The Calling: What Made Me Pursue a Nursing Career

The calling: I didn't have one. My reasons for becoming a nurse involved more a desire to better my own circumstances than a desire to better someone else's. The desire to help people, to make a difference in their lives came after I became a nurse. Nurses Announcements Archive Article

"Become a nurse just for the money? How can you possibly be a good nurse if you're doing it just for the money?"

The implication seems to be that in order to be a good nurse, one has to have a "calling". This is the idea put forth mostly be brand new nurses, student nurses, students in pre-nursing and "wannabe" nurses. In some cases, they really seem to believe that they have a calling -- they're called to "help people" or to "make a difference". In other cases, they seem to be grasping for reasons why they should get into nursing school when positions are limited and their grades aren't all that stellar. "It doesn't matter that I got a "C" in Microbiology," one girl wailed. "I'd be a much better nurse than TIFFANI, and SHE got in. It's just because of her grades! I have FAR more compassion that HER."

The idea of nursing requiring a calling is one that just doesn't seem to go away. For every person who got through school, became a nurse and realized that there is much more to the job than having a calling, the woodwork seems to sprout a few more who subscribe to the same belief system. It's argued about continuously on allnurses.com. If you don't have a "calling," then you have no business taking up a position in nursing school that could go to me . . . I have a calling, you see, and I'd be a much better/kinder/more compassionate nurse than someone who is just in it for the money.

Most of us go into it because we think we can contribute in some way, but also for the money. I don't know very many independently wealthy individuals who still go to work in the hospital every day. I do know a few -- my friend Bob, for example. Bob became a millionaire flipping houses, and continues to work as a nurse because he loves it. But he's the exception rather than the rule, and a pretty rare exception at that.

Nursing is a difficult job. The hours are long, the work is dirty and the people you encounter aren't always the cream of society. If you go into it because of a calling, you may not last. Of course, if you go into it just for the money, you may not last, either.

I went into nursing because I didn't want to hunt for a job. Ever.

It was 1974, and I was looking for a summer job. The local newspaper had a whole section for employment ads -- most of them for registered nurses. I was a biology major, just finishing my first year of college, and I thought I might be a journalist. Or a biologist. My advisor had high hopes of me going to medical school -- a goal that seemed so far out of reach as to be utterly unobtainable. He thought I was smart enough, that my grades were good enough, and that if I applied, the money would come. Not that much money. Nothing in my background had ever prepared me for the possibility of aiming so high. Just going to college was the most that anyone in my family had ever attained. Medical school seemed impossible. But I enjoyed science, especially my biology class.

And there was that summer job I needed. With the school year drawing to a close, I was desperate to find a way to stay in town -- or near to it anyway -- rather than going home for the summer. I'd moved out of my parents' home the day after my high school graduation because I was tired of the beatings, the verbal abuse and the scapegoating. I went to a college on the other side of the state -- the furthest away I could get from my parents and still have some hope of being able to pay the tuition. I wasn't going to count on my parents to help out -- experience had already taught me that I couldn't count on them.

I found a room to rent in the home of an elderly couple. A bedroom with an old-fashioned four poster bed and antique dresser. I'd share a bathroom with the Johnsons and one other tenant, and I'd have "kitchen privileges."

It was $10 a week. I didn't have much stuff -- everything I owned had fit into the back of my parents' station wagon for transport to college, and I certainly didn't have enough money during the school year to add to my meager stash of possessions -- except, of course, for school books. So I didn't need much room. And $10 a week was pretty affordable. Now all I needed was a job. My work/study jobs ended with the school year.

Pages and pages of ads for nurses, a job for which I was completely unqualified. Hardly any ads for anything for which I could by any stretch of the imagination be considered qualified.

One of those few ads was for "Salad Girl" in a local supper club. The owner of the supper club was a hearty, overweight and quite social fifty year old man who seemed to me, a year short of twenty, to be ancient. He had an enormous diamond pinky ring and a diamond tie tack, and his dark hair was greased straight back. I know what I'd think if I met him for the first time today. At that time, I didn't think much except to wonder if he'd give me the job. He did.

I had applied for every dishwashing, waitressing, short order cooking or hostessing job that was advertised in the newspaper, and by the time I got to applying at the Supper Club, I was desperate for a job. It probably showed.

The interview focused on my qualifications -- not that I had many -- and my salary expectations. I didn't have much in the way of expectations, either. I hoped to make minimum wage. And minimum wage is what I was offered after a lengthy and anxiety-laden interview during which I was POSITIVE I wasn't going to get a job and would have no where to go except back to my parents home.

When they offered me a part time position, I grabbed it. It would be enough to cover the $10 a week for my room and another $10 or so for groceries, laundry, etc. It wasn't going to be enough to save much for school the next year, but I had my school loans. I would get by. I would HAVE to get by because the alternative -- going home in disgrace to work at the local feed mill and marry a farmer -- was too horrible to contemplate. Besides -- I'd gotten used to plumbing and electricity while I was living in the dormitory, and my parents didn't have those conveniences in their farmhouse.

Armed with a part time job and a place to say, I was ready for the summer. But the job seeking ordeal had left its mark on me. All summer long, as I looked for a second job so I'd make enough money to save something for the school year, I confronted those want ads for nurses. And all summer long, I thought about what it would be like to have job skills that were so much in demand I could just walk in and tell them which job I wanted. (It really was more or less that way for the first three decades of my nursing career.) Nursing looked like a pretty good deal. And so I investigated.

Nurses were much in demand, it seemed. So much so that the federal government was offering free money to go to school to be a nurse. Not loans -- I had plenty of loans. But Basic Education Opportunity Grants, or BEOG. The grants didn't have to be paid back. And all I had to do to qualify was declare a nursing major. Back to the advisor I went, asking him about nursing.

If the state university that was the farthest away from my parents' home while still being in-state hadn't had a nursing program, things may have turned out very differently for me. I didn't choose my school based on the nursing program -- it was just there. As luck would have it, it was a pretty good program.

The pre-requisites for the nursing program included biology -- and I'd taken two bio classes already, psychology, which I'd also taken as a 101 class and Microbiology. I hadn't taken that one, but I had the pre-requisite 101 biology classes. They were also looking for good grades. I had those as well. Great grades, as a matter of fact.

My advisor was still bent on me going to medical school, but allowed as how I'd have to major in SOMETHING to get a degree so that I could even apply to medical school. Nursing would be as good as anything. A lot of classes I would have to take for nursing would be good prep for medical school. Reluctantly, he signed off on my change of major and referred me to a new advisor in The School of Nursing.

She was a white haired "older lady" who must have been about the age that I am now -- late fifties. Her name was Margaret. I don't remember her last name, but then I was never encouraged to call her by it. On like my previous advisor, who was always "Dr. Jones", Margaret insisted that I call her Margaret from the first time I met her.

On one of our first meetings, Margaret asked me why I wanted to become a nurse. Since I knew that my REAL reason -- not wanting to ever have to hunt for a job again -- wasn't likely to go over very well, I had prepared and answer about how I wanted to help people, to make a difference in people's lives.

Margaret had probably heard it all before, and likely didn't actually believe that any more than I did. She did me the courtesy, however, of NOT laughing at me. She just shook her head, and handed me a list of classes I'd have to take and hoops through which I'd need to jump before I could be admitted to the School of nursing and start the clinical aspect of a nursing major.

Even then, I don't think I was resigned to actually being a nurse. Declaring a nursing major got me free money, which enabled me to stay in school, since I hadn't actually saved much money over the summer. There was the idea of never having to actually hunt for a job again. And my parents were surprisingly approving -- probably for the first time in my life.

My mother had always wanted to be a nurse, and had even tried to get into LPN school. She couldn't pass the entrance exams after two tries. If I could get into nursing school, she'd be proud. "Besides," she told me. "It's an easy job. All you have to do is sit in the nurse's station and drink coffee and tell the aides what to do." It's an indication of how clueless I was that I actually believed that.

By the time I graduated, three years later after taking a semester off to make more money for school, I was determined to be a nurse. That semester off had been brutal -- I'd worked three jobs starting at 5 AM cleaning hotel rooms and finishing at 2AM closing a bar. Some days I'd have a day off from one or two of the jobs and would get to sleep. Having one job with benefits and $6/hour seemed like real wealth! And after being a maid, waitress, bartender and cook, nursing seemed like an easy job.

It wasn't until after I started working as a nurse that the reality of actually helping people struck me. After I made it through that first difficult year, I realized that I was making a difference in people's lives, and I liked the feeling. But that isn't why I became a nurse. I became a nurse for the money, and although I love what I've done for the past 35 years, I wouldn't do it for free -- although it is nice to know that if civilization collapsed and money was useless, I have skills with which to barter.

Thanks for that. It was the one sounding familiar (other than being a teacher)I was most assured of getting and so, it was the only one I applied for. No inner or outer calling I can think of. Good thing is, once you are a nurse, there is a desire to help.

Specializes in Corrections, neurology, dialysis.

It makes me happy to see that people's attitudes are changing about "the calling". I was shamed and bullied out of admitting that I was going into for money and job security. When I told people I was going into dialysis, they would sneer and snort as if my choice was beneath them. Now as I push the dialysis machine down the hall and run into my former classmates, at least once a day someone will ask me "how do I get into dialysis?". Yeah, getting into nursing to "help people" will put you on the fast track to burnout.

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
It makes me happy to see that people's attitudes are changing about "the calling". I was shamed and bullied out of admitting that I was going into for money and job security. When I told people I was going into dialysis, they would sneer and snort as if my choice was beneath them. Now as I push the dialysis machine down the hall and run into my former classmates, at least once a day someone will ask me "how do I get into dialysis?". Yeah, getting into nursing to "help people" will put you on the fast track to burnout.

I don't think the majority of nurses EVER subscribed to "the calling" theory. It was just a very vocal minority, and most of them in the new nurse, student nurse, pre-nursing student and wannabe groups. As you've become a nurse with some experience you're having less reason to cross paths with those groups and more reason to identify with us mean old biter nurses.

I don't think the majority of nurses EVER subscribed to "the calling" theory. It was just a very vocal minority, and most of them in the new nurse, student nurse, pre-nursing student and wannabe groups. As you've become a nurse with some experience you're having less reason to cross paths with those groups and more reason to identify with us mean old biter nurses.
I totally agree with this. But even now you won't see many nurses admit to money being the reason they got into nursing without qualifying that admission by saying "but that's NOT the only reason." Dealing with the stigma attached and the resulting flack from such an admission seems to be too much for most to handle.

After not doing so well in high school (save for my bio, chem, spanish, and music classes), I entered college not knowing what to do w/ my life. I chose bio originally, ended up taking O chem and got an A and A+ in the 2 courses. After that, I thought I could take on the world, so I decided to pursue med school. Thinking it over for years, realizing the lifestyle didn't match up w/ my desires, I took my biochemistry/molecular bio degree and got a lab job. Thinking about escaping, I looked at dental school; I quickly realized I have no desire to look in people's mouths all day, and it was much less of an interpersonal job than I was looking for. Never had I even thought of nursing until my ex-gf brought it up. After analyzing the pros and cons, I realized it can be a very satisfying and rewarding job that will get the bills paid and allow (hopefully) a more family-oriented schedule.

Specializes in Med/Surg.

Absolutely LOVED this article! Thank you for sharing it.

This kind of reminds me of a conversation I was having with my wife a few weeks ago. We were having the "If every job paid the same, what would you want to do?" discussion. At first I said I would still want to be in nursing school. She looked at me and said, "No you wouldn't. Be honest." So I thought about it for a few seconds and I said, "You're right. I'd want to work with animals."

When I graduated high school in 2006, my dream was to become a vet. A year later, with a spotty community college record, I realized I didn't want to go to school for 10+ years, so I thought about becoming a vet tech. I didn't even finish one semester of the program before I realized that the credits wouldn't transfer if I wanted to do something else, which given the salary averages, was something to consider.

So, there I was, working as an assistant manager at a local pizza place, a job I had held since my senior year of high school, when one of the managers who had just finished up the nursing program stopped by to tell us about her job offer and salary. My mind was made up right there, in that moment. She had worked her butt off while in the nursing program and at the end got a really great paying job before she had even graduated. That was when I realized nursing just made sense. It would give me enough money to support my future family, but it would allow me to finish school more quickly, so I could actually START making that family sooner!

Now that my partner and I had that conversation (and now that I've read this post) I don't think I would answer the question "Why did you get into nursing" the same as when they asked our class that.

I would know how to respond: I picked nursing for the money and job security, and I also picked it because it was the hardest thing I could do in the shortest amount of time and it's full of variety.

As for my passion for animals, I'll just shower affection on our Chow-Chow. : )

Thank you for this article. I appreciate your honesty. For once, one person saying they didn't have a calling. I was pushed into nursing in my senior year of high school. My mom was going through a divorce, and she was looking to join a nursing program because of the so-called stability that nursing offered. She didn't apply, but she pushed me to apply instead. Her rationale was even in a bad economy, nurses would always have job. More or less, she was correct. I am fortunate that I was able to get a job within four months of graduating. That can't be said about people that graduated with, say, a biology major. I remember during classes with other pre-nursing students, I would feel bad when I was asked to give my reason for joining nursing school. Because for me, it really is all about the money. Not to say that I am a hardhearted you-know-what. In nursing school, it dawned on me that while I don't make a difference in all my patients, I do make a difference at least 10% of them. That's the percentage of patients I ended up connecting with. The other 90%, not so much. One thing I've learned to nursing school is to not take things personally. If a patient is being mean to me, I just let it go. There are many patients that don't want help. They want to wallow in their own miserable circumstances, and they take their anger out on the nurses. And that's okay. I've learnt that sometimes the only thing I can do is cross my T's and dot my I's, and leave. It's a little complicated dealing with coworkers, especially those that could be trouble down the road. That's the worst part of nursing. You can't really trust anyone.Another thing I've learned from nursing, is that if I'm going to take all this crap, the ungrateful patients and coworkers I can't trust, at least I should get paid well for it. And that's why I want to become a PA eventually. I had a bad experience with the preceptor, and her manager. How can I trust anyone again? I managed to find a job in another state, and this will definitely help me get into PA school as I would need experience. I also have a few more classes I need to complete but one thing is for sure. I'm getting out of nursing. Forgive me if this comes out as a block of text. It's very difficult to format paragraphs on an iPad.

I chose nursing to help people. Why should it matter that the particular people I'm most interested in helping is my family. Family is much more important to me than strangers in a hospital, and if I can have a job that offers them financial stability, that's what I will do!

Specializes in ER, progressive care.

Great article, thank you for sharing! :nurse:

I wouldn't say I had a "calling" for nursing. When I was little, I dreamed of becoming a veterinarian. Even as I grew older I still had that passion. I LOVE animals. It wasn't until my senior year of high school when I started thinking of other options. I thought becoming a veterinarian was kind of unrealistic. I didn't want to be in school for forever and I know vet school is very difficult...so I pushed that dream aside. I knew I wanted to do something in the medical field, but I wasn't sure what. I thought about med school but also pushed that dream aside for the same reasons. I started researching other healthcare-related jobs. My mother suggested nursing, and I admit, at first I looked at her in disgust...but that was because I didn't quite fully understand what nurses do. I did more research, looked into shadowing opportunities and then I fell in love with the profession.

My father was also very sick during this time - diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer. He had a stroke and it just went downhill from there. I admired some of the nurses that worked with him - and others, not so much. I wanted to do what they were doing - care for people, help people. I know that's a cliche way of saying it and everyone has heard of it before, but it's the truth! I wanted to deliver the same care to others that these nurses were giving to my father and that same time, NOT be like some of the crappy nurses he had, too. I didn't want to put anyone through that.

I will admit, the money is pretty nice, too. I have a unique skill set that would be needed anywhere I go - and being a military wife, I chose a good field to go into! I also love the flexibility - there is so much you can do in this field, unlike other professions. :)

Thanks for sharing this. It's very heartwarming.

thank you for this article & all the comments! I have never had "the calling" for nursing; it is something I stumbled upon after I graduated from college with my first degree. the whole "nursing is a CALLING" thing really makes me feel doubtful sometimes, so I'm very​ glad to hear that there are people who got into nursing for other reasons! thank you for this uplifting thread!

true. im not sure if nursing really is a calling since most nurses saw this career that has more opportunities and advancements. they are more on the goals rather than the call