Things you'd LOVE to be able to tell patients, and get away with it. - page 55

:spin:Just curious as to what you would say. Mine goes something like this: Hi, my name is AngelfireRN, I'll be your nurse tonight. I am not a waitress, nor am I your slave. Yelling... Read More

  1. by   SassyJennRN
    Quote from Amybeth56
    Wow, is this the things you say under your breath when you walk out of a patients room? Well is just like to say if it was your child or family member you would not be saying those nasty things, well maybe you would. I hope you are not at any of the hospitals i would take my family to. What happened to compassion? If you loose that being a nurse then maybe ive choosen the wrong field.
    Um I think you are missing the point of a vent thread entirely. We get to say them here but never would in real life. Just as I hope you would never treat the nursing staff the way that the people we are venting about do. I love my job. I love taking care of people and I worked my azz off in order to be able to be a nurse and take care of people. Even with that love for people and taking care of people I am still human and it effects me when I am disrespected and treated like crap. Maybe you don't know what we are referring to because you would never dare treat people the way that some of our patients/family members treat us ROUTINELY but rest assured it happens--DAILY. We are not only nurses but also humans and I guarantee you that most of us have either been patients ourselves or have had someone in our family be a patient. We are not without compassion and empathy. You wouldn't make it a day without either of those traits.
  2. by   WoofyMutt80
    Heres a good one! When I was a CNA/HHA I did homemaking for this elderly couple and the whole damn family had OCD! And one of the daughters who is also a HHA and was there on her day off would boss me around! I so wanted to tell her to do it herself!
  3. by   WoofyMutt80
    How about the ones on oxygen who complain they cannot breathe, and they take off their oxygen to go smoke a half a pack of cigarettes!
  4. by   queenjean
    Amybeth, I would like to point you to this:

    Quote from Angie O'Plasty, RN
    A gentle reminder:

    Folks, please try to be polite to one another and please, please, please stay on topic. This is a vent thread.

    In a vent thread, criticism of the post and side comments to the poster are considered inappropriate and off-topic.

    Further off-topic posts may be removed at the discretion of the mods.

    Angie O'Plasty, RN
    Moderator
    A vent thread is to commiserate with fellow nursing professionals about our common difficulties at work and to blow off steam so that we don't go crazy and actually SAY this things to our patients. I find it insulting that people come onto this (or any vent) thread and think
    a) we just say these things anywhere other than here
    b) it's never occurred to those of us who do this job well day in and day out that our pts are someone's child/mother/loved one (Really, these people are loved? They are people just like my loved ones? Wow, what an epiphany!?!! THANK YOU for opening my eyes!)
    c) that nurses must be these glorious creatures who are never annoyed by their pts
    d) that blowing off steam here means that on the job we are terrible, uncompassionate nurses.
    e) that you aren't interacting with some of the best nurses in the industry.

    I didn't realize there were so many beatific, saintly people in the world, who are never ruffled or annoyed or frustrated. I am not one of those people! I do a fant-frikin-tastic job, and your loved one would be lucky to have me as a nurse; I suspect that is the case for any nurse you find on a vent thread. Venting your frustrations is HEALTHY. It's a coping mechanism. When you are a nurse, you deal with some amazingly troubling situations.

    I see by your profile that you are a pre-nursing student. Maybe you should walk the walk before you scold the talk. Nothing leaves a nastier taste in my mouth than someone who has no idea of what I go through day in and day out at work telling me what a professional, good nurse would do.
  5. by   shrinky
    When I was a young Navy nurse I actually did speak up to a patient though I had always been shy and sensitive. The doctor had called me after seeing her and told me to encourage her to ambulate, so when she received a call from a gentleman friend(not her husband) I encouraged her to take the phnoe call at the pay phone as all ambulatory patients did. She was very angry and reminded me that her husband was in the service for so many years and was entitled to this and that. She was not appeased when I told her that the doctor wants her to ambulate and told me to kiss her a__. I informed her that she was now ambulatory and therefore could do it herself. My supervisor was cool and thought it was funny and told me to just avoid the patient as she was p_____ off. I have not been that forthright since, or maybe I have.
  6. by   Chixie
    I have had one of those shifts today and i just wanted to scream.

    You may think its funny when your father pulls poop out of his bottom and smears it, throws and generally cakes himself in it but i can guarentee that you wont be laughing if you had to clean him up 5 or 6 times in a shift and he fights you all the time (it took 3 of us to clean him up each time, full shower,wash the bed,etc)

    Im sorry that i didnt get you your meds at 6pm on the dot but it is only 6:28 but there are 20 other patients and i have to wait for a mentor to be with me before passing meds

    Do not pinch,scratch,bite,slap,poke,punch or generally be mean to me but be an angel when your relatives are here.-I so want to tell these patients that if they touch me again then they will be going without treatment as i dont see why i should put up with it.
  7. by   talaxandra
    Quote from Amybeth56
    Wow, is this the things you say under your breath when you walk out of a patients room? Well is just like to say if it was your child or family member you would not be saying those nasty things, well maybe you would. I hope you are not at any of the hospitals i would take my family to. What happened to compassion? If you loose that being a nurse then maybe ive choosen the wrong field.
    Better under our breaths or on a board like this (or in the tea room) than to the patient/relative.
    If it was my family member (including my child), I wouldn't be caring for them in a professional capacity and therefore wouldn't have to balance their petty requests against the legitimate needs of my other patients.
    Complaining about gripes is not a reflection of the quality of skill and care nurses have - now's probably a good time to learn that. It's also not a reflection of a nurses' compassion.
    In any case, you don't have to bleed for your patients to take care of them.
    We did have this discussion only a few pages ago - vent boards are for venting. If reading vents distresses you, don't read threads labelled "vent."
  8. by   eriksoln
    Quote from talaxandra
    Better under our breaths or on a board like this (or in the tea room) than to the patient/relative.
    If it was my family member (including my child), I wouldn't be caring for them in a professional capacity and therefore wouldn't have to balance their petty requests against the legitimate needs of my other patients.
    Complaining about gripes is not a reflection of the quality of skill and care nurses have - now's probably a good time to learn that. It's also not a reflection of a nurses' compassion.
    In any case, you don't have to bleed for your patients to take care of them.
    We did have this discussion only a few pages ago - vent boards are for venting. If reading vents distresses you, don't read threads labelled "vent."
    Yeah, the whole "If that was your child/parent/loved one you'd think differently" or "treat them as though they were your own loved one" stuff never held much weight with me. Most facilities dont let you care for relatives for just this reason, you'll get so absorbed in their care your other pt's care will suffer.

    Its a simple matter of prioritization. Prioritization, especially with the outrageous ratios we are expected to work with these days, is essential to nursing on every level. You have to know enough to know not to spend two hours getting tissue for one pt., then ignore the pt. who cant breathe. BTW, I have known nurses who dont know better than this.

    So, if I were in a situation where I were taking care of a relative, I would hope I would not over prioritize their "personal" needs (TV turned off and on for them, two water pitchers kept full at all times, dialing the phone for them) over the "medical" needs of other pts.

    I find it funny how hospital administration will get on their high horse and tell you "treat everyone as if they were your own loved one", but then they have a rule against taking care of loved ones.
  9. by   nrsang97
    Quote from south102001
    No I will not take you to smoke a cigarette.

    I would be rich if I had a dime for every time I have said that.
  10. by   wisedonkey
    Quote from Amybeth56
    Wow, is this the things you say under your breath when you walk out of a patients room? Well is just like to say if it was your child or family member you would not be saying those nasty things, well maybe you would. I hope you are not at any of the hospitals i would take my family to. What happened to compassion? If you loose that being a nurse then maybe ive choosen the wrong field.
    To Amybeth56...This is a place for us to vent our frustrations. Please don't be so judgemental. It is condesending and annoying. If you do not like to read these comments, go somewhere else where all the Florence Nightinggale's reside. As the moderator stated... and I am paraphrasing..."This is a place to vent and to laugh, and all insults will be removed". So please take your high-handed manner somewhere else!!!fftopic:
    Last edit by wisedonkey on Jan 30, '09 : Reason: spelling
  11. by   WalkieTalkie
    Quote from south102001
    No I will not take you to smoke a cigarette.
    Yeah, when I worked in the ER I actually said this all the time, whether or not the patient was allowed to. I don't smoke, and I don't want to be exposed to your secondhand smoke, so you can wait until one of the "smokers" goes out.
  12. by   Fuzzy
    Quote from Amybeth56
    Wow, is this the things you say under your breath when you walk out of a patients room? Well is just like to say if it was your child or family member you would not be saying those nasty things, well maybe you would. I hope you are not at any of the hospitals i would take my family to. What happened to compassion? If you loose that being a nurse then maybe ive choosen the wrong field.
    My Dear this is a venting thread. You sound like a student. I was one once too. As a student, you see everything as being perfect and nice until you get out there and learn that it isn't so. Venting threads are not meant to be vindictive, hateful or mean. They are a way to let off steam. Names are not being mentioned nor places just events that could happen in just about any hospital, nursing home, veterinary office, or anywhere else where patients are cared for in some way. Some of these thing s quite humorous some are not so, but in essence venting is a healthy way to relieve some of the stress of dealing with these situations. Once you are not a student and you are working in the real world, you might even want to vent a little bit too.

    Fuzzy, who if she didn't vent would explode and that's a lot of Fuzzy everywhere.
  13. by   pageygirl
    No I dont know what time the Dr is going to come if I had a nickle for every time someone asked me that I would be rich.

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