Too smart for my own good... :-/

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Hey to the members of "allnurses", this is my first topic/post. I come to this forum as a place to vent, confide, and connect with other nurses, so hopefuly I have come to the right place.

Cutting to the chase, I was brought into my director's office today for a 90 day evaluation of my new position as an ER nurse coming from a nursing home in the same facility. As all evaluations go, your strengths and weaknesses are reviewed. It basically went well, but something that was said to me in so many words perplexed me and actually concerned me. My major weakness is basically that I am too smart for my own good, my directors words! Now, in context, this was not referring to being cocky or over-confident. This was referring to other nurses complaining about me "not listening". Meaning that when they would want to teach me something(being the new guy) I would already know what they are going to say in most, not all by any means, but most situations. I was told that I need to act like I know nothing and "just go with it". I have been told by a few nurses that I work with that I "think too much" and that I need to put what I learned in school in the back of my mind and start learning now, and to "slow down", can you believe that? Slow down in an ER? I have actually been told by a nurse in my department that I am too smart to be a nurse. Huh??

What the heck is going on here. I am very frustrated right now. I don't know if working in a rural southern town has anything to do with my situation, but I feel that my knowledge and capability is not being utilized because its stepping on some other's egos. I know that there are ways to be diplomatic and tactful, after all I am the low man on the totem pole, I just don't know. It is just hard for me to believe that in a field where our knowledge base is paramount to safe practice is looked down upon in any way.

Specializes in Medical Oncology, Alzheimer/dementia.

AndrewSRN,

There's nothing wrong with you having a thirst for knowledge. You can learn something new everyday until the day you die. So what if you want to know about gtt? I look up useless info/fun facts all the time, lol. Maybe look it up on your own time, though. It's good that you are your own person. But if you think you are coming across as a know it all, and that's not the way you want to be perceived, you should tone it down some. You don't need the drama that's bound to come if feathers get ruffled.

Specializes in Infusion Nursing, Home Health Infusion.

I can easily understand what is happening to you in this situation. I too have had to deal with my passion to keep on learning and share what I know in a productive and often fun way. The manager apparently has received feedback about you and is trying to tell you something. In my opinion how she tried to get this across to you is weird. Are you supposed to act less intelligent so someone else can feel better or good....NO....but you can conduct yourself in a way and practice in such a way that makes you a valuable member of the team you are now a part of while using your brain.

:cool: The nurses there do want to teach you so be gracious when they tell you things....Thank them....ask questions and seek out any other sources you need to further your knowledge. Remember they all have something to offer you!

:cool: Share what you know in a collegial manner ..never in a know it all way and always in a way that has the goal of providing the best patient care. They will know soon enough if you are smart and willing to share in a productive way

:cool: Offer to help your coworkers and they will learn to rely on you....get to know them and enjoy their personalities

:cool: it is OK to be smart/intelligent but it is a gift and must be used wisely

:cool: Slow down and listen to the nurses willing to teach and share so they do not get frustrated and give up on you. Do this even if you think you know what they are going to say. Some day what one of them has to say may save you but you have taught them it is not worth the trouble..so STOP that bad habit now!

Do not ask me how I had to learn this myself.
Aw! Come on GrnTea! Tell us a story!

I also hate to say it, but it might because you're a man, the other nurses think you are trying to show them up by trying to appear smarter than them. They shouldn't shame you though.

A good answer to that is "I like knowing random trivia in case I ever end up on Who Wants to be a Millionaire?"

And also, if someone tries to show you something, you can just say politely, "I've done it before but if you would like to help that would be great."

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

It's a people skill -- an aspect of emotional intelligence -- to navigate the politics of being the new member of a team. You need to show them that you (a) are not a "know it all" and (b) that you will listen to their advice (based on years of experience that you don't have) and © that you can fit in and be a member of the team.

Men's groups have similar processes, don't they? Don't you have to "go along with the guys" to fit into a sports team ... or a milatary unit ... fraternity ... etc.? Aren't there rituals of "male bonding?"

What you are experiencing now is a similar situation. You need to "fit in" first ... and then once they get to know you and feel comfortable with you, you will be able to exhibit more individuality. Don't make a big deal of it and just focus on blending in and showing a little respect for their experience. It will soon pass if you handle it well.

Specializes in ICU, Geriatrics, Float Pool.

Sometimes you have to let your preceptor take the lead even if you know whatever it is they're doing already. Because the person teaching you has more experience and you are trying to gain the knowledge they have. Being humble is an essential part of being a nurse. It's a form of respect. Plus, being book smart and "work smart" are massively different. Yes you may know all the patho but do you know what to do when things hit the fan and your patients all starting needing pain meds while one is about to code and another needs to go down for a test? This is why we humble ourselves and learn from those who've done it thousands of times before.

Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

[and to "slow down", can you believe that? Slow down in an ER?]

[but not in my ER. I am in a 9 bed unit. Some days we don't see a pt until after 12pm starting at 7am.]

Both quotes from the OP.

Which is it? You can't have it both ways.

Too much knowledge/ intelligence is dangerous, therefore you must use it wisely!As what they say, you need to be humble, even if you know a lot! In work, it's not only the knowledge and skills which are important..you must also posses the right attitude so that you can go along well with your peers.!

Specializes in FNP, ONP.
[and to "slow down", can you believe that? Slow down in an ER?]

[but not in my ER. I am in a 9 bed unit. Some days we don't see a pt until after 12pm starting at 7am.]

Both quotes from the OP.

Which is it? You can't have it both ways.

This comment is unfair. I understand what he is saying perfectly.

Specializes in FNP, ONP.

OP, I feel I have gleaned enough about what is happening here. My advice is to quiet down. You can look up all the arcane facts you like, but it isn't necessary to share with you coworkers what you are researching. Keep it to yourself. If they ask, say "oh, nothing." Or, "Oh, something I was confused about," and change the subject. Don't rub their faces in the fact that you apparently have a greater intellectual curiosity than they. They aren't going to thank you for it. I disagree with the tidbit of advice about sharing trivia as if you were collecting it in case you were going to be on a game show. Just learn it and keep it to yourself. There is no reason to let them know you know something/anything unless they ask, and then answer only the question that is asked. Do not volunteer additional information/data. It will not win you respect or friendships, I assure you. No one likes a genius, remember that. They are always outcasts, and right now you need to fit in. I agree with the advice regarding listening to their instructions as well, even about things you already know. You will likely be surprised about what you learn anyway, and other things will be reinforced. You do need to fit in and get along, and you won't if you keep behaving like a precocious nerd, lol. Believe me, I know a thing or two about being the smartest person in the room. It isn't easy. Good luck.

That was his point, it is already slow, how much slower ya wanna get???

[and to "slow down", can you believe that? Slow down in an ER?]

[but not in my ER. I am in a 9 bed unit. Some days we don't see a pt until after 12pm starting at 7am.]

Both quotes from the OP.

Which is it? You can't have it both ways.

there are a lot of unhinged personalities. if someone teaches you something you already know either say , "ok ! thanks" for now.......... dont share too much with coworkers..... it is a very cut throat jon. although , unlike business or waitressing you are not competing for anything, many nurses love to one up each other, show off, assert their "vast" knowlede etc.... it is very humerous to me. sometimes a new grad is very annoying as a know it all that knows nothing!!!! other times older ( hears of experience , not age) nurses may get scared, realizing how replaceable we all are

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