ONLY thing different between me and the single Mom friends that I knew! When he got out of the military, I insisted that he be of more help. At first I did not get much help because he was not used to doing anything other than working outside of the home. And so I stopped complaining. Rather, I just stopped doing stuff around the house.
I continued to take care of the kids without neglecting them, but I stopped doing everything else... cooking, cleaning, bill paying, etc. Anyway, my form of protest actually got his attention and he jumped in and took on many of the household chores etc. like he attacked doing a job outside of the home. We became partners in childrearing and taking care of our home. In fact, due to the amount of help I receive, I am able to work a full-time and a part-time job. By the way, I got the idea from a Mom a long time ago who went on strike.
She moved into the tree house of her kid's in the backyard and refused to come down until she got more help around the house. At the time I thought she was silly because I was not a Mom or Wife. However, I paid attention to the story. The result of that story is that her strike worked.
Her husband and teenage kids agreed to help because while she was in the tree house, they had no choice but to do the household chores. The husband/father broke up household duties for the kids and made sure that they carried them out (unlike in the past where he was not involved at all). He too pitched-in and that is how they proved that she had gotten their attention.
I know that there are several of you that cannot go on strike because you are the only caregivers (single moms etc.) of your home who have completely dependent people/elders/babies. However, those of you who have dependent adults and teens by choice (husbands, wives, and/or older children that do not help out due to their attitude and your compliance), perform your own version of a strike. The others in your household will either step up to the plate, or the plate just does not get taken care of....
Remember, you are not the only one responsible for the household. Plus, if you do not take care of yourself, you will not be able to take care of others someday soon. The stress associated with doing-it-all will affect your health; it is just a matter of time.